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Thread: Now it has happened and I don't want it!

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    Just when I think I have moved past the "newbie" stage and feeling somewhat confident and yet totally aware that my skills still need work, out of the blue this past week, 3 people have asked me to make them some things. One lady didn't ask, she just stated she has a quilt she wants me to make for her hubby. I replied " I have a quilt that I want to make for mine". She still thinks I am going to and I dont want to! Nor do I intend too, I am not that good and even so, I rarely have time to sew any myself!

    Can someone tell me why, when I click on new topic, it never comes up new topic?

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    My dear friend, just remember the first word out parents teach us.......... NO ! lol it works everytime.

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    You can say NO or I just have a tendency to ignore them.

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    As Nancy Reagan used to tell us about drugs..."Just say NO!".

    Some people can't help but try to take advantage of others. But we don't have to go along with them!

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    Sounds like some folks I know!

    Just go on and tell them you will be glad to do their quilts WHEN you have the time. Also, tell them that THEY have to go with you to purchase the material, the thread, and that there is no way you could possibly do the quilting yourself. Find 3 quotes for long-armers. Go with the highest as she/he will be the best. Don't forget to add the $15 per hour of your time and that your machine will need to be serviced and cleaned before and after doing their quilt. By now you will be into the many hundreds of dollars. Chances are, you won't be forced to do the quilt! This has actually worked for me...I only do quilts I want to do, when I want to do them.

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    Just say no. Why can't your friend do her own quilt?

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    If you eventually want to work for others thats fine.
    I don't.
    My answer to requests is "Sorry. No. This is something I do for me. When I start doing this for others it becomes work and I no longer enjoy it"

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    I click on recent topics not new topic.

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    I am not sure what New Topic you are clicking on. I always use Unread topics.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonkeeGirl
    Sounds like some folks I know!

    Just go on and tell them you will be glad to do their quilts WHEN you have the time. Also, tell them that THEY have to go with you to purchase the material, the thread, and that there is no way you could possibly do the quilting yourself. Find 3 quotes for long-armers. Go with the highest as she/he will be the best. Don't forget to add the $15 per hour of your time and that your machine will need to be serviced and cleaned before and after doing their quilt. By now you will be into the many hundreds of dollars. Chances are, you won't be forced to do the quilt! This has actually worked for me...I only do quilts I want to do, when I want to do them.
    I like this!

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    I just say no, I don't do that. Why? because I dont' want to but you are welcome to purchase any of the ones I have made. The prices always are too shocking to them hahahahahah...they have no idea of cost and labour etc.....

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    Your right, they have no idea of the money we have invested, in everything. She is a very good friend of mine and I love her dearly, so it is difficult! Anyone else I have no problem saying "no". Actually did on the others, I stated I only do this for my enjoyment and not income. I will just tell my friend, I have very little time to do my own, so I don't have time to do hers. She will understand I think, we both work fulltime. If I had a bit more uninterrupted time when quilting,I probably wouldn't feel hurried and good improve even more. Thanks everyone, I feel better about saying "No" even to my dear friend!

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    I always say, "I'd love to, my starting price is $450.00". That generally makes them change the conversation to something else. Works for me.

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    when you click on new topic that means that you want to start a new thread.

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    I don't get it either, when people find out I can sew they immediately think I can do their mending and alterations, which I hate to do. My favorite dry cleaners fixes my stuff for me.

    When I started a sewing class at the school I work at, all of a sudden the staff is asking us to mend/serge/put on buttons, make them stuff, etc. Geez, the kids were just learning to sew themselves. So I drill all my kids on how to "just say no"!

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    or perhaps suggest she make it herself, and learn to sew. Then you could make things together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bakermom
    If you eventually want to work for others thats fine.
    I don't.
    My answer to requests is "Sorry. No. This is something I do for me. When I start doing this for others it becomes work and I no longer enjoy it"
    Ditto

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    Well I can't say no to my mother who is in her mid 80's and can not sew with the machine she has as she is having trouble with it and it needs to be serviced. She has asked me to make her a chair cover for her folding chair that is in the sunroom in her house. I took the pattern over to her house along with one that I made about 8 years ago to try it on the chair. It fit and we just need to adjust the hem once I get her's made so I'll go with that pattern. She gave me the fabrics to make it with so when we get back from Seattle I will make it for her. She is going to have surgery on her back in Seattle and we leave tomorrow and stay in a motel and then we'll go get her checked into the hospital on Tuesday. Then I will go visit my firends that I used to work with and then we go back to check in on Mom and then we'll come home. In a few days, my sister and her husband will drive over to Seattle to bring her home. It all depens on how things work out and if the surgery will be a success or not. I also have to make her a table runner so she gave me the fabric for that also. I guess I'll get my over night bag packed and start the sewing on her table runner since she has the pieces cut out. Take care, Huggies, Fay

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    I still get asked to reupholster peoples furniture. And I have been retired from for 11 yrs now.

    When I get asked to to some quilt related things or make some clothes for someone. I politely tell them, sewing is my hobby now, if I wanted to make it a job I would go back to work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bakermom
    If you eventually want to work for others thats fine.
    I don't.
    My answer to requests is "Sorry. No. This is something I do for me. When I start doing this for others it becomes work and I no longer enjoy it"
    Love, love your answer. That is how I feel. If I want to make something for a gift, fine, but I do not want any "commissions"

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    Why Do people think because We quilt that we can do it for then too. I figure when I do it for other ( exceptions to all rules), it is a job . I don't work any more , especially for people I don't really know

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    Quote Originally Posted by bakermom
    If you eventually want to work for others thats fine.
    I don't.
    My answer to requests is "Sorry. No. This is something I do for me. When I start doing this for others it becomes work and I no longer enjoy it"
    I say sort of the same thing. I tell them I can't be put on a deadline so quilt may take me 3 to 4 years to get it done.

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    I am glad that you were able to say no to her. I tell my family and friends "no" too. If we don't? we could have years worth of quilts lined up, and no time for the ones we really want to do LOL :D:D:D

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    that is just what I did told my niece that she could get some fabric she likes and the cotton batting and material bor the backing. I would charge her 40.00 for making it. She went to see the price of the supplies and she has not even said another word about it. I told her that was cheap. lol

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    Tell her "Oh I don't make quilts for other people, BUT I'll be happy to teach you how to make your own." This usually shuts them up.

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