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    JUST SAY NO!

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    tell them this is a hobby for yourself to make things for yourself!
    and if you would make a quilt for someone it would be expensive with cost of fabric, thread, wear and tear on your sewing machine, and labor charge is very expensive


    Quote Originally Posted by deedum
    Just when I think I have moved past the "newbie" stage and feeling somewhat confident and yet totally aware that my skills still need work, out of the blue this past week, 3 people have asked me to make them some things. One lady didn't ask, she just stated she has a quilt she wants me to make for her hubby. I replied " I have a quilt that I want to make for mine". She still thinks I am going to and I dont want to! Nor do I intend too, I am not that good and even so, I rarely have time to sew any myself!

    Can someone tell me why, when I click on new topic, it never comes up new topic?

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    I have startd saying 'No' also, people take advantage of you if you don't. I don't tell anyone to learn to quilt for themselves, they might ask me to teach them and if I don't have time to quilt for them, I sure don't have time to teach them either. This might sound mean or selfish but I worked for 33 years in a car plant and now I just want to do what I want to do.

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    I usually say something like "I'll let you know when I have time to do it, I'm pretty booked right now".

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    I'm retired too and yes some quilts do take a looonnnggg time to make and to quilt for all that matters. I don't mind making a quilt to give as a gift, but I will not make quilts for every Tom, Dick, and Harry out there. Huggies, Fay

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    Quote Originally Posted by watson's mom
    I have startd saying 'No' also, people take advantage of you if you don't. I don't tell anyone to learn to quilt for themselves, they might ask me to teach them and if I don't have time to quilt for them, I sure don't have time to teach them either. This might sound mean or selfish but I worked for 33 years in a car plant and now I just want to do what I want to do.
    I fully understand your last statement. It is exactly how I feel now that I'm retired. The problem is that I could easily become a hermit. I hate making commitments, even for lunch or dinner. After 2 years of retirement, I still feel that way, so am going to force myself back into the world...someday!

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    Quote Originally Posted by hobo2000
    I always say, "I'd love to, my starting price is $450.00". That generally makes them change the conversation to something else. Works for me.
    Don't forget --starting price before the fabrics and threads and batting, etc. ROFL Also, Cash in advance. Amazing how it just disappears as a topic of conversation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonkeeGirl
    Sounds like some folks I know!

    Just go on and tell them you will be glad to do their quilts WHEN you have the time. Also, tell them that THEY have to go with you to purchase the material, the thread, and that there is no way you could possibly do the quilting yourself. Find 3 quotes for long-armers. Go with the highest as she/he will be the best. Don't forget to add the $15 per hour of your time and that your machine will need to be serviced and cleaned before and after doing their quilt. By now you will be into the many hundreds of dollars. Chances are, you won't be forced to do the quilt! This has actually worked for me...I only do quilts I want to do, when I want to do them.
    I can see that you have done this before...
    ;)

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    Thats great. Chances are when they see just the cost of the material they don't want it done that bad. I've started doing that too. Either "no" or we'll go shopping and you can buy all the stuff. You get out of alot of extra work that way. :thumbup:

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    I would just say no myself , as I like doing them as my Hobby
    and I hate the ideal of being pressured to make Quilts, so I
    only make them and give them as gifts when I want to, not because someone else wants me to. :D

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    Tell them NO! Or quite a price they would be out of their ever loving mind to pay. :D To me, & I do take on a few commissioned quilts per year, but it takes the fun out of it & it then becomes work. :D If I wanted to work I would find a job & get a regualr paycheck every month. But I am spoiled & want to have fun. :D

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    The comments of friends may just be meant as compliments to you; a way of saying, "Your work is so beautiful that I would love to have something exactly like that." Accept the comments as compliments, unless someone does keep reminding you that you're expected to do free work for them.

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    Watson's mom and cathyvv: I know EXACTLY what both of you mean about having worked for so many years and now being retired and happy. I retired a few years ago and still feel like my batteries have run down, and I don't want them changed. I'm content any day that I have no plans or commitments and can just sit on the couch, watch tv, read, sew, quilt, watch the birds feeding or bathing outside my sunroom windows, or fall asleep--anything--none of it required or scheduled. Some days I'm reluctant even to answer the phone because that often means I'll be listening to other people's problems. No, I'm not depressed, sick, or lazy; I'm just content and happy--at last.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grammyp
    I usually say something like "I'll let you know when I have time to do it, I'm pretty booked right now".

    tell them your about 18 months to 2 years behind. My mother thinks my stuff is so pretty, that i should sell some things, to make money. she just doesn't understand, that this is for MY enjoyment..if i was paid to make one, i would be so stressed that it be perfect..i just could not do it.
    i have made quilts to be raffled off for charities,given as gifts..this is what i get enjoyment out of.
    one social friend asked me to help her make a baby quilt,for her new grandchild,..and i did, i did the cutting, and she sewed it..we both enjoyed it, so much fun,teaching someone to piece ...

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    Yes, happens to me frequently. I say, "sure, after the projects I have in line, could take a while" and no one has asked what their status is. I think they know it is a "no", and I would not hesitate to say "No" if they asked again. I am very good at taking care of myself that way.

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    I do longarm quilting and occasionally make a quilt to order, I also keep some on hand that I have made if someone wants to buy something or to see samples of my quilting.

    I very seldom sell quilts because most people won't pay the $300. and up that it costs to make a full size, or larger, quilt. I should also state that I only use quilt shop fabric, no JoAnn's or Walmart. So even though I do the quilting myself I still have a bundle in fabric without considering my labor.

    I recently quilted a (queen size) top for a customer and she said she was asking $750.00 if anyone wanted to buy it. She said that she had that much money in the fabric, batting, backing and quilting plus a very little for her time. Again no JoAnn's or Walmart fabric.

    Of course when people see ads selling quilts at $39.95 or slightly more they think they are being ripped off by those of us who use only quality fabrics and put a lot of time and effort into making a quality product that will last for generations and not fall apart the first time it is washed. They have't checked out the price of fabric which is $10.00 a yard, or more, and a small spool of good thread starts at about $3.00 and I don't know how anyone piece a quilt top with one spool of thread.

    So tell this person "NO" unless she is willing to pay for all materials, the quilting and your time and I don't mean sweatshop wages of .50 cents an hour.

    Good luck.

    Longarm

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    If you want to "discourage" people from asking, just start adding up how much it will cost them to have you do this; not just the fabric, your time, your mileage to buy supplies that might be necessary, wear and tear on your equipment, etc., etc. Most people who want us to make them quilts for friends/relatives as gifts don't understand how much it will cost them in cold hard cash.

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    Quote Originally Posted by deedum
    Just when I think I have moved past the "newbie" stage and feeling somewhat confident and yet totally aware that my skills still need work, out of the blue this past week, 3 people have asked me to make them some things. One lady didn't ask, she just stated she has a quilt she wants me to make for her hubby. I replied " I have a quilt that I want to make for mine". She still thinks I am going to and I dont want to! Nor do I intend too, I am not that good and even so, I rarely have time to sew any myself!

    Can someone tell me why, when I click on new topic, it never comes up new topic?
    I tell them "No, I'm not a professional sewer. If I were, I'd have to charge you more money than you would be willing to pay."

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    I also use this one. " How big do you want this quilt? Oh, that will cost $$$$$." Only had one lady who said fine and I made the quilt. She was happy and so was I all the way to the bank.

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    some great answers everyone! This is so helpful! Thanks!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bobby's Girl
    Watson's mom and cathyvv: I know EXACTLY what both of you mean about having worked for so many years and now being retired and happy. I retired a few years ago and still feel like my batteries have run down, and I don't want them changed. I'm content any day that I have no plans or commitments and can just sit on the couch, watch tv, read, sew, quilt, watch the birds feeding or bathing outside my sunroom windows, or fall asleep--anything--none of it required or scheduled. Some days I'm reluctant even to answer the phone because that often means I'll be listening to other people's problems. No, I'm not depressed, sick, or lazy; I'm just content and happy--at last.
    AMEN!!!!!!!!!

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    I always just tell people I am "over-committed." I suggest someone else who might make their quilt or, in the case of t-shirt quilts (which I hate hate hate to make), give them a place online where they can order one made. When they see the price, they will have a heart-attack, BTW!

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    I just tell everyone that I don't quilt for others. I have all I can do to get what I want to get done for myself.

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    I think the best focus to take in this case is to assume the person is planning to pay you for the service they are requesting, so the first part of the conversation should be an agreement on the charges. I usually start with telling them the ball-park figure is $400 and I have found that usually puts a stop to it. One young man wanted me to make him a quilt, and when I told him the cost, he started telling me about the jeans he had been saving and that I could use them for his quilt. I immediately explained to him the extra cost of cutting all those jeans into squares. He finally gave up.

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    [quote=lalaland]I don't get it either, when people find out I can sew they immediately think I can do their mending and alterations, which I hate to do. My favorite dry cleaners fixes my stuff for me.

    When anyone asks me to do mending or alterations, I imediately tell them I don't do alterations but I give them the name of a friend who does. I also don't mend old quilts.

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