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Thread: When does the quilting obsession create QUILTY GUILT???

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    Super Member SueSew's Avatar
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    How do you know you've pushed the limits on quilting time?????????
    When does family or work put the guilt trip on you? What do you do to keep the balance?

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    My family, DH and DD think ANY amount of time is too much. Therefore, I am guilty a lot! Little do they know I am going go my first quilt show tomorrow. It is about an hour away, but I can be home before they are. Being a little sneaky isn't bad is it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by hensandhollyhocks
    My family, DH and DD think ANY amount of time is too much. Therefore, I am guilty a lot! Little do they know I am going go my first quilt show tomorrow. It is about an hour away, but I can be home before they are. Being a little sneaky isn't bad is it?
    Sounds like your family needs to get a life and let you have one!

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    My hubby doesn't care how much time I spend quilting or playing in my sewing room.

    My guilt comes from NOT spending as much time as I want and should. I can go for long periods without sewing a single stitch, even tho in my head I have so many quilts, table runners, mug rugs, place mats etc that I WANT to work on but my body doesn't follow thru. I actually will lay in bed at night thinking how much I want to accomplish and be upset with myself for not doing a single thing ... just on the computer too much. Like now!

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    Quote Originally Posted by wraez
    My hubby doesn't care how much time I spend quilting or playing in my sewing room.

    My guilt comes from NOT spending as much time as I want and should. I can go for long periods without sewing a single stitch, even tho in my head I have so many quilts, table runners, mug rugs, place mats etc that I WANT to work on but my body doesn't follow thru. I actually will lay in bed at night thinking how much I want to accomplish and be upset with myself for not doing a single thing ... just on the computer too much. Like now!
    Yup what she said!

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    Not to worry, (me that is), retired, and live alone, so it only affects me. My friends asked this, "What do you do in your spare time? I said "sleep."
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    When my kids were little I found time to quilt when they napped etc and also some other times as well. As long as they were busy I would get some sewing time in.
    My kids and hubby seemed to realize that sewing time for me made me a happier person! That, in turn, made me a nicer wife/Mom LOL
    Now that they're grown I have more time- but I don't think I'll ever have as much time as I'd like, say 24/7 LOL :D

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    NEVER HAHAHAHAH

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dolphyngyrl
    NEVER HAHAHAHAH
    Ditto. :lol:

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    I do not feel guilty at all! I spent a lot of years running kids to and from events, having balanced meals on the table at a certain time so everyone could get to where they needed to be, or do what they needed to do, Kept house work up, laundry done, snacks ready, was the offical taxi for sports, unoffical tutor ect. Worked out of the home and kept a job I really didnt care for, because I was able to flex my hrs around the needs of my DH and 3 kids. Now kids are grown, and DH and I are both retired, He says I desirve to be happy in my retirement so Do what you want! We still do a lot together, trips, fishing, gardening, playing with DGK but if I want to takeoff for a couple of days to go to a quilt show, I do not ask, can I go? Just tell him where I'm off to and call when I arrive, so he knows I'm not dead in the ditch some where. LOL I always ask if he wants to go, he askes do you want me to drive? If I say no he will usually stay home. The last time he suprised me and said he wanted to go with to the Sew Expo, That was the trip he got me my first long arm! Never would have bought it without his pushing me.LOL

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    When I go for several days without cooking a decent meal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hensandhollyhocks
    My family, DH and DD think ANY amount of time is too much. Therefore, I am guilty a lot! Little do they know I am going go my first quilt show tomorrow. It is about an hour away, but I can be home before they are. Being a little sneaky isn't bad is it?
    not even if you get caught!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SueSew
    How do you know you've pushed the limits on quilting time?????????
    When does family or work put the guilt trip on you? What do you do to keep the balance?
    only you know that.. If you feel guilty then there obviously is a problem...

    My house will never be perfect, I will feed them cold sandwiches for dinner, and yes, I may have laundry that needs washing, but never will the time for quilting take over the time for my lil one & hubby.. She/they come first.. She will be grown up before I know it I can all the time for me after that..

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    Quote Originally Posted by wraez
    My hubby doesn't care how much time I spend quilting or playing in my sewing room.

    My guilt comes from NOT spending as much time as I want and should. I can go for long periods without sewing a single stitch, even tho in my head I have so many quilts, table runners, mug rugs, place mats etc that I WANT to work on but my body doesn't follow thru. I actually will lay in bed at night thinking how much I want to accomplish and be upset with myself for not doing a single thing ... just on the computer too much. Like now!
    I can sooo agree with you on this!!!
    K

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    I know I've pushed the limit when...my legs hurt to stand up, it hurts to move my shoulders and arms and the kink in the back of my neck is screaming ENOUGH ALREADY!!!!
    Rarely, do I get any friction from DH about my quilting time, unless, he feels I need a tea break and to stretch alittle. After all...a Happy Wife is more fun to be around than a guilt-ridden unhappy one.

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    i'm very lucky because DH is an artist also so he understands how the passion can get in the way of other things.

    when i'm in the zone he steps up and keeps day to day life running in our home and with our family and i do the same for him when he's in the zone.

    i do try to run my artistic life like a full time job with set hours monday thru friday so that i can spend the weekend with my family.

    for the most part this has worked very well and its rare that i have to work over the weekend on my art.

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    I never feel guilty cos of the pleasure I see on people's faces when I give them one of my quilts.

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    Quilting is like therapy. My family and quilting both need me, and I need them, therefore I quilt when I can and spend time with family when needed.

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    I give to work daily Mon - Sat during the day and family Mon - Sat at night except Friday's. I quilt with a friend. One Monday out of the month for my guild, and Sunday's are 1/2 with family, 1/4 cleaning house, and the rest sewing.

    Everyone is happy!

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    I just make dates with my sewing room, No guilt I sewed lots of stuff for my kids when they were younger - now I have my Grandsons to sew for (The guilt I get it mommy guilt) when they ask me for something and I say no I beat myself up....I wont have as much guilt now that I will be going back to work....

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    While kids are at school and hubby is at work I combine sewing and house(heavy on sewing). I also help with my MIL. When the boys come home from school we do homework and dinner. When watching TV with hubby I have hand work to do. After everyone goes to bed I have been known to do some quiet sewing too. I never feel guilty about any of my quilting, I have spent so many years doing for others that I have now come to reliase(sp) that I am a much happier person when I take care of myself once in a while and for me that is sewing and quilting.

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    Life is all about balance...quilting balances my life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hensandhollyhocks
    My family, DH and DD think ANY amount of time is too much. Therefore, I am guilty a lot! Little do they know I am going go my first quilt show tomorrow. It is about an hour away, but I can be home before they are. Being a little sneaky isn't bad is it?
    Good luck and don't quit now!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gramie bj
    I do not feel guilty at all! I spent a lot of years running kids to and from events, having balanced meals on the table at a certain time so everyone could get to where they needed to be, or do what they needed to do, Kept house work up, laundry done, snacks ready, was the offical taxi for sports, unoffical tutor ect. Worked out of the home and kept a job I really didnt care for, because I was able to flex my hrs around the needs of my DH and 3 kids. Now kids are grown, and DH and I are both retired, He says I desirve to be happy in my retirement so Do what you want! We still do a lot together, trips, fishing, gardening, playing with DGK but if I want to takeoff for a couple of days to go to a quilt show, I do not ask, can I go? Just tell him where I'm off to and call when I arrive, so he knows I'm not dead in the ditch some where. LOL I always ask if he wants to go, he askes do you want me to drive? If I say no he will usually stay home. The last time he suprised me and said he wanted to go with to the Sew Expo, That was the trip he got me my first long arm! Never would have bought it without his pushing me.LOL
    What a great story. It's about making each other happy, isn't it? I just hope I do that when time comes I do the way you do.

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    MY dh told me not to feel guilty about what I do all day. As long as I am happy. he says "you worked all your life you can do what ever it is you want.." So, I do feel guilty being on line alot but I cut out a whole quilt today and one day next week i am going to get to sit and sew them all together.. Its for a Lucky Star. My nephew is going to alfganistan and I want to give it to him for his man cave before he leaves.. (he just got a new house with his family)..

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