a sensitive quilt question
11-03-2010, 08:01 AM
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Originally Posted by Spring
My mother has had a very long battle with depression and threatens to take her life at least three times a year. If I ever end up in your SIL shoes a memory quilt would be hard to handle. I think that a comfort quilt would mean the world to her right now.
11-03-2010, 08:09 AM
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Originally Posted by DeneK
Agree with the majority -- no memory quilt now. You will have to wait and see how your friend feels about that later (maybe much later)
I had a difficult relationship with my mother. She has been gone 10 years, but I still don't want a memory quilt. Probably never will.
A comfort quilt from you lets her know you care and are thinking of her. Sounds better to me.
I had a difficult relationship with my mother. She has been gone 10 years, but I still don't want a memory quilt. Probably never will.
A comfort quilt from you lets her know you care and are thinking of her. Sounds better to me.
11-03-2010, 08:09 AM
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Originally Posted by merridancer
Originally Posted by DeneK
Agree with the majority -- no memory quilt now. You will have to wait and see how your friend feels about that later (maybe much later)
I had a difficult relationship with my mother. She has been gone 10 years, but I still don't want a memory quilt. Probably never will.
A comfort quilt from you lets her know you care and are thinking of her. Sounds better to me.
I had a difficult relationship with my mother. She has been gone 10 years, but I still don't want a memory quilt. Probably never will.
A comfort quilt from you lets her know you care and are thinking of her. Sounds better to me.
11-03-2010, 08:22 AM
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I definately say if you want to make your SIL a quilt ~make it a comfort quilt.. Memory quilt would be too hard.. I have lost more than 1 that was dear(family members and friends) this way and truly memories are better kept to self and now for sure will be hard time for her and it will most likely always affect her. Blessings to her and make a comfort quilt.. She will need much comfort!
11-03-2010, 09:31 AM
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Originally Posted by sahm4605
okay ladies, this is a very sensitive subject. My SIL's mom just passed away saturday. Not to get into the details but she took her own life. I am wanting to do something for my SIL and was thinking about making a memory quit for her. But I don't know if it is a good idea. there are many issues with their relationship, but she was her mom. Do you ladies think that it would be a good idea to make a memory quilt for my sil, even though her mom took her own life? (it was do to a life long battle of horrible depression at least that is what I have been told) I am even hesitent to ask because it is a very touchy subject for me as well as for my SIL. Do you ladies think that this is a good idea or should I not go there?
11-03-2010, 09:34 AM
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The idea of a memory quilt is wonderful, but I'd wait awhile before talking to your SIL about the content. My mother suffered from severe depression for many years and died very young. I would give anything to have a memory quilt of her short life, but I was young and too dumb to realize how valuable an item like that would be in the years to come.
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