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Old 12-20-2008, 09:13 PM
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This has been one hell of a year. We lost grandpa (uncle to me) in April and I have been going back and forth across provinces till my aunt 9whom I called mom) passed late October. I have not been able to get the sewing machine going..is it cause she taught ne to sew? I have quite a few projects to do but can't seem to get going. I did make all the Christmas gifts as usual but can't seem to decorate. I go to church but end up crying half way through. Any advice on how to get going again?
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Old 12-20-2008, 10:47 PM
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take this time to rest and to heal. let your memories of grandpa and mom wash over you to bring comfort and inspiration for future projects. go through your fabrics, patterns, favorite websites. "quilt" with paper and color pencils.

when the time is right to sit down again at the machine, you'll know. and mom will be with you in your heart as you take that first stitch - and every stitch you sew from that moment on.

they are at peace, and will want the same for you.

big, fat, squeezy, hugs
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Old 12-21-2008, 12:36 AM
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My words of advice, are the same as Patrice's. Take care of you now & soon the time will be right. Take care friend.

Thinking of you,

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Old 12-21-2008, 02:37 AM
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I'm sorry for your loss. The good memories will come in time and give you inspiration. Take time to grieve, it's a necessary thing. Bless you.
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Old 12-21-2008, 02:38 AM
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I'll be praying for you and take time to heal. Someday you will be able to quilt again. I still have my mom but my dad has been gone for a lot of years. I still tear up sometimes when I think about him. Tears are an OK thing. Here comes a hug.
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Old 12-21-2008, 03:14 AM
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I too agree with Patrice....I feel my friend everytime I sit and sew....pick out colors....she always disagrees with me....:-)......that's how I know it's her.

I will be looking forward to seeing your next project on here.....hugs and prayers are with you!!
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Old 12-21-2008, 03:57 AM
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take time to heal, and each person's time is exactly right for them.

this is the first year since my brother died in '05 that I've done any decorating, not to the scale I used to do, but it's more than begrudgingly putting up a tree at the request of others.

I still feel his loss, it grabs you at moments when you least expect it, but I know what I must do to shake the possibility of a foul mood. I honor him with positive memories and try to keep the tears at bay.

Take time for yourself and some day you will feel like quilting again.

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Old 12-21-2008, 04:06 AM
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I know it is hard to hear the words that time heals all wounds, but take it from my experience, it does help. The loss will always be there, but what I try to do is concentrate on all the goods memories of the people I have lost and even once in awhile I get a smile on my face. We honor our loved ones with our memories and the hope we will be reunited again one day. I can almost see your "mom" wagging her finger at you and it is telling you that she wants you to enjoy your sewing once again. I am sure the winter days aren't helping any either - can you get any special lights? Good luck with what you are going through - you will make it!!!
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Old 12-21-2008, 05:24 AM
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Aww--I'm sorry it's tough now. And, in time, yes, you'll heal. You need more time. No reason to push it--you'll know when it's right to start that which brings you joy. Pamper yourself.

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Old 12-21-2008, 05:56 AM
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You have my deepest sympathy. Everyone has given good advice. It just takes time, you won't forget them but the pain and sorrow will eventually pass. It's especially hard when the loved ones pass during the holidays. Beachlady is right, they have discovered that the length of daylight has a great deal to do with depression. Maybe if you could have more lights on than normal, it would help. If you need to talk, we're here.
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