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Thread: Should I teach my husband to quilt?

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    My DH THOUGHT he wanted to learn to quilt because he had grown up watching his grandmother when she pieced. So, he bought a pattern and some fat quarters. THEN, he cut the pieces into 5"squares and began the piecing step. He found out he likes the IDEA of quilting rather than the actual process. Now, he butts into my work and tries to tell me a better way to do something. I wish he would leave me alone and let me have MY hobby. He plays golf with some of his friends and when he does, I STAY HOME. He has his golf and I want my QUILTING.

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    It's a wonderful idea to share such a fun passion with your DH and it would be great for you to have an "in house' quilting buddy... that is IF it would work. It depends on how well you and your hubby rub along while working together or in small areas. Maybe you could give it a try and work out some guidelines together? (such as asking before cutting up stash)
    For instance: How do you do together in the kitchen? My DH and I don't share the kitchen very well. He is a wonderful cook and I know I am blessed. But, when cooking together, he tries to take over whatever I am doing and he uses every pan we own and makes a huge mess, while I am a "clean as you go along" type of cook and my slwness drives him crazy. ... I can't imagine sharing my sewing space with him. I'd get upset at the mess. He needs a hobby too, but maybe one that doesn't use the same resources.
    Good luck in helping your DH find his passion!

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    Definitely teach him to quilt but make sure he has his own quilting space.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anna.425 View Post
    Definitely teach him to quilt but make sure he has his own quilting space.
    Make sure he takes a class so he won't be overwhelmed by your expertise. I think it would be fun. Just think of how much more stash you can accumulate. If you have some really fav's you don't want him to touch--label it. I wish my DH would do that instead of falling asleep in front of the tv. He has promised me a sewing room addition, but don't know when that will happen.

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    Why not? My husband does needlepoint & counted cross-stitch (though he hasn't done any for a long time), and he gives me input when I'm stuck on a quilt. I really value his input, because it turns out he's got a phenomenal eye for pattern & color, and has been able to help me get un-stuck.

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    You and I have something in common! My husband retired 1 1/2 yrs. ago from the Burlington/Northern Santa Fe Railroad where he worked for 36 yrs. We could never plan on doing anything with him. If he was at home, fine, but he was often gone for over 24 hrs. The phone would ring and he was gone within an hour.
    I quilt. My sister, nieces and I quilted together. My Mother and aunts quilted. My two Grandmothers quilted. They all quilted by hand and pieced the quilts by hand. When we showed my Mom how to use the rotary cutter and sew the quilts by hand, she realized how much quicker she could make quilts for her 24 grandchildren and 50 greatgrandchildren!

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    OMG!!! My husband is the same way....and I will not teach him. I want my hobby to be my hobby. I'm sure he will be very good at it, however, I am getting ready to go to a Longarm Class at the Longarm University and he wants to go with me......lol. I will give up quilting first...LOL.

    Good Luck

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    I did!

    When I first started Quilting my husband decided he wanted to do it as well. So we bought him a sewing machine, a rotary cutter as it was a pain sharing the tools.

    He made a wall hanging and a small quilt. When he made the quilt the first block he made was a fire bird. He is a prefectionist so he did a very good job. But after that he went on to something else.

    I do suggest to him that he should do some more but he seems to have lost interest.

    He did mention one day that he would like to learn how to use my short arm quilting frame. So when we get home in from being snowbirds I will show him how to do that.

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    I think it might be fun for both of you but I'd strongly caution you against trying to teach him yourself. Suggest he sign up for a beginning class so he'll get an idea about what's involved and find out if he really wants to pursue this hobby. You will have something to discuss and you can be his "resident consultant" but you won't have the stress of being his teacher. If the bug bites, then he'll be on his way. If not, then he'll still have greater understanding of what you do AND you won't wonder if you did something "wrong" trying to teach him. It will be HIS decision whether to continue or not. If he does, he will undoubtedly begin to develop his own style and/or go his own direction in the hobby and won't feel "obligated" to do it YOUR way. You'll both learn from each other.

    You might also suggest that he accompany you to a quilt show, on a "Shop Hop" or to your local guild meetings. Discuss the quilts in quilt books and magazines -- which ones "grab" his attention? what colorways does he gravitate to? (you both might be surprised!) People can get involved in hobbies in many different ways and trying to teach him how YOU do it might be too stressful for both of you.

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    Might be a little too much togetherness. Just a thought.

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    I wish my DH had hobbies. All he wants to do is "go out" to the same ol' places and I'd like to stay home and enjoy all the things I didn't have time for before retirement. I'd love if he got the quilt bug.

    As far as tools go--in garment factories men were traditionally the "cutters" a more prestigious position than machine operators. Historically men have been knitters, weavers, netters, tailors, etc. I suspect having a husband as a quilting buddy would depend on how much you enjoyed each others company, not on his abilities.

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    WONDERFUL idea....I think you will enjoy it together.....double your stash...move to bigger room ....buy another machine lol win win
    Margie....wannaBsewer
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    But Love and I had the wit to win,
    We drew a circle that took him in!

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    I think it is a great idea. My dad was fascinated by quilting and also machine embroidery. We combined the two. Mom, dad, and I had our own 'assigned' duties. We bought a long arm and he was into learning that. Unfortunately my mom became ill and it all came to a halt. Now I have lost both of them. It was great while it lasted. I think he is looking for your companionship also. Have fun!! Enjoy!! but tell him he has to get his own toys!!

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    Two people, two lives, share what you can, accept what is private, find something you can do together - a THIRD THING. It is the third things - the things you both decide to do because you want to be together, which will entwine your lives.

    If as you said in a recent post you have been quilting for 20 years, and now your husband is bored and needs something to do, why not use the opportunity to do something you both can grow with? He needs your attention; that is why he sits in your room. Why not get out of your room and do something with him?
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    I think It's a great idea. When we go on vacation, my husband always makes it a point to stop at quilt shops along the way. While I don't think he will learn how to quilt, he is very supportive of my hobby. We are both retired and each have our own hobbies to follow and support each other in them.

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    Hate to sound selfish, but... I would not teach my husband to quilt. He is very competitive and would make my life miserable by telling me how I could do it better. I would give up because nothing would be good enough. He is an excellent carpenter and would be a meticulous quilter. We have been married for 46 years and do it by each having our own thing, which the other appreciates but does not share. At least in our case "paralell play is best.
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    I think it's a great idea. My husband is so supportive and helpful with my quilting when he has time. I can't wait for him to retire so he can learn more and quilt along side me. I bet your husband would love it too!
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    My DH comes into my craft room sometimes and putters around. He's good at rotary cutting and once I gave him a job of PP'g a pile of flying geese for me on my spare machine. He enjoyed it. When anyone comes over and sees the quilt he points to the flying geese and says "I did that part!"
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    Why not? You can teach him and if he doesn't like it, neither of you has lost anything. If anything, you gained some precious time together.

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    By all means, give it a try.
    He can always say NO if he doesn't like it.
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    I think it would be great for your husband (but not for mine) He would probably 'show me up'.
    He can do everything and anything. And..he has a big wood shop,and plenty of other hobbies
    so I don't see that happening anyway. If I get stuck on something, jhe can always figure it out.
    Everybody needs to have something they like to do.

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    I agree with Dina. I think it would be wonderful if my husband was interested in quilting too. I say go for it!

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    I think it is great idea! I have also "planted" a bug in my husbands ear.

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    My daughter-in-law's mother AND father got intrigued by quilts on a fall New England trip to see the changing foliage colors. Now they BOTH quilt and fight over one sewing machine. LOL Go for it!
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    Quote Originally Posted by polly13 View Post
    My husband took an interest in my cooking. He now rejects my suggestions for menus by saying, "I thought we might have..." I have happily let him take over the cooking so I can spend my time in my quilting room. I'm so happy he hasn't taken an interest in that. I'm afraid he would be underfoot.
    THIS is the hobby I want my husband to take an interest in...I suggested quilting...he said no. Then I said that I think doing menu planning and cooking would be the perfect hobby for him...he said no again - dang...
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