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    Quilt shows and men

    I went to local quilt show near my home on Saturday and my husband accompanied me as I had entered a quilt I made for our grandson, it was his first quilt show. As we walked along I explained techniques and styles of quilting to him; pieced, appliqued, modern, quilted on DSM or longarm hand guided or computerized. He was in awe of the artistry of quilts and quilting methods, he pointed out methods and symmetry that he noticed. As one of the few men wandering the aisles it was interesting the number of women who commented to him that there was an area in the lobby with magazines where he could wait until I was finished looking at quilts and shopping. He commented to me as to why everyone assumed he wasn't enjoying himself or appreciating all the hard work of quilters. Yes there were men/husbands who chose the sitting area talking while their significant others strolled the aisles and seemed to be happy to be there.

    My question is do your husband/significant other go with you to quilt shows and what has been their experience? Do they enjoy looking at the quilts or sit in an area and wait for you to finish.

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    Yes, DH goes with me to Quilt shows. He really enjoys them. I haven't noticed if women try to direct him to the sitting area for men and kids. He is a social butterfly and chats away with everyone. I separate from him. I want to freely walk around and not have to wait on him.

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    I don't know. I have never gone to a quilt show with DH. He would be like okay have you seen enough quilts now? LOL He is not the type to sit and wait either. He's best left out of my quilting.
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    My late DH didn't usually go to quilt shows with me, but when he did he enjoyed looking at the quilts. Sometimes his favorites surprised me. If he was in a fabric store with me, he helped find whatever fabric I was looking for. I remember he helped me for what seemed like at least an hour, searching Fabric Depot in Portland for the deepest black that they had in a full bolt.

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    Mine would be in the car waiting and probably asleep. He doesn't care to take me to quilt stores and wait but I think a quilt show would be too much to ask of him. I think I would have more fun with him at home. Then he wouldn't know how much I really spend at the shows. LOL

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    It is a minor bone of contention that my hubby has not been to any quilt shows with me. In his defense, he does go to fabric stores with me and supports me in my desires to cut up said fabric. But to be honest, I have other friends who have never been to a quilt show with me either and I don't hold it against them.

    My son has a good eye and can draw, he would go to shows with me and point out things he liked, a lot of which was applique which I don't do... but he would remark on color choices or 3D effects and other things of interest to him.

    A number of years back I made an Ugly Tie quilt. I collected tons of old ties, particularly favoring big bold 1970s ties with colors and textures. Mostly I bought them in bags by the pound at the thrift stores. Took them home, gutted them and washed them. Oh my... ties are dirty, or at least rejected thrift store ones are! I dumped all the cleaned and gutted ties into a black plastic garbage bag, swirled them around a bit and then took a stack of brown paper lunch bags and without looking at what I grabbed, took 10 ties out of the big bag into each paper bag. Then I sat down to make a crazy quilt and took whatever I had in that bag and made a block out of it. The size of the quilt was determined by a crazy piece of polyester double knit that had a huge jaguar scenic print on the back, I do love my crazy backs and this was going to be tacked down so didn't matter that it was largely impenetrable. Anyway, the ladies in the quilt guild were rather appalled when I did submit it for the guild show, but I can tell you it was a hit with the male visitors. Saw a number of them pointing out bits and pieces (maybe some of the company logo ties like Boeing), and my son loved that quilt even though the backing meant it always would slide off the bed.

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    My husband would be miserable at a show. I know he really loves my hobby and supports me whenever he can, but, to subject him to a day at the quilt show would be un-fair of me. After all, he doesn't make me go golfing with him and I am grateful, I would hate that. I suppose it is a matter of being loyal for some men.
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    My DH takes me to the quilt shows and drops me off and tells me to take my time and enjoy. He will go find a casino or if it is in a town where we have friends, he will go have lunch and a visit with them. Otherwise he will sit in the car and listen to sports. He is very good to me to take me wherever I want to go. He does know what a fat quarter is now tho'!!!

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    My husband is quite involved in my quilting life. Visits and enjoys shows, shops quilt shops. Both of my sons and my nephew are very talented Quilters. My nephew put a gal ( in her place) about 15 years ago- letting her know- Men have Ruled the textile world for centuries. Women are the newbies when it comes to sewing, designing, creating. Any women who feel ( justified) in being negative toward guys need to take a step back.
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    We went to AQS in Paducah years ago. Had bought a new travel trailer. So I asked him if he wanted to see how beautiful Paducah is in the spring. It's gorgeous. He went into the show with me and was squished by 35,000 women. A few men but after about a half an hour, he said he would wait for me in the car. Since then he drops me off. Last couple of times we went, when we pull up with out trailer, he jumps out and asks where the golf game is. About 5 of the guys went golfing and we had dinner with one of the couples.

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    my husband is very interested in going to quilt shows and loves looking around at vendor displays and chatting about sewing machines, and loves trying out the different LA and asking questions about how they are made.
    My name is Cathy - and I'm addicted to old sewing machines and their attachments.

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    My DH always looks at the quilts I make at home but he has only attended one show with me. It was a local show and the quilt was one that his mom started and I finished for her. He treasures that quilt made just for him.

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    My Dh has gone to quilt shows with me, and usually takes a quick look around at the quilts and he's satisfied. Not me, I study the quilts and the quilting, and take a while. Generally though, if I have quilter friends available to go to a show with, he'll opt to stay home and let them go with me, unless it's Paducah---he wants to go there where the fishing is great.

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    No my husband , the few times he took me to a show, sat and waited on me! Of course i had to hurry. Then I learned to drive late in life and so glad i did. I could take him to Doctor visits and go shopping by myself.
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    Oh, gosh, no. DH is one who says, "So you are cutting up fabric to sew it back together?" He is a fan of big, fluffy comforters from the large chain store. It's all good. I don't get his appreciation for television, especially sports, either.

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    ​My husband has gone with me to one but he didn’t really enjoy it and I felt rushed. He is fine with napping in the car or leaving and picking me up later, which is fine with me.

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    My husband doesn't go with me to quilt shows. He will occasionally stop at a quilt show if we're in an area we don't usually travel and I see one. He is incredibly supportive with making/adapting anything I need for quilting, so I'm ok with him not going. I like to indulge myself with as much time as I like viewing the quilts and shopping, without worrying that he's getting bored.
    My son (who lives a great distance away) has a great eye for design and likes to figure out how quilts are made/pieced. When I go to Manitoba to see him next, I'm going to see if I can find a quilt show near him to take him to. I think he'd enjoy it.
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    No, it’s “my world”. He has “his world” which holds no interest to me.
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    My husband (aka my best friend) is a good sport about attending quilt shows with me. He enjoys looking at all the display quilts and the vendor booths. Actually, I'd probably spend less money at these shows if it weren't for him encouraging me to buy things!

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    I never go to quilt shows so it is an easy no for both of us.
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    All I can say is a flat out no. DH would have no interest in a quilt show. He supports my hobby, admires my projects when I show them to him, he ask questions and shows genuine interest in my projects, but that's where it stops. We have other hobbies that we do together as a couple, but going to a quilt show together would not be one of them. And just to add, DH does not go on vacation with me either, quilting friend and neighbor and I usually vacation together, last summer it was a week on the ocean on the coast of Maine.
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    No. I go by myself. He supports me doing whatever I want, but has no interest is going along. He goes to car shows, swap meets, and hunts. I would not want to go to any of those with him. We have found a good balance, and have plenty of things we do together.

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    Any women who feel ( justified) in being negative toward guys need to take a step back.
    I don't care who did what hundreds of years ago, I'm just glad they did it.
    The guys must have gotten tired of ruling the textile world and left it to the women when women could take it over. LOL
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    while the DH is very supportive and encouraging, he basically let's me do my own thing and vice-versa. When we were in Paducah last summer (doing the Bourbon Trail) he asked if he needed to go to the National Quilt Museum with me and I said Yes! He was fascinated and impressed with the exhibits and really enjoyed himself. Which doesn't mean he's a quilt show convert though!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Three Dog Night View Post
    My question is do your husband/significant other go with you to quilt shows and what has been their experience? Do they enjoy looking at the quilts or sit in an area and wait for you to finish.
    Not if I can possibly avoid it. He went to International Quilt Festival here in Houston with me once just to help my friend tear down her booth. It was 2001 when they had the 9/11 exhibit. He enjoyed that and was somewhat interested in some of the quilts, but I definitely don't want him shopping with me!
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