By all means give the quilt in memory of the lost little one. As an RN who worked with bereaved parents I can tell you that the parents will treasure this gift as a remembrance of the baby they lost.

How sad. I have twins but they're grown now. I wouldn't give her the wall hanging. It will be a constant reminder of her loss.

I agree with Sweetana and Mad Quilter. What a sad ssituation for any family to have to go through. My prayers to them.

Earlier this year my grandsons were born prematurely. They both passed away. I would think it might not be the right thing to give the Noah's Ark walhanging. Definitely do acknowledge the loss of the one little one but maybe not the walhanging. My prayers are for the family and the surviving twin. What a hard time to go through.

JMABBY, This is a most difficult question but here are my thoughts. I have twin grands, born early but now doing well. There were several unsuccessful pregnancies previous to that and they are remembered. Parents who have lost children to premature birth, given children up for adoption or who have had child die all remember these children who were part of their lives.

My gut response is to complete your wall hanging of "two by two' and give it to honor both children. One child could be replaced by an angel or left just as he or she is. This may give the mother, father and the remaining child the opportunity to remember the special event in their family of being part of "two".

The loss of a child, just as the loss of any dear person, needs time to heal but we still remember. The remembering will always be touched with a pang of pain and longing but this will become less as time goes by. Now, oh, it hurts so much. Ignoring or hiding conversation about the missing one does not make the pain less.

Your efforts and gift will certainly be a warm remembrance to honor the little blessing that was part of their family for a short time and the little blessing still in their arms. The hanging may or may not be displayed. It may take a span of time for the parents to grieve. On the other hand it could very much be part of the healing process too.

My last thought. If this makes YOU feel too uncomfortable set this gift aside. It could be given later when you know the family is feeling better.

I will be praying for this family. Broken hearts need special care.

What a wonderful idea, sweetana3.

I'd still make it. It's a FACT of life and you can't HIDE that.... Maybe wait a bit in giving it to the mother? I don't know... that is a personal thing. I'd say a prayer about it and you will know how to handle it. But, the baby will grow up and know he or she had a twin, won't they? So, it's still appropriate. That's just my opinion. Could you put something on there at the end, like, until we again...? or I don't know, now I"m rambling. Boy, that is a TOUGH one!

That is terribly sad. I wouldn't know what was the best thing to do, because people all respond so differently. Maybe it would be best to ask the twin's parents and see how they feel about it? At least, they will know you care very much.

I am sorry for your loss...

This would depend on how well you know the parents. I would love something like that after losing a child but not everyone feels that way. You should talk to the parents