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Thread: Where will my quilts go?

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    I know this has been talked about before but I think it needs repeating:

    The other day my DH and I were talking about updating our will and I asked him what he would do with my quilts when I'm gone. His answered shocked me! I told him I wanted my DD and granddaughters to have my quilts. I guess I need to write down where I want my treasures to go. (Thought he would have known that). This is a conversation I think we all should have with a family member when planning our wills.

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    this is so true. and if your family is not interested in having your crafting supplies, provide a good source to sell them to or to have them sold for them. they wouldn't have a clue how to search that out.

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    Makes me think I should remind DH that my Pfaff goes to my sister Carol and she has first choice at my stash, my quilting friend Elaine gets 2nd choice and rest goes to my Guild. Never thought about my quilts although I give away most that I make. Hmm, who would want my first quilt, all those challenge quilts and the ones made especially for quilt shows? Something to think about.

    Guess the subject has crossed my mind as lately if I'm going to make a challenge quilt I make it do double duty as a quilt for someone. Last challenge quilt had to be at least 40 X 40 and use a certain fabric so I made it large enough for my granddaughter's dorm quilt, challenge met and granddaughter had a quilt to take to college with her.

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    We all should sit down and have this conversation with our significant others. Machine(s) to ...., stash to ....... books to ...., scraps to ......

    OR put it in writing and post it on our sewing room door, for all to see. ;)

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    I just want to come back as a ghost and listen to the kids as they try to make sense of my mess!!

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    This is a subject that should be discussed. There are so many familys that do not see any value in our sewing machines and quilts or quilting items. Write down what you want done with these items. It will also save the family from some disappointments to. I have seen familys divided over less never to speak to each other again. And if you think that would not happen with my kids you might be suprised in the end.

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    I have no idea.. I give most of my things away.. I have a few quilts from my grandmother's .. but the kids appear to have very little interst.. along with my china and crystal that all would I married - so carefully registered for.. this generation. "We don't want old stuff Mom."

    I try not to think about it. :(

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    I have told my DD to call my friends. That will take care of dividing and loving it and my machines.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grammy Dwynn
    OR put it in writing and post it on our sewing room door, for all to see. ;)
    I like this idea :)

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    Definitely put in writing your wishes for passing along your quilts and anything else you have a special request about. Then, make copies and give a copy of the paper along with a picture of the item to the person who is to get it upon your death. Your husband may not be here to carry out your wishes. You may consider passing along your treasures NOW, so you'll have the joy of seeing for yourself the happiness it brings to your loved ones to have them. A person's wishes are often not carried out upon his or her death, no matter who is requested to do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chairjogger
    I have no idea.. I give most of my things away.. I have a few quilts from my grandmother's .. but the kids appear to have very little interst.. along with my china and crystal that all would I married - so carefully registered for.. this generation. "We don't want old stuff Mom."

    I try not to think about it. :(
    think about all the people who saved their good china, silver, glassware "for best", so their kids could inherit it, and then their kids don't want it.
    I say, if you like it, use it everyday. Make YOURSELF happy - the heck with the heirs.

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    OMG...and the thought of them saying after I pass...OH NO I found more fab and fromthe other side of the house MORE Quilts here too!!! lol

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    I will be getting everything that my mother owns.
    She has sewed since she was 10, she is now 71.
    I have been helping her out with money when she needs help which is most months. She has nothing I really want save a few quilts and pictures. I even get the land and trailer.
    I'll just pass things on to other family members.
    Lord only knows where all my stuff will go.
    I just hope who ever gets my machines loves them as I do.
    My stash well that will go where it goes, hopefully to a quilter. My quilts and my momas quilts and my Grannys quilts, it just hurts my head to even think about it. Not to mention the old quilts I have collected. :cry:

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    I hope this won't be much of a problem with me, since I only have one child left, and she quilts also..... so I indend for my machines, stash, and other sewing things go to her.
    In point of fact, that is why I bought the serger that is still in the box, and the new Horizon that I bought last month, she has 2 small grand daughters, and another grand child on the way, due in June....... she has 2 children, but only one daughter......
    they probably would not have enough clothes for the girls if we didn't sew.......... and if the ecomany? gets any worse, we might be sewing and saving all we can to get material should have said daughter has 3 children , 2 boys and I girl

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    Hmm- I have no idea what DH would do with my quilts. He knows which of my yarn (knitting) cost enough that it should go to knitting friends, and he knows which of my doll collections are valueable.

    He also knows how much my sewing machine cost- so for sure he wouldn't just toss that to Goodwill, but I bet all the material and stuff would. Finished quilts, hmmm?

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    while you're having the discussion about sewing things, include what you want re: your medical care, burial, etc, if you are unable to participate in the discussion later...My DD and SO know to share the parts with whomever can use them (that is, eyes, organs, etc), not keep me on life support unless later quality is guaranteed, and so on. This is another important conversation that is often left until it is too late.

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    I figured my husband would want it all gone. So I ask him one day if he would just throw it all away. His answer surprised me. He said he would save it all for Mary-Grace (our 4 year old daughter). That really made me smile. I figured he would just want it out of the house. I told him what he didn't want should go to my friend that quilts. She's a sweet lady and if she could use it I would want her to take it if it wasn't wanted.

    It's sad to think about but it really is a reality.

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    [quote=chairjogger]I have no idea.. I give most of my things away.. I have a few quilts from my grandmother's .. but the kids appear to have very little interst.. along with my china and crystal that all would I married - so carefully registered for.. this generation. "We don't want old stuff Mom."
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    My kids (daughters at least) and GKids want only old stuff, and the more hand made the better. (Exception..my computer, 5 year old almost GS loves it)

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    This topic hits home unfortunately. My sister passed away early this month and did not leave a will or any instructions about her possessions. She had, however, made her funeral arrangements. The arguing over her things just makes me sick. DH and I have a will and I am going to talk to him about my sewing "stuff" soon. I highly recommend to people that they have a will.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crqltr
    I just want to come back as a ghost and listen to the kids as they try to make sense of my mess!!
    :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :XD: Me too!! I almost feel sorry for them!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jill
    This topic hits home unfortunately. My sister passed away early this month and did not leave a will or any instructions about her possessions. She had, however, made her funeral arrangements. The arguing over her things just makes me sick. DH and I have a will and I am going to talk to him about my sewing "stuff" soon. I highly recommend to people that they have a will.
    I don't have much to pass on but am slowly 'giving' stuff to family members. Had rememberance rings made for all 6 DGdaughters with a little diamond from my MIL's ring or a pearl my ring in the center with their birthstones on each side. One DGdaughter asked for my grandmother's macaroni platter so I wrote a history to go with it. Another has my FIL's old fashion ice cream scoop that she loves. Next item is the pre WWII rock maple chest on chest from the bedroom set me and all my sisters used growing up, think it will go to DGdaughter #3 since other married or soon to be married DGD's live in CA.

    Also someone posted that their kids said, "We don't want old stuff Mom". Yeah, that is until after you've thrown out or given it away, that's when they come looking for it.

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    An acquaintance of mine has certain quilts which are spoken for by family, the rest will be displayed at her funeral. People who attend will be given a ticket when they come in, after the service, numbers will be read off and the lucky ticket holders will go home with a quilt. Now that is a cool idea?

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    Hmm, you folks always bring up some interesting topics, thanks.

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    I hadn't really thought about it, I should make a note and attach to our will so the executor knows. Thanks for bringing up the subject!

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    My daughter is in charge of everything. Being an only child she will have to make all the decisions on what to do with what I leave.

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