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Thread: Now it has happened and I don't want it!

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    If I'm willing to make something on request - which is RARE - I tell the recipient they had better not tell ANYONE where they got it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by deedum
    Just when I think I have moved past the "newbie" stage and feeling somewhat confident and yet totally aware that my skills still need work, out of the blue this past week, 3 people have asked me to make them some things. One lady didn't ask, she just stated she has a quilt she wants me to make for her hubby. I replied " I have a quilt that I want to make for mine". She still thinks I am going to and I dont want to! Nor do I intend too, I am not that good and even so, I rarely have time to sew any myself!

    Can someone tell me why, when I click on new topic, it never comes up new topic?
    If you are clicking on the green words (New Topic) it shouldn't do anything - its just a comment to let you know the posting is a new one. You click on the blue words.

    And I sympathize with your problem! *Hugs*

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    Friends of ours built anew house I made crochet them 2 afghans for their family room. Two months later they are telling us that the afghans were great for their camping trips. Then when I started quilting the husband thought it would be great if I would make them a quilt (king size). Oh, he would be willing to pay. When I presented him with what just the materials for the top would cost, he said he would have to let me know. They haven't asked again, and that's been yrs ago.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonkeeGirl
    Sounds like some folks I know!

    Just go on and tell them you will be glad to do their quilts WHEN you have the time. Also, tell them that THEY have to go with you to purchase the material, the thread, and that there is no way you could possibly do the quilting yourself. Find 3 quotes for long-armers. Go with the highest as she/he will be the best. Don't forget to add the $15 per hour of your time and that your machine will need to be serviced and cleaned before and after doing their quilt. By now you will be into the many hundreds of dollars. Chances are, you won't be forced to do the quilt! This has actually worked for me...I only do quilts I want to do, when I want to do them.
    Forced??? Do they have a gun???

    Even if somebody has the money and is actually willing to pay me what a quilt is worth I am still not "forced" to make it for them.

    Just say no, no excuses, no hemhawing around, no explanations, just no.

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    Why is it that when people learn that you quilt, they immediately assume that you will be happy to make a quilt for them? And that you will also be happy to mend and/or alter for them? Once I tell them the price of fabric, notions, batting, etc. that usually ends the conversation! The funny thing is, I'm happy to make a quilt for someone once they understand all the work and expense that goes into it...but there are plenty of people who just don't get it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by bakermom
    If you eventually want to work for others thats fine.
    I don't.
    My answer to requests is "Sorry. No. This is something I do for me. When I start doing this for others it becomes work and I no longer enjoy it"
    Ditto, I feel the same way. This is the same thing that I tell people who say you should make these and sell them. Also, no one would be willing to pay what quilts and things are worth. However they do not have a problem paying outragious prices for things bought from a store or shop. Go figure???? :roll:

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    People at my work know I quilt, and have asked me if I'd do one for them. First question is if they plan on purchasing all the materials in advance. Then I add that if the material they are purchasing is annoying to work with I charge extra. I quote the prices of higher quality fabric. Then my time... I still don't have any takers ;)

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    Quote Originally Posted by bakermom
    If you eventually want to work for others thats fine.
    I don't.
    My answer to requests is "Sorry. No. This is something I do for me. When I start doing this for others it becomes work and I no longer enjoy it"
    I second that.

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    I tell any one that requests that I make their quilt for them....I have several ahead of you, you just have to get in line. Of course that line never does end.
    Of course this doesn't include family. I love to make quilts, table runners and other quilty things for them. I s "quilty" a word?

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    Quote Originally Posted by deedum
    Just when I think I have moved past the "newbie" stage and feeling somewhat confident and yet totally aware that my skills still need work, out of the blue this past week, 3 people have asked me to make them some things. One lady didn't ask, she just stated she has a quilt she wants me to make for her hubby. I replied " I have a quilt that I want to make for mine". She still thinks I am going to and I dont want to! Nor do I intend too, I am not that good and even so, I rarely have time to sew any myself!

    Can someone tell me why, when I click on new topic, it never comes up new topic?
    " I am sorry but I don't quilt or sew for others because I am too busy making my own quilts and gifts.". Enough said!!!

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    Give them a price that includes fabric, and time, most people do not want to pay for the work involved in doing a quilt. I was on a web site looking for a pattern that I saw at a National Quilt show, and the designer/quilter had a price on the quilt I loved, $65,000, my husband says I can't buy it!!LOL

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    I think I would have to tell her, "I was at the LQS and guess what??? They are having quilting classes there. Maybe you should sign up for some, I am sure you would enjoy them and your husband would surely like this quilt better if you had made it all by yourself!!!

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    I have a friend who would really like me to make her a quilt. But I told her that the cost of the material, and if she paid me by the hour, it would just cost her too much. She also lives in Canada, and I live in New Mexico, so that's a bunch just to mail. I just tell people, if I start doing it for money, then it isn't a hobby and I'll hate it. And since quilting is what I mainly do, I surely don't want to hate it.

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    Yea, I have a boss who actually thinks that because I quilt I am also a clothing designer and is always asking me to fix their stuff or hem their pants. I am barely functional when it comes to clothing. Very stressful.

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    And even if they do agree to pay you for the material and time, they might not come through!

    The first quilt I ever bought had been commisioned from my neighbor by a "friend" of hers. She showed it to me completed (baby quilt) and I was in awe. Weeks later, she still hadn't been paid. I bought it from her and considered myself to have been the lucky one!

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    I HAVE LEARNED TO SAY NO I AM SORRY , BUT I CAN NOT. I DO NOT SEW FOR OTHER PEOPLE. BE NICE BUT FIRM.

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    There is a one syllable word that I find works just fine NO. If she is truely your friend, suggest that she learn to quilt for herself. I quilt for fun!!!!!

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    I don't want to be paid to make a quilt, what if I ruin it?? Don't want that kind of pressure and then I'd loose a friend in the deal. A friends mother asked me to quilt up all these blocks she made, and I said no I don't quilt for others, she was miffed and my DH was annoyed that I said no. I said to hubby what if she didn't like the result then what? I'd have lost a friend and this way she may be miffed for a wile but then she'll get over it. If she really wanted it quilted she'd get it done by someone who advertises their services. She just wanted me to do it for free. I want my hobby to stay a hobby.

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    A dear friend wants me to make a t-shirt quilt from her old t-shirts and sweatshirts... :o( Yikes! and Ugh!

    That probably means using fusible backing??

    whine...snivvle...pout..."I don't wanna!"

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    It's OK to say NO!!!

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    [quote=mrspete]My dear friend, just remember the first word out parents teach us.......... NO ! lol it works everytime.

    The first word our parents teach us? Hmmm... or the first word our children teach US???

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    Love your comment, Bakermom, so I'll remember it for future use.

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    I would remind them that you are still a newbie and that you barely have time to make ones for yourself and your family.

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    You can always invite her to quilt with you and she can make her own darn husband a quilt. I get so many people that just assume I want to do things for them..truth is I hardly have time to get my own done and if I ever did get free time I have 30,000 quilts in mind that I would love to do for myself!!!!

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    This dear friend was so supportive when my father passed away, in the wee hours of the nite too! I will be honest though with her! Perhaps down the road, way down the road but for now "No thank you" is my answer when I see her!

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