|
Originally Posted by PaperPrincess
I would tell her that after 2 years you've learned a lot and "This is a twin size quilt and I do not feel comfortable with quilting this size on my home machine", then give her the name of a long arm quilter in your area. She (he) can let her know if it's not quiltable, and she will also get an idea of the real cost of quilting.
|
Originally Posted by piepatch
Originally Posted by daisyboo9
Thank you every one for your opinion, it has reinforced how I feel. Let me clear up a few things that I may have left out. First of all, she is willing to split the $400 with me and out of this I will be reimbursed the cost to rent the machine (which she knows about)and the cost for the batting, backing and thread. We haven't even discussed the cost of gas as the rental is about an hours drive from my home. After these costs are looked after we split the remainder 50/50. I will return it to her and tell her that I cannot quilt it in that condition. I would rather go without the "profit" than to have to deal with all the possible problems.
Half of less than $200 is NOT worth the effort, bad taste left for her, the inconvenience, and the time/gas cost. SO glad you are letting it go! Jan in VA You are smart for returning it to her, and you are smart for taking care of yourself ! |
Get out of this mess now and do not look back and give it back and tell her she will have to find a quilter and then they can tell her it can't be done walllll off your sholders. Ans yes part of that $$$$ is to pay for the fabs out of your stach... Good luck
|
Originally Posted by Murphy
Return it to the person who gave it to you and explain what she needs to complete before it can be quilted. This is not your problem and she is not learning if you do it for her.
|
Tell her the truth since she appears not to be a true friend or even a good acquaintance. Be blunt. Let her know that a quilt needs to be what I call "groomed" before quilting. She did the work, let her finish the work. Give it back to her so she can do the grooming. And if the quilt comes back to you in an un-quiltable condition, refuse to quilt it. Even better, suggest to her that SHE can have HER quilt machined quilted and refer someone or a shop who can do it. Especially since it appears that she is making a profit off of your stash and your work.
|
She dosn't act like a friend. I would return it and agree with the member who said lose her phone number. Being able to say NO is the best weapon to have in any armoury.
|
You call her a friend? I wouldn't do that to any of my friends and if they tried to do it to me I would just say NO.
Hope I don't hurt your feelings, but IMHO she is a user, not a friend, definitely NOT a friend. |
Originally Posted by Murphy
Return it to the person who gave it to you and explain what she needs to complete before it can be quilted. This is not your problem and she is not learning if you do it for her.
|
Do you HAVE to stay friends with her? I would never do that to a friend. I woudn't expect her to make it and if she insisted and I sold it I would pay her half. Wow.
|
I bet they don't stay friends!!!(if they were)
|
I wouldn't clean up her mess. She is going to sell the fabric from your stash, ask you to help with the quilt, then quilt it, and hurry up? NOT quilt it just like it is and give it back to her - After she pays for some of the stuff at least and the long arm rental
|
Return it to her & let her know you can not finish it for her. She doen't sound like you would be losing anything if she is no longer your friend. She is actualy a user not a friend. :)
|
I know how hard it can be to say "no" to someone. Especially if they have a bully-type of personality. But you need to do this for yourself because she is using you and the only things you are going to get out of this is a major headache and a belly full of resentment. You will feel a hundred times better when you have given this quilt back to her and told her to take it somewhere else.
|
Even though you gave/loaned her the fabric, she sold it; I'd let her quilt it. Tell her you think she has too much integrity to take money for something that is not her work. She won't learn if you do everything for her.
|
I totally agree with what every post on this thread has said,
this person is a big user, not a friend, are she wouldn't have done this to you.. |
you need to stop her now. if you don't she'll think she can continue to use you. and it sure sounds like using you is what she is doing. you have invested fabric and time and now she wants you to quilt it so she can sell it and get the benefit.
doesn't sound like a friendship to me. if you lose her as a friend then she wasn't much of a friend to start with. if you clean up behind her and quilt it for free you'll probably quilting for free from now on while she sells what you quilt. |
Sounds like she is not a friend,send her on way.You have more important things to do than to try to p lease her. I think you are wasting your time
|
as i read this again, i realize it sounds like this will be easy for you to do. i don't think it will. it wouldn't be for me either but i guess you pay on one end or the other. either 'man up' and stop her behavior now or pay by having her trying to get you to do all her quiliting gratis from now on.
not gonna be easy but i think i'd want to fix it now.
Originally Posted by laurac
you need to stop her now. if you don't she'll think she can continue to use you. and it sure sounds like using you is what she is doing. you have invested fabric and time and now she wants you to quilt it so she can sell it and get the benefit.
doesn't sound like a friendship to me. if you lose her as a friend then she wasn't much of a friend to start with. if you clean up behind her and quilt it for free you'll probably quilting for free from now on while she sells what you quilt. |
We all agree on one thing: Give it back and explain to your "not a friend" that the quilt top cannot be quilted in its present condition. You have given her enough already. Let her take it to someone else
|
We are all waiting to know what you do or did.
|
One more thought on this subject... I agree this person appears to be taking advantage of this situation, however, it may simply be an issue of lack of education. Since she is a newbie (I can relate), perhaps she isn't aware of the fact that her top isn't truly 'finished'. In terms of the 'rush' issue, she may not be aware of the work involved in quilting the item, but she should have purchased the batting and backing so you wouldn't have to take the time. I would encourage you to be gentle with her but return the top for finishing. Instruct her on what needs to be done (including purchasing the batting and backing) before you can quilt the top. Then let her know what your timeline is for finishing the item and what your expectations are for sharing the profits. If you agreed to quilt the item for her for free before you found out she sold the item I would encourage you to honor your word. She will learn far more from you teaching her what needs to be done and setting out your expectations ahead of time than if you simply throw your hands up at the situation and any relationship even if casual you may have. You can be the bigger person and still not be taken advantage of in this way. Just a thought...
|
Just saw your update. Looks as though you handled it well. Kudos!
|
Originally Posted by Scissor Queen
Are you out of your mind? You put 90% of the fabric in, did the cutting, you have to BUY the backing and batting and pay for the quilting and SHE'S going to get the $400????
Seriously??? |
Well, what happened when you gave it back to her to fix???
I read every page, and do not see what happened. Please tell me what happened............. Bev B |
I think I'd be afraid that after I went to all the work of fixing it and quilting it, she and the receiver wouldn't be satisfied with it and they would decide it was my fault.
|
| All times are GMT -8. The time now is 08:19 AM. |