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07-26-2011, 05:15 PM

#71

Janice Thompson

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Location: Traverse City, Michigan

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Starting your own group sounds like the solution. I would talk to the hostess in private and express your feelings and perhaps she would be willing to give you tips or come in and help when problems arise.

07-26-2011, 05:56 PM

#72

Glassquilt

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Location: Northeast IL

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Originally Posted by Limey

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glassquilt

If you don't feel comfortable speaking about it, write it down, put it in envelopes, seal them and hand everyone a copy as you leave. Very hard to dismiss your insightful comments when written. It will give them something to think about & talk about. It may open their eyes. If it doesn't you're better off without them.

Don't agree about writing it down;you may offend everyone, not just the complainers, and you may want to work with them again. Best bet would be to talk to organizer privately and make your decision based on her response.

The spoken word is very difficult for me. It would be especially hard in the situation described at this group. I would be unable to say what I wanted to. I could however politely write it down.

07-26-2011, 06:46 PM

#73

Anna.425

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Going, going, GONE!

07-26-2011, 06:48 PM

#74

murphyj5

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Join Date: Jun 2011

Location: colorado

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go every other month. still keeps you in touch with the kind ladies that actually teach you skills but don't have to deal with the "organ recitals" as often!

07-26-2011, 07:15 PM

#75

Landers

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Join Date: Mar 2011

Location: Lincoln CA

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Your story sounds like one or two that I have had and have seen others go through.

It is really hard to belong to a group that is well established. I can't tell you to go or not to go. You have to weigh the odds. I have a BFF that also is experiencing the same thing. So far she has hung in there. She just doesn't go as often to the group. I thnk she needs a little interaction with others. It does help to keep our spirits up. They may change their attitudes not seeing you at the meetings all the time. It may help them. Some people tends to wonder about others when they are not present and then glad to see them when that person shows up.

07-26-2011, 08:03 PM

#76

GrannyHanaDa

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Location: Wisconsin

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You and the other gal start a group of your own.

07-26-2011, 08:07 PM

#77

Sheree from Chicago

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Location: Chicago, Illinois

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Sounds more like a "stitch & bitch" than applique bee!

07-26-2011, 09:54 PM

#78

ShirlR

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Location: The Beautiful Willamette Valley In Oregon

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Originally Posted by rosemary krupski

I would probably leave BUT if you decide to stay, sit near the hostess where you can learn something. I don't know about you but when I am concentrating on something, I can pretty well block out everything around me. If the hostess is quiet most of the time, you two would make a good sewing pair. Good luck on your decision.

I agree with Rosemary, I would probably leave, but her advice to sit near the hostess sounds like a good plan if you want to give your final decision a little more time.

07-27-2011, 01:26 PM

#79

Ellen 1

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Location: Colorado

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Originally Posted by MellieKQuilter

I say stop going. Negativity begets negativity... why not host something in your own home once a month? This way you can invite the few that are pleasant and helpful (and worl on your own but get help during this time), and you all can help each other at this event
. Make it a Saturday Social or something, and keep it small and enjoyable. I would bet the others would love it! :) Just keep in mind, no complaining about the other ladies. Start fresh and keep this POSITIVE. :)

Great advise!!!

07-27-2011, 01:29 PM

#80

mar32428

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Location: Winter PArk, Florida

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Originally Posted by susie-susie-susie

It seems to me that you will loose nothing if you bring it up the the hostess/organizer. It sounds like she is getting fed up with the complaining since she is usually so quiet at the meetings. If I am wrong, you will loose nothing since you are ready to quit anyway. Then you can begin another group and eliminate the complainers/nasty ladies. There was no excuse for that person to jump all over you that way. Good luck, and speak up for yourself. It's not worth the agrivation just to improve your applique.
Sue

Had the same problem with my ASG group. Always whining and complaining. I finally stood up one meeting ans told them how I felt and unless things changed, I would not be back. Then a couple of others echoed my feelings. Things are a lot different now and happier. Sometimes it helps to speak out.