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Up4BigChal 11-03-2010 04:12 AM

I agree, I would make a comfort quilt now and later after a time for healing would approach the Memory quilt

pieces 11-03-2010 04:20 AM

I would suggest a comfort quilt as well.
A memory quilt may not be a good idea. With your description she may not have good memories to warrant a memory quilt.

karenfae 11-03-2010 04:31 AM

I would wait awhile and see how she handles the death first - no need to rush.

stitchin 11-03-2010 04:50 AM

comfort quilt, and let her know that lots of prayers and hugs are there for her.

LindaR 11-03-2010 04:57 AM

how about a prayer shawl...I'd hold off with the other quilt

Tinabodina 11-03-2010 05:02 AM

I have to agree with sgarner; except I would wait longer than a month. Give her time to morn. There are 3 stages in loosing aloved on. Sorrow, anger and acceptance. People react differently and it takes longer for some. Watch for the stages. Then ask what her favoriate memories were of her mother. I would not make anything out of her clothes. I would take the information from her memories and then incorporate them into a quilt. Use 1 or two memories. Most important, comfort her by letting her know you are there, even if you are miles away.

sandpat 11-03-2010 05:11 AM

I love your sense of caring and your desire to do something to provide comfort. I wouldn't do the memory quilt though. I think a comfy quilt or prayer shawl is a lovely suggestion though.

Quilt Mom 11-03-2010 05:32 AM


Originally Posted by Sadiemae
Just my opinion, but right now I would make a comfort quilt. Later...I would consider a memory quilt.

Agreed. Allow time before asking about a memory quilt. Even without the issue of having taken her own life, grief takes time to work itself out.

ruthrec 11-03-2010 05:37 AM

There have been some excellent suggestions here and I concur with the comfort quilt/throw. I have found a URL to an excellent site that deals directly with grief, originally written for those terminally ill people then later extended to all loss. It is well work reading. God bless you for the love in your heart. He will guide you in whatever you decide to do. Sometimes just sitting and being a silent comfort is enough.

ruthrec 11-03-2010 05:38 AM

oops...forgot the URL: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_stages_of_grief


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