This is why we have a family account for household things and we have separate accounts. I don't question what he spends his money on and he dares not question what I spend mine on.

Isn't this kind of childish?

As well as being the basis for a stupid argument.

And if he dares to question you? What happens? Moldy bread and pond water for supper?

My husband and I consider it "our" money. After bills are paid, money into savings, groceries, gas in the trucks. What is left over is "ours".

That's right especially if it's your money. I learned to not tell unless asked.

After almost 44 years, I have a saying, "What is yours is mine, what is mine is mine. . . .and he says the same thing. LOL!!

Can't you just say you bought it? I wanted something it was a lap top computer and my husband said you have a computer, but I wanted the lap top, so I said to him as he was restoring his old VW " well you all ready have a car"
needless to say I got my lap top.
Not to mention our money starts with two of us and you have as much right to the money as he. hat is another thing I ask my DH "Why do you get to decide what is to be bought?"

Can't unring that bell. I would just let the subject die and enjoy the new toy. If he says something else about you spending the family money on a toy, just tell him "thanks for being so generous, honey" with a big smile and keep on cutting.

girl you had might as well tell him. but do it smiling and girl like. it is your money and how often does he buy stuffwith (your money) as he says our money.

you are not a child you can buy what you want, when and pay what you have to for it.
if he gets mad cause you didn't fess up so be it. it was not a lie to damage anyone just a fib,.
good luck to ya.
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Money is the root of all evil - it's also the root of a lot of marital discord.

Maybe you and hubby should make a rule - I can spend X number of dollars every week/month/quarter/6 months and don't have to account for it. That way you don't question him spending a lot on a toy and he can't fuss at you.

Well I wouldn't had lied about it, fortunately I have a very understanding husband. But if it were a higher priced item than I wanted to pay but got it anyway, I would have still told him. Anger only lasts for a time and remind him that it was Your money...sometimes a woman has to have some mad money of her own and you just spent yours!
Tell him dear, it's the right thing and you'll feel better And he'll respect you more for your honesty.