To stay or go...Applique Bee
07-26-2011, 05:15 PM
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Starting your own group sounds like the solution. I would talk to the hostess in private and express your feelings and perhaps she would be willing to give you tips or come in and help when problems arise.
07-26-2011, 05:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Limey
Originally Posted by Glassquilt
If you don't feel comfortable speaking about it, write it down, put it in envelopes, seal them and hand everyone a copy as you leave. Very hard to dismiss your insightful comments when written. It will give them something to think about & talk about. It may open their eyes. If it doesn't you're better off without them.
07-26-2011, 07:15 PM
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Your story sounds like one or two that I have had and have seen others go through.
It is really hard to belong to a group that is well established. I can't tell you to go or not to go. You have to weigh the odds. I have a BFF that also is experiencing the same thing. So far she has hung in there. She just doesn't go as often to the group. I thnk she needs a little interaction with others. It does help to keep our spirits up. They may change their attitudes not seeing you at the meetings all the time. It may help them. Some people tends to wonder about others when they are not present and then glad to see them when that person shows up.
It is really hard to belong to a group that is well established. I can't tell you to go or not to go. You have to weigh the odds. I have a BFF that also is experiencing the same thing. So far she has hung in there. She just doesn't go as often to the group. I thnk she needs a little interaction with others. It does help to keep our spirits up. They may change their attitudes not seeing you at the meetings all the time. It may help them. Some people tends to wonder about others when they are not present and then glad to see them when that person shows up.
07-26-2011, 09:54 PM
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Originally Posted by rosemary krupski
I would probably leave BUT if you decide to stay, sit near the hostess where you can learn something. I don't know about you but when I am concentrating on something, I can pretty well block out everything around me. If the hostess is quiet most of the time, you two would make a good sewing pair. Good luck on your decision.
07-27-2011, 01:26 PM
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Originally Posted by MellieKQuilter
I say stop going. Negativity begets negativity... why not host something in your own home once a month? This way you can invite the few that are pleasant and helpful (and worl on your own but get help during this time), and you all can help each other at this event
. Make it a Saturday Social or something, and keep it small and enjoyable. I would bet the others would love it! :) Just keep in mind, no complaining about the other ladies. Start fresh and keep this POSITIVE. :)
. Make it a Saturday Social or something, and keep it small and enjoyable. I would bet the others would love it! :) Just keep in mind, no complaining about the other ladies. Start fresh and keep this POSITIVE. :)
07-27-2011, 01:29 PM
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Originally Posted by susie-susie-susie
It seems to me that you will loose nothing if you bring it up the the hostess/organizer. It sounds like she is getting fed up with the complaining since she is usually so quiet at the meetings. If I am wrong, you will loose nothing since you are ready to quit anyway. Then you can begin another group and eliminate the complainers/nasty ladies. There was no excuse for that person to jump all over you that way. Good luck, and speak up for yourself. It's not worth the agrivation just to improve your applique.
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