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Thread: Not my morning

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    So I took some of the advice of some of the wonderful people on here, and no matter how bad I'm feeling right now I decided to do something productive...I have a baby quilt I started a few months back and I really wanna get it finished...so I got up early this morning to work on it..but even though i got up early( before 7 am ) all 4 of my kids were already awake, and fighting and acting up, so I made them breakfast and decided I would do my hair instead since I can't quilt with everyone acting up...that was when I realized that instead of buying shampoo and conditioner, I bought 2 shampoo's...okay ok, a little frustraiting, but maybe I can have hubby return one...So i'm thinking to myself I'm having a hard time lately, and really not myself...and I had already woken up head to toe in pain..for some odd reason... so determined to turn my day around, I decided to paint my nails, immediatly after 3 kids needed something, and there goes my freshly painted nails..and then several more events of this type all occured, there is more screaming and fighting and yet hubby sleeps through it all...what I'm getting at here, the moral of my story is, if there is something you want to do...don't let things deter you...I should have just put all the kids in there room...and done my quilting, then perhaps I wouldn't have had all the frustraitions I've been putting up with all morning lol

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    Or you could send them all outside and tell them they can't come in (for anything) until you say so!! Of course, you might have to chain them to the clothesline.... :roll: :roll:

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    Hang in there! They will get a little older and won't need you as much...

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    When DH and I were married almost 20 years ago, I had 4 kids and he had 3. We each had custody, so we ended up with 7 kids at home! Five of them were in grade school, so you know our house was a mad house!!

    We both worked full time in our store, 12 hrs days, and I did all the running with the kids also.

    Some how we survived, all went on to college and now we have an empty house, just the 2 of us!

    The time will go bye, and they will get older, and you will survive, even though there will be times when you won't think so.

    What you really need is a little time for yourself.
    Sit them down to watch a movie or a show, I know it's not a popular thing to let the TV baby sit, but sometimes you just have to have a little time to yourself!

    I don't know their ages, but you can also break them up in pairs, to play a board game together. 2 is easier to control than 4!

    Just some suggestions, but you need to find a way to have a little time for yourself, you are no good to anyone else if you don't take care of yourself, and there is nothing wrong with being selfish some times.

    When you have had alone time, then you are more able to deal.

    Good luck, and remember, This too shall Pass!!





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    I say....send them in to wake Dad up!

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    I use to get up around 5:30 or 6:00 to have "time for myself". It really helped me out to not have anyone bothering me. Now my kids are grown and come home to visit. My husband is retired and around all of the time. I still get up early each morning to have time for myself. It is a wonderful part of the day.

    Each person is different so you will have to find out what works for you.
    What helped me with raising my kids was to have a schedule. I don't know the age of your kids so your schedule will be determined by their needs if they are really young.

    My schedule was something like....my time from 5:30-7:00;
    breakfast for the kids at 7:30. Have them dressed by 8:30.

    Knowing that my kids were going to be fed by 7:30 helped me to tell them to stay in bed until 7:00 in the morning.

    They had schedules in the evening too...
    dinner at the same time; bath and story at the same time and early to bed when they were young.
    As they got older, they were allowed to stay up later but evening was to be a calm time...not a busy time.

    You do need time for yourself. You just have to make it while making sure that your children's needs are fulfilled at the same time.

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    It sounds like Dad needs to get up---SOON.....

    Mom take the afternoon off and get out of the
    house, leave Dad with the kids.....he can do
    it..

    (And, BTW, pat yourself on the back for even
    thinking about quilting while raising 4 little kids...)

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    I got the best advice when I was pregnant with my first child from a retired nanny. She said the child should never expect to be told twice to do or not do something especially from a parent. The little angels are of course perfect and cute but that does not excuse unruly behavior. If you don't demand respect for you and for the home life the kids will never learn how to show it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tlrnhi
    I say....send them in to wake Dad up!
    LOL, good one!

    Jamie, I just sent you a PM.....

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    Sound like a GREAT time to go outside and take a LONG walk.... maybe to the mall for the day LOL!!! (yeah! more fabric!)
    A friend of my parents used to put her 6 (the oldest was 7) kids outside @ 8 in the morning and not let them back in til lunch time...
    She'd be in jail and the kids in foster care if she did that in this day and age...

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    Hi Jamie - I really feel for you. I have two kids, 10 and 6, and they fight like crazy. It's insane and we can't seem to stop it. It distracts me from so much and puts our whole household in a bad mood. How old are you kids? Sounds like you have your hands full and you might be overwhelmed. It's next to impossible to get "me time" with children. I have found that now that my youngest is 6, I have a little more time to myself. One preschool teacher gave me a good idea, and maybe it will help you and your kids a little. She said that if I could give 15 minutes of solid attention to each child - going down to their level and just immersing into that child and what THEY want to do, it sort of "fills their cup" for attention and can go a long way. It's particularly good to do this when you have been away from them for a while, or to start their day. I know it's very hard to do with everything else going on, but at this point, I think for you anything is worth a try.

    The other great parenting advice I got, that I always try to remember at the difficult moments is this phrase "This Too Shall Pass".

    Take care,

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    Sorry about your morning! I can be frustrating. I finally have my family trained to know that when I close the sewing room door, they are to act as if I am not even home. No phone calls, no visitors, no requests, etc. It's great! If the door is open, they can come in to visit, but not to bring me any kind of problems. Mine are 12 and 9 now, so they get it. They also are learning to appreciate their own private time. We all have to learn to like our company, seeing as we are stuck with ourselves forever!

    Best parenting advice I ever got was from my mother in law. I was having a day like yours, called her to cry, and all she said was:
    "Marie, these are long days, but short years. You will miss them one day."
    I think of that almost every day now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Courtepointe
    Sorry about your morning! I can be frustrating. I finally have my family trained to know that when I close the sewing room door, they are to act as if I am not even home. No phone calls, no visitors, no requests, etc. It's great! If the door is open, they can come in to visit, but not to bring me any kind of problems. Mine are 12 and 9 now, so they get it. They also are learning to appreciate their own private time. We all have to learn to like our company, seeing as we are stuck with ourselves forever!

    Best parenting advice I ever got was from my mother in law. I was having a day like yours, called her to cry, and all she said was:
    "Marie, these are long days, but short years. You will miss them one day."
    I think of that almost every day now.
    What a great saying your MIL had and very true!!

    Ninnie

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    When mine were that young I would split them up, 2 in 2 different rooms, I would play/give them some attention and then switch them around in pairs to play and then together for a while.
    This is a trick I used when ANY young kids have been in my care...if they bicker they sit facing each other on the floor with their legs crossed and hands on their knees, I tell them you will do this until you can be friendly with each other, and they have to lean in noses or foreheads touching. Yes they do fuss for a while, but when they see each other's crossed eyes, they usually start giggling after a couple of minutes and I ask "friends again?" and they are up on their happy way. If it takes me 10 minutes of sitting and calmly supervising them, ok. After a few times they realize I mean business and just the threat of saying "knees to knees, toes toes" would settle some of bickering right down.

    No matter which way you choose to go, it will take you being calm and consistent to get them to behave or change behaviors. They pick up on your emotions, you are stressed...they will crank it up too....Ya gotta try and fool them into thinking you are calm cool and collected...then go into another room and scream into a pillow :wink: :wink: :wink:

    Maybe you and your husband can pick a couple days a week for 30-60 minutes of me time...I know he is busy, but I would tell him it is better to give me some time in increments now, then you having them full time and working and school while I am in the looney bin....cause that's where I am heading now :shock: :wink: :wink:

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    LOL we live in a townhouse development, all we have is a small yard then a BIG parking lot...I don't let my kids wonder....:)

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    You guys are great!!! Really honestly wonderful people...I've never recieved much kindess in my life, I've always been the one to give it...I think you are all the Best!!!!!! Great big Hugs and thank you's to each one of you.

    I still have gotten no quilting done...but I did play outside with the kids for a couple of hours, and got some sun...since this is the first day in forever there has been some! :)

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    Hang in there Jamie, the time will pass all to quickly. Then you will yearn for their company. :lol:

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    Dog Kennels.

    Works for me.

    tim in san jose

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    I think Mommy is entitled to some "me time" and the kids and DH have to accept that. Next time, claim it! They will adjust.

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    Ah those days.

    Our children are all grown up with children of their own.

    I live on the east coast my daughter and her family live on the west coast.

    My oldest son and his family live 100 miles south of me.

    My youngest son and his family live 30 miles east of me.

    I long for those days. I loved every minute of it.

    I know it's frustrating now, but enjoy every minute of it. Before you know it, they'll be gone.

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    I never said I didn't enjoy it...I constantly hear from hubby how he doesn't know how I can handel it, how I cope with it all the time...I tell him quite simply...they are mine, and I love them! It doesn't mean mommy doesn't get frustraited and yells some times...but they are children..and this is the way they are ment to be...of course i wouldn't complain if maybe they could just Listen a little better lol

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    LOL

    That is so true!!!


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    I had to implement "I am not your mother/wife" time. For about 30 minutes after I come home from work, no one is allowed to bother me. The only exceptions are blood, bones sticking out, house on fire. Otherwise, "I am not your mother right now".

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    Jamie, I am the mother of 4 kiddoes and I hear ya.

    Do NOT be afraid to claim some "me" time.

    It took me a long time to realize that I actually earned respect from my kids when I did stand up for my time. And I think in the long run it made them start thinking of me as a real person and not just their mom. And, also in the long run, it made them more aware of their own time and how to use it to their advantage.

    I've now got 4 college graduates instead of 4 small children, and they are beginning to have children of their own. I have the MOST FUN seeing them struggle now with their children.

    Although, they do get kind of mad at me when I laugh out loud while they are trying to discipline their offspring! But sometimes I just can't help it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by k_jupiter
    Dog Kennels.

    Works for me.

    tim in san jose
    Choked when I read this, love it! We have a huge cage in the bed of our truck that we sometimes transport calves/goats in. Always have someone ask what that cage is for. Aways answer "Grandkids" and get quite a reaction too. :lol:

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