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    my dh refuses to shop with me me but is a big help in decideing colors and what goes with what.

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    I'm just the opposite. Of course, I do quilt. My ex-wife was the one, who couldn't see color at all. We had a custom house built and I picked out everything, from tile to countertops to paint. The only color I asked her to choose was for the front door.

    I asked her to go to the paint store and pick a color to match the very dark pine green carpet. She even took a sample of the carpet with her. She came back with a color called "Fresh Mown Grass", which is a bright medium green. She swore it matched. I told the painter to put it on anyway. It was the first thing the new owners changed. :lol:

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    My husband used to be a graphic deisgner. He is GREAT at picking out fabric. When I pick out things that aren't quite right, he can tell my WHY they don't work together, i.e.... This one's too green, you need a warmer yellow, etc.

    He even helps me pick out my clothes! And he has all kinds of helpful suggestions re: quilt layout, border proportions, etc.

    I never realized how lucky I am. Maybe I should loan him out to you all!

    LBelle

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    My DH never says a thing, Just looks and smiles. We've been together for
    53yrs, and 11 months. I know he likes my creations because he asks our Doctors their favorite colors and then tells them ,"Rosie will make you a nice Christmas presant. I make table toppers for them. Wouldn't trade him off for anything. Rosetta Msaster.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OHSue
    OK, behind his back I call my husband Mr. Dull, I say you could step into his closet with your eyes closed and pick any two items and they will match. He does not understand the fabric / quilting / color thing at all.

    So today I went to my LQS to get some fabric for a class this Friday. I needed two complementary colors, six shade of each ranging from very light to very dark, should read as solid. Now you know you go in there and it seems like there must be 100 shades of yellow alone. I start of by saying I think I would like yellow and blue, we are unable to find six colors of yellow that really play together. So we move to blue and do find the blue eventually. By now I have invested a lot of time, but am ready for next color and one of the women gets out the color wheel, finds this beautiful brown and voila in no time we have six shades of this ranging from creamy yellow to dark brown. The whole mix is beautiful, I am actually hugging the staff in gratitude, I know my quilt will be the best in the whoel class. It took over an hour to do this.

    I come home, have the fabrics laying out just so I can walk by and admire them. My husband comes home from work, I say 'aren't these gorgeous colors' and he agrees. I tell him about the project, and he says 'you mean you are going to use them together?' If it was up to him our whole house would be done in brown and beige.

    I know what you mean... My Bill is a green,brown and blue Man. If it is Dark,Dark Green or Blue or Brown He is happy. We have learned to compromise. Our Great room He picked out the Paint an off Beige. I pick out the sectional sofa. Darker than beige. I picked out the big Chairs medium Brown. All his colors Right. Well I picked out the rugs and curtains, REDS,Browns, Greens,Blues. DARN HE WON AFTERALL!!! :shock: :lol: :lol: Not really it was really a compromise you should have seen the rugs,curtains and throws He was looking at. With a little push,to get the reds in it all came together and it works.
    Seriously I do fine until it is all DARK,DARK colors. As for the quilting He knows nothing about color matching. NONE at all. I dont even ask him how he likes some colors because He just can't see it until I am done. :lol: :lol:
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    My dxh :mrgreen: was the same way. I have to say that my ds is quite the opposite. He is interested in everything I do with quilting and loves the color and patterns combos, whereas my dd has a big problem with so many patterns and colors in quilting, she likes everything to "match"!

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    I have learned that when I ask "how do you like my quilt?" He hears...try to find all the mistakes and question me on WHY I did / chose that. I don't ask anymore. BUT when he talks to his friends he always brags about my quilts. He is very supportive of my quilting because now I can't get on him about all he spends on his hobbies...it's kind of a draw now. Don't ask, don't tell.
    Listen to others but do what you want, it's totally your creation.

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    DH will talk about the newest electronic gadget until my eyes glaze over and when I talk to him about quilting he snores. I guess opposites attract. He also wore a uniform for 20 years and lived on a Navy ship so he has absolutely no eye for color so I never ask him if the color is good because all I get is "Hmmm."

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    My DH of almost 25 yrs. is nothing less than supportive. He can tell by how I react to the colors whether it "goes" or not. I like that I can think out loud around him. It works for us, he's not pressured to say the wrong thing and I'm not hung up if he doesn't "get it."

    I have fun too with my 23 yr. old son who I call into the room to get his take on my "creations", then we end up pretending to have a serious conversation about what direction to take. It just makes it feel like we are all involved.

    In the end, I get to take all the "credit"!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

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    I really don't show DH the fabrics until I'm done. He does drive with me to purchase the fabrics, but if it were up to him, he'd just say "just get want you want".

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    I am new to this, but had to coment. I am one of the truly lucky ones my DH is always very supportive and positive about my quilting. But he does give me input when I ask for it. Sometimes I agree, sometimes I don't. But if we thought alike on everrthing I would hate it. :-D

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    Don't ask him anymore, but not all husbands are that way a friends husband helps her all the time with her quilt colors and they are amazing and we also have a man in our quilt guild who does great work. My husband likes some of the quilts I make better then I do. Just keep quilt and love what you make!

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    dh and i went to the same fine arts college, where we met. he graduated with a degree in architecture, i, finally, in pattern making and design. i guess we compliment each other in arts-related projects. color is a big issue here, and since he's basically a quiet man, he lets me win. he loves my quilts and that i quilt at all. how double-lucky am i?

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    Quote Originally Posted by OHSue
    OK, behind his back I call my husband Mr. Dull, I say you could step into his closet with your eyes closed and pick any two items and they will match. He does not understand the fabric / quilting / color thing at all.

    So today I went to my LQS to get some fabric for a class this Friday. I needed two complementary colors, six shade of each ranging from very light to very dark, should read as solid. Now you know you go in there and it seems like there must be 100 shades of yellow alone. I start of by saying I think I would like yellow and blue, we are unable to find six colors of yellow that really play together. So we move to blue and do find the blue eventually. By now I have invested a lot of time, but am ready for next color and one of the women gets out the color wheel, finds this beautiful brown and voila in no time we have six shades of this ranging from creamy yellow to dark brown. The whole mix is beautiful, I am actually hugging the staff in gratitude, I know my quilt will be the best in the whoel class. It took over an hour to do this.

    I come home, have the fabrics laying out just so I can walk by and admire them. My husband comes home from work, I say 'aren't these gorgeous colors' and he agrees. I tell him about the project, and he says 'you mean you are going to use them together?' If it was up to him our whole house would be done in brown and beige.
    start introducing new colors into his closet. bring in some brown with a tiny red print or something. let him gradually see color as something that won't bite him on the a**. khaki or olive? that can be eased in without notice. convince him that red is the new brown. and a basic color, to boot! (it really is, you know.)

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    Remember: Do what makes you happy -- after all, you're the one spending all the time and effort making the quilt.

    For what it's worth, I am terrible at matching colors. I'll pick what I think will work, and I make a test block, and it's terrible -- really boring or clashes or something.

    Fortunately, God gave me a talented artist for a daughter. She helps me tremendously.

    My daughter does not quilt, but she sews. This year her 4-H project included a patchwork vest of her own design. I did not like it. I thought it would not do well in contest. I thought I needed to let her know so she could reconsider her project.

    She was so upset that she cried.

    So we called in a good friend who is also an artist. My friend loved the vest. (When the blouse and capri pants were added, I loved the finished outfit!)

    Make a long story short: My daughter won first at county, first at district, and 5th at state. (That's saying a lot when you compete in a large state like Texas.)

    The moral of this story is:

    Create what makes you happy.
    Ask for help if you have trouble.
    Be happy with what you make.
    Keep your mouth shut if someone creates something you don't particularly care for -- it may just be that you are the one that has faulty vision.




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    Everyone has an opinion...and we sure do in our house. I have to admit though that one of them just "counts" more than the other one :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

    Just kidding...my DH has fabulous taste in everything! I always ask his opinion and I can always tell when he is just placating me and when he is saying what he really thinks. I've found that he is usually right one...sometimes he isn't really able to visualize exactly what I am talking about if he hasn't seen something similar to it before, but when it comes to colors...he is always spot on and a huge help to me!!

    Just ignore DH since he doesn't play that game very well and find some of your other friends to pet your fabs with you. :wink:

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    I do not ask my DH anything about my quilts anymore. If it is not something that has to do with 50's or 60's era Chevys, he just doesn't care.

    The last quilt top I made, I had the fabric sitting around "petting" it. He said, "What in the world are you gonna make with that?"

    Sigh. "A quilt," I answered.

    After I got it done, he told me that it was the prettiest one I had made so far. And that was more than he has said about anything I have ever made, except for when I reupholstered the seat in his 65 Chevy pickup. He shows THAT to EVERYONE.

    On the good side, he also doesn't seem to care how much fabric I have until he can't get to the bathroom!

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    Quote Originally Posted by motomom
    On the good side, he also doesn't seem to care how much fabric I have until he can't get to the bathroom!
    Don't block the path to the potty or the garage and you should be OK.

    I think we sometimes forget that men and women are wired differently. (Not better - not worse, just different). It makes for the occasional challenge. My DH is a sweetheart from the word go. As enlightened as he is, occasionally he breaks out in a cold sweat when I ask him to go to one of those girly topics or when I switch topics on the fly. Watching him grapple is so much fun. (I can be mean)

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    My DH has a hard time thinking of more than two fabrics in a quilt but when I'm done he always likes it. I ask his opinion only when there are two choices and I really don't care which one I pick. It makes him feel good that he helped me

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    Quote Originally Posted by beachy
    My hubby doesn't know what clashes and what doesn't....BUT I always chatter away about my quilting and show him color schemes and he always acts interested!! He actually helped me with fabric design for a table runner and had good ideas. I know he "really" doesn't care, but he cares because of me. :D He will spend lots of time in a quilt shop letting me browse around....but don't take him in a grocery store!!!

    He really is a sweety! And always compliments me on my work, especially my stitches!!
    Beachy's DH sound like mine. No sense of color but he listens to me and very wisely agrees with me most of the time. I am secretly sure it is just to make me happy because he does not have a clue what I am talking about. LOL He does love my work when it is done and keeps asking me when I am going to keep some for us. That is the rest of this years project. finish the quilt I am working on now for us and do a table runner and some wall hangings for when we finish our house.
    Feed him first, maybe he will be in a better mood, LOL. Most men could care less so don't let it bother you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beachlady
    My DH is a wonderful guy, but when it comes to quilting - forget it. Remember when we were doing the mystery totes and they were jars? Got one side done and showed it to him and he thought it looked like a toilet seat!! As for colors, I don't ask. You women with artistic hubbys are very lucky!! He loves my finish projects and sleeps in the car while I fabric shop, so guess I should not complain!!!
    This sounds lie my hubby too. He doesn't exclaim about my finished stuff to me, but i have heard him tell family about me making stuff.
    short story: he had bought a wall stud finder for me.
    I wanted to keep it in cave on pegboard...Nooooo, we'll keep it right here, in this tv table, by my chair, where we will know where it's at...
    me: ok, then. (sigh)
    So yesterday, we are both looking for it, I remind him of his statement, etc....not there.
    I come in here, on pc...he goes in my cave.
    I wait...and wait..."honey? what are you doing?" I go in there, bc he has been in there too long.
    Just makes me nervous...don't want him to move my BOM fabs, that are sorted for diff. blocks and such...looking for tool...
    I walk in...he's just standing there, in center, looking around like he has never seen such a place in all his life...he just can't understand what it's all about :roll:

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    Men are really bad when it comes to colors. Mine always says that to but when I'm done he says that does work after all. :-) :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gram
    Men are really bad when it comes to colors. Mine always says that to but when I'm done he says that does work after all. :-) :-)
    Ain't it funny, (and just plain SWEEET!)...
    how they always end up saying that we are right???? :thumbup:

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    My husband was substitute teaching for home economics type class and they were making a quilt.....They were so impressed he knew something about it and could actually be helpful.

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    I quess i am very lucky. My huband is a great help when shopping for a certin fabric or when I am trying to match fabric from my stash. He always has some grest ideas.

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