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Thread: Should I start quilting club back up???

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    For several years a group of us ladies got together every week and spent most of the day sitting around quilting, visiting, helping each other and having lunch together. We had a lot of fun doing this. And then it started going sour. We started out piecing our quilts by hand and quilting in hoops, each working on their own things. Then we set up a frame. We took turns quilting on quilts for each other. Some of the ladies would just show up to quilt when theirs was in the frame, then they started bickering about the correct way to do it. They would forget who was supposed to provide lunch that day. One of the ladies showed up drunk and fell off her chair and we had to call an ambulance. All of the meetings took place in my home so I had all the mess to worry with each week. I never got any work done on my own stuff because I was always helping someone else. I didn't mind that at all. I enjoy helping someoneelse. But, with all the desention, it got to where i was dreading quilting day. So, I called it off until further notice. Now, they are all wanting to start the group back up. I have serious reservations. But, these are some good friends and I do enjoy them. Just not all the hastles. What do you think? Should I get the club started back again???

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    Not unless the location rotates so that you don't have all the cleanup!

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    WOW! What a group. Why don't you find a church fellowship hall or library room, some place other than your home to meet. Set some guidelines. If you're close to one of the ladies, maybe you could do it together.

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    Personally speaking, I wouldn't. If you want to though, do as ssgramma suggests.

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    I would suggest rotating homes between all the ladies or find a room maybe at a quilt shop or something where you could meet monthly. How about printing a schedule of who's responsible for what and handing it out? If you think you would enjoy doing it again, by all means you should do it. Maybe some of the ladies who want to start it back up would have some suggestions how to make it work more smoothly.

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    I like ssgrammas idea, make it on a rotating location!

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    From your description it sounds like some rules need to be set down.
    Problem 1: Some people only showed up when their quilt was in the frame.
    Problem 2: One person showed up drunk (not a good sign at lunchtime!)
    Problem 3: Not rotating homes.
    Problem 4: You didn't get to work on anything for you.
    Problem 5: People forgetting who's supposed to bring lunch.

    Unless these issues can be resolved I would either find another group or not start it up again!!!

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    I agree with rotating locations or a public room and everyone bring their own lunch. I think I'd also have everyone work on their own project. Good luck

    Susan

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    If you decide to start meeting again, I agree with ssgramma, you need to find somewhere other than someone's house to meet. Also, I think you all need to work on your own projects that way no one will need to be so critical of others work. Then they need to take their projects home. It seems like they took advantage of you.
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    If there is interest from others to start it up then let them do it. You need to enjoy the group and not have all the responsibility.

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    Think about setting some rules...I think if you could do that you might be able to have a successful and fun group!

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    You were being walked on, dear...if you start this up again, you will need a few rules to be handed out to your friends...
    You will need guidelines...at the first meeting these need to be discussed before any sewing starts...if someone doesn't like the new rules....well...........
    A sign up sheet for lunches...or order lunches delivered...for a fee.
    A sign up sheet for clean up each week would be nice.
    As to the ones that only show up for there own quilts to be quilted...charge them frame time.
    Sorry if this sounds a bit harse, but some of these friends are looking for freebees...

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    Quote Originally Posted by quilter1943
    WOW! What a group. Why don't you find a church fellowship hall or library room, some place other than your home to meet. Set some guidelines. If you're close to one of the ladies, maybe you could do it together.
    I agree with this one, you need to set rules. Otherwise set up hidden cameras, so they can see their behavior.

    May be this could be a start of something else, a TV show in the coming. :P

    Quilting Ladies behaving badly!

    I'm sorry, don't want to put oil into your fire. I wish I had a group to go to and quilt. It's a wonderful idea.

    Now you know what could go wrong, so set the limits. Be honest, this is not a get together to loose manners or for having bad attitude.

    They would let you know should you do this to them.

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    maybe you could all take turns playing hostess? and spread around the mess...hastles?
    or perhaps you could use a community room...our little quilt group meets in the basement of the libriary, the room is available free of charge to any community members...we just have to clean up after ourselves....town halls, grange halls also often are willing to share their space during off times.

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    I belong to a sewing group and love it. But we only meet once a month. We do rotate who's house not all of us have a space large enough for all of us and our machines.

    We sort of assigned ourselves what to bring or do:
    I bring the morning donuts paying special attention to purchase everyone's favorite
    One brings various coffees and pot if necessary for all to enjoy
    One gal is a dessert guru and she always brings the lunch dessert
    We all bring our own soft drinks so the hostess doesn't have to purchase extra stuff
    One brings extra sewing tables

    We all pitch in help for cleanup IF the hostess will allow. We also meet other times during the month for BOM clubs, shop hops, and the like.

    We don't have any squabbles between us. If one of us has a problem with someone else, they step off in another room, talk about it, and come back all is done and right with the world.

    If we did meet once a week, that would really be pushing it. I do believe we would get on each others nerves a bit.

    I love my sewing group and am very thankful for the friendships it has brought to me. In that I feel blessed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sueisallaboutquilts
    From your description it sounds like some rules need to be set down.
    Problem 1: Some people only showed up when their quilt was in the frame.
    Problem 2: One person showed up drunk (not a good sign at lunchtime!)
    Problem 3: Not rotating homes.
    Problem 4: You didn't get to work on anything for you.
    Problem 5: People forgetting who's supposed to bring lunch.

    Unless these issues can be resolved I would either find another group or not start it up again!!!
    Yep.

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    I get lonely when I quilt but vote no.

    Some women are just not past High School reguardless what age.

    The quilt bees were from a time of social need. Not just blankets.

    good luck with your decision.
    ell

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    Quote Originally Posted by crashnquilt
    I belong to a sewing group and love it. But we only meet once a month. We do rotate who's house not all of us have a space large enough for all of us and our machines.

    We sort of assigned ourselves what to bring or do:
    I bring the morning donuts paying special attention to purchase everyone's favorite
    One brings various coffees and pot if necessary for all to enjoy
    One gal is a dessert guru and she always brings the lunch dessert
    We all bring our own soft drinks so the hostess doesn't have to purchase extra stuff
    One brings extra sewing tables

    We all pitch in help for cleanup IF the hostess will allow. We also meet other times during the month for BOM clubs, shop hops, and the like.

    We don't have any squabbles between us. If one of us has a problem with someone else, they step off in another room, talk about it, and come back all is done and right with the world.

    If we did meet once a week, that would really be pushing it. I do believe we would get on each others nerves a bit.

    I love my sewing group and am very thankful for the friendships it has brought to me. In that I feel blessed.
    This is the way I would do it too.
    We had a scrapbooking/rubber stamping group and thats how we did ours....
    As for quilting group I just go to the local LA's shop any evening and we have our own machines and projects. We mainly get togehter just to get advice and ideas and visit with each other, and to get out during the long winter. Once in awhile one of us may bring a snack to share.

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    I love hosting but after awhile I like to sit back and enjoy also. I would definitely rotate locations for those who would like to open their homes. It should be an enjoyment for everyone. A give and take from each one! Let the others do some organizing and getting it together. I think you have contributed in the past!! Tooooo much work to have it at one home everytime and most certainly who wants unacceptable behavior from others in ones home.

    Perhaps shorten your get together time and keep the conversation on a positive note! You'll see who is serious about getting some quilting done and who is just looking for something or some place to hang out for the day!

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    I think I have read all the posts so am I right that you are the only one with the quiting frame? If so, how about rotating meeting sites and the week it is your turn you quilt on someones quilt all together. I would definitely ask everyone to bring their own sack lunch except for special occasions. Hostess could provide coffee, tea and soft drinks.

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    Its too bad about the bee part. But that's the way it always goes. Limit your quilt frame to charity projects. And find a public hall. Quilting bees were always about socializing, hope it works out.

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    I belong to a group that meets weekly. We meet in the basement of a former church - my studio is upstairs. We all bring our own lunches each week, except the last meeting of the month and that one is potluck. We all work on our own projects, charity quilts or raffle quilts for local organizations. I've belonged for over 3 years and thoroughly enjoy the group.

    No one has shown up drunk... (OMG!!!)

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    Of course they want the group to start up again :-), they didn't have to do anything but enjoy their 'day out'.
    I agree with the others, rotate, talk about rules and perhaps only 1 bee every 2 weeks?

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    I agree with rules - I have never belonged to a quilt club - I don't even know if there is one nearby - I'm new at this - but I would think everyone should contribute equally.

    Quote Originally Posted by lovingmama
    Quote Originally Posted by quilter1943
    WOW! What a group. Why don't you find a church fellowship hall or library room, some place other than your home to meet. Set some guidelines. If you're close to one of the ladies, maybe you could do it together.
    I agree with this one, you need to set rules. Otherwise set up hidden cameras, so they can see their behavior.

    May be this could be a start of something else, a TV show in the coming. :P

    Quilting Ladies behaving badly!

    I'm sorry, don't want to put oil into your fire. I wish I had a group to go to and quilt. It's a wonderful idea.

    Now you know what could go wrong, so set the limits. Be honest, this is not a get together to loose manners or for having bad attitude.

    They would let you know should you do this to them.

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    I thank you all for your comments. You've all had some good suggestions and comments. If I do decide to do this again, I think I'll suggest rotating houses and meals. I think working on our own projects would work out better too. that way if one person didn't carry their own weight, it wouldn't matter. The whole idea was to have time with friends soing something we all enjoy, sharing ideas and patterns, books and new ways of doing things and having fun together.

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