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07-22-2021, 06:51 AM
#22
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Southern California
Posts: 1,046
It's hard to learn to say no. When people ask me for something like that, I tell them I have about 2 years of work to do first. If they're still interested, they can come back then. You can make it nice by saying you're so sorry.
At a certain age, we don't know if we have two years left, but we know we want to make the ideas dancing around in our heads. Certainly they should come first. You only need to repeat "I have about two years work to do first" one more time than she says whatever. Repetition is a technique I read about years ago in a book called "When I Say No I Feel Guilty" by Manuel Smith. It's helped me ever since.
And your work is beautiful! No wonder she asked you and I hope you'll do more beautiful work on your own things. Good luck!
At a certain age, we don't know if we have two years left, but we know we want to make the ideas dancing around in our heads. Certainly they should come first. You only need to repeat "I have about two years work to do first" one more time than she says whatever. Repetition is a technique I read about years ago in a book called "When I Say No I Feel Guilty" by Manuel Smith. It's helped me ever since.
And your work is beautiful! No wonder she asked you and I hope you'll do more beautiful work on your own things. Good luck!
07-22-2021, 07:06 AM
#23
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Central FL
Posts: 1,478
I congratulate you on a beautiful job. I am always turned off by pushy people and I have finally learned how to say "No". I have so many projects that I will have to live beyond 100 years to complete all of them and unless she was willing to pay for the quilting I would have handed the bag back to her and said "this isn't a good time for me."
07-22-2021, 08:59 AM
#24
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Las Vegas, NV
Posts: 1,398
That is the best looking panel quilt I have ever seen. I see many panels I love but don't purchase because I can't deal with their out-of-square issue. I did break down and buy two I just couldn't resist, looked at them for a few months and now mailing them off to a quilting friend as a GIFT. I wouldn't dream of asking her to quilt them for me. You are to be admired as a friend and a wonderful quilter.
