Go Back  Quiltingboard Forums >
  • Main
  • A Problem >
  • A Problem

  • A Problem

    Thread Tools
     
    Old 12-01-2010, 10:11 AM
      #21  
    Junior Member
    Thread Starter
     
    Join Date: Jul 2010
    Posts: 187
    Default

    Originally Posted by mollymct
    Originally Posted by Terryl
    If you show us your quilts, I bet you'll get PLENTY of oohs and ahhhhs. We appreciate all styles of quilting.
    Yep, just show us!!
    I have to learn how to do that...upload or download, whatever you do!! But I will, promise!!
    Nancy11442 is offline  
    Old 12-01-2010, 10:46 AM
      #22  
    Super Member
     
    omak's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Mar 2009
    Location: Central Washington State
    Posts: 5,997
    Default

    Originally Posted by Lisa_wanna_b_quilter
    I think I'd quit showing her my quilts. If her opinion made me sad, I wouldn't listen to it any more.
    One of my friends said, one time, while we were chatting about a mutual acquaintance who needed a LOT of input and recognition:
    I am just not that needy
    apparently your "friend" is very needy. There are a lot of people (this list included) out there who will absolutely share encouragement and excitement over your accomplishments. You just need to keep looking, because your friend is waaay more needy that you are. <wave>
    omak is offline  
    Old 12-01-2010, 10:57 AM
      #23  
    Super Member
     
    quilt queen 2's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Jan 2010
    Location: Ontario Canada
    Posts: 1,329
    Default

    I think people that react this way are very insecure and have low self esteem so I would continue to praise her . I have had a friend like this for many years and in other ways she is wonderful but when it comes to any kind of handwork she acts like this. TO be first and the best is so important to her!
    quilt queen 2 is offline  
    Old 12-01-2010, 12:37 PM
      #24  
    Member
     
    Join Date: Sep 2010
    Posts: 37
    Default

    I would stop sharing my quilts with her. If she asks why, I would tell her, "It hurts my feelings that you never seem all that excited by my quilts or impressed by my efforts." Lay it out there--she probably doesn't reqalized how rude she is being.
    Renoquilting is offline  
    Old 12-01-2010, 01:29 PM
      #25  
    Super Member
     
    lovingmama's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Nov 2010
    Posts: 3,751
    Default

    Take it as a compliment, she must be so jealous, that she isn't able to say anything else.

    Know in your heart, that your quilts are beautiful. How can you compare?

    Chocolate or vanilla icecream

    You can't they are both different, now it comes down to preferences.

    Show us your quilts and we will give you the praise that they deserve!
    lovingmama is offline  
    Old 12-01-2010, 02:04 PM
      #26  
    Super Member
     
    Quiltforme's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Aug 2010
    Location: Beautiful Washington state!
    Posts: 3,203
    Default

    The lower the praise means your quilt is amazing and she cannot top it! Anyways its the quiltboards opinon that matters right 17,000 people can all lie :)
    Quiltforme is offline  
    Old 12-01-2010, 02:06 PM
      #27  
    Cyn
    Super Member
     
    Join Date: Aug 2010
    Location: Jacksonville NC
    Posts: 6,510
    Default

    Originally Posted by Terryl
    If you show us your quilts, I bet you'll get PLENTY of oohs and ahhhhs. We appreciate all styles of quilting.
    I agree! Show us and we'll tell you how we really feel :) I feel sorry for her because she obviously isn't a happy person. Happy people usually try to make other people happy- don't you think?
    Cyn is offline  
    Old 12-01-2010, 03:00 PM
      #28  
    Power Poster
     
    Join Date: Jan 2008
    Location: Florida
    Posts: 17,636
    Default

    my dear, your friend sounds just like one I had a few years ago.
    Since I have always been a very encouraging type friend, it took me a while to finally realize i was in a relationship with a sponge.
    Someone that soaks it up and doesn't give much of a drip back!
    I don't say this easily, trust me.
    I had to walk away from the friendship and that was a first for me.
    A year and a half later we tried it again...I know...how silly of me, right?...nope, listen to your gut the first time and save yourself the bother of a one sided thing that will suck the life out of you eventually.
    So sad, that some ppl don't realize how much there is to be gained in life, if your only willing to reciprocate. They end up losing out on a lot. It starts out with a bang, but ends up being the sound of a flat tire. so sorry.
    Mousie is offline  
    Old 12-01-2010, 03:44 PM
      #29  
    Power Poster
     
    Join Date: Oct 2009
    Location: Idaho
    Posts: 11,375
    Default

    Show your quilts to people who will appreciate them, rather than this person.
    Sadiemae is offline  
    Old 12-01-2010, 03:55 PM
      #30  
    Senior Member
     
    Millstream Mom's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Oct 2009
    Location: New Brunswick Canada
    Posts: 540
    Default

    Sounds like one of my co-workers.... literally pouts and sulks if you don't compliment her daily. Heaven forbid you didn't notice she had on new earrings! Gah!!! Don't let her get to you - distance yourself if you find the relationship is a bit toxic to your self-esteem.

    I would LOVE to see your quilts! I find I get so much enthusiasm from seeing the love and work others put into these wonderful works of fabric art!
    Millstream Mom is offline  
    Related Topics
    Thread
    Thread Starter
    Forum
    Replies
    Last Post
    Beeflasher
    Main
    34
    04-23-2008 12:43 PM
    NewsletterBot
    Main
    0
    09-02-2007 08:41 PM
    NewsletterBot
    Main
    5
    08-25-2007 10:53 AM
    NewsletterBot
    Main
    1
    08-01-2007 07:21 AM

    Posting Rules
    You may not post new threads
    You may not post replies
    You may not post attachments
    You may not edit your posts

    BB code is On
    Smilies are On
    [IMG] code is On
    HTML code is On
    Trackbacks are Off
    Pingbacks are Off
    Refbacks are Off



    FREE Quilting Newsletter