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Old 01-13-2021, 02:15 AM
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Originally Posted by SusieQOH View Post
I have quite a large family but I'm the only one who sews so everyone thinks I make masterpieces! (believe me, I don't). However, it does feel good when someone admires my work, especially people I'm close to. I made my cousin a quilt for Christmas and she went wild- her exact words were "It's a masterpiece!!!" Okay, if she thinks so that's fine with me
My Mom was probably my biggest fan and she died in 2019. I still want to show her things and of course make things for her. She always made me feel like a million bucks. My Dad did too. Ugh- It's hard.
About parents- when I lost my Dad ( he died before my Mom) a very good friend told me "You don't get over it but you learn to live with it". She was so right.
Susie you made me laugh out loud. My mother would think my pieces were masterpieces too and she would make me laugh because my creations weren't either. I would always say it isn't a masterpiece but I do think it is the most beautiful thing I've ever made. But I think that often. Still do. I love making beautiful things and I love the things I make. And in response to someone else, I don't do donation quilts but I do give them all away to family and friends whether they want them or not. I'm kidding, they all want them and I think love them. I have given quilts for raffles too where a stranger would win them and made lots of baby quilts for babies I don't know. But everything I would make I would also show my mother first. Oh I'm not a big baby and will continue to make things, I guess I was just missing that part of it. I don't do Facebook but I will definitely relook at some guilds in the area and try to find some creative friends. Thank you all so much. You are all so kind. I have to get ready for work now. I get to be creative at work too, that is why I love my job so much. Have a blessed day.
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Old 01-13-2021, 03:24 AM
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I love the Sew and Tell at my local guild...where we show our projects and share info. on the journey we took to make it!

Please share your quilting projects with us on the Quilting board...so we can admire your projects.
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Old 01-13-2021, 04:08 AM
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I also miss showing my Mom things that I made.

My Mom was one of those people that looked at the back side of needlework to see if it was neat and the inside of garments to see how the seams were finished. I do that, too.

My Mom seldom criticized my efforts, but she did know the difference between beginner level and wow, great work!

She is a hard act t o follow! Now that I am older and somewhat more aware,, I wonder what she would have been able to accomplish if her circumstances had been more conducive to creating.

Rest in peace, Mom!

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Old 01-13-2021, 04:27 AM
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I'm glad I made you laugh, Deborah!
Yeah, I'm kind of glad I'm the only one who sews haha Even my brothers are in awe of my talent (?)
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Old 01-13-2021, 06:14 AM
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I quilt and create for myself. The validation is an extra perk in the process. Post your pictures here we all love to go gaga over what others have done. Looking forward to seeing your workmanship.
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Old 01-13-2021, 09:14 AM
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I do understand the need for validation! I am the only one in my family that quilts. My BFF quilts, but lives 40+ miles away, and has a totally different style than I do. When I make something, I second, third, and fourth guess what I've done. I have posted here, and on my Facebook page, and have always gotten wonderful comments. I really enjoy quilting and strive for "perfection" and always feel like I'm falling short! You are right though...I usually think whatever I have just finished is the most beautiful thing I have ever made!
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Old 01-13-2021, 09:46 AM
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My sister of my heart is a artist of fine art, real talented I have made her a few quilts, the first was my midnight, and she thought I was the best quilter ever! she lives in Oregon, she came to visit me here in Ky. of course I took her and her sister to the quilt museum in Paducah, BIG mistake! LOL I so fell off my pedestal, she saw what real quilt artist can do. I am just a simple quilter doing what I love to do. and that's OK with me. If you haven't seen any of my quilts I have a album here on the board, enjoy, as I enjoyed making them, I love log cabin quilts with different blocks, get bored making the same block over and over, so like to mix it up.
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Old 01-13-2021, 10:53 AM
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I just want to make a comment about validation to all of you who have shared beautiful memories of your validation experiences. Back in my cross stitch days I was in the middle of a project to be for my mother. Halfway through, I showed it to her and told her it was for her and she glanced at it and said, "Oh, I don't really like that home made stuff". I tossed the project in the trash and never ever made anything for my mother. Then I discovered quilting and became decent at it. I made a quilt for my only granddaughter, an adult school teacher. It consisted of 12in blocks of appliqued owls sitting on tree limbs. It was adorable and I was so proud of it and thought maybe she would hang it in her school room. I visited her a couple months later and noticed it folded up on a shelf in the linen closet. So quilting friends, enjoy all the validation you receive. Lap it up, and start your next quilt.
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Old 01-13-2021, 11:02 AM
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rvsfan, I will buy the owl quilt off the shelf. I have a pattern for that but have not made it yet. I would go gu gu over it. My Daughter and Mother praise the things I show them and my HB. You do need some validation sometimes. It makes you feel happy..
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Old 01-13-2021, 01:22 PM
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Originally Posted by rvsfan View Post
I just want to make a comment about validation to all of you who have shared beautiful memories of your validation experiences. Back in my cross stitch days I was in the middle of a project to be for my mother. Halfway through, I showed it to her and told her it was for her and she glanced at it and said, "Oh, I don't really like that home made stuff". I tossed the project in the trash and never ever made anything for my mother. Then I discovered quilting and became decent at it. I made a quilt for my only granddaughter, an adult school teacher. It consisted of 12in blocks of appliqued owls sitting on tree limbs. It was adorable and I was so proud of it and thought maybe she would hang it in her school room. I visited her a couple months later and noticed it folded up on a shelf in the linen closet. So quilting friends, enjoy all the validation you receive. Lap it up, and start your next quilt.
I'm sorry your mother and granddaughter didn't appreciate what you had made but I'm sure we have all had that happen. I remember myself making my sister-in-law a cross stitch for her kitchen. It was near perfect and so pretty and I remember wanting to keep it but I gave it to her instead. I clearly recall the disappointment in her face that it was her gift. I probably spent 40 or 50 hours on it. I never made her anything again. My stepdaugther too, she has 3 children and when the kids were young, I always made them matching outfits. There wasn't a matching set that they didn't go get their pictures taken in. Yet one Xmas she came right out and said that she didn't want any handmade things to be their gifts. It was as if she wanted the things but they had no value and didn't count as a gift. They always got other gifts too. It was very upsetting and her dad didn't talk to her for a long time knowing the time and care I put into the things I made. But neither bothered me other than recalling the bad feelings at the time because that just gave me more time to make for those who like my things and appreciate homemade goods.

Personally, anything anyone has ever made me, no matter how small never gets thrown away. Things could be worn out and torn and I keep them because I treasure the fact that someone thought enough of me to make me something.

Thank goodness that you kept on making and disregarded the disappointment. The world needs more makers and creative souls and I'm glad you are still one.
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