b.zang

I'm sorry to find this funny but it seems he is in the same position as many quilters. Once you realize the financial cost of making a quilt, it can be difficult to think that the recipient doesn't appreciate the value. Maybe offer to give him another copy of the receipt for him to give her so she can truly appreciate that the quilt is something valuable. Is it too valuable to use, though?

Fizzle

B.zang - so true. It makes a difference in the mind when you paid that much!

It is a beautiful quilt. What is the pattern?

aashley333

My friend "saved" the quilt that I gifted her for her wedding present. They have been happily married for a few years. I just gifted her a personal quilt and told her that quilts are to be used, so don't be afraid to use them! (I gave her the blue pixel seahorse quilt)

ptquilts

Can you make a smaller version for them to use as a wall hanging?

LGJARN52

Just my opinion, that no matter what the quilt cost, he GAVE it to her and it's hers to so with what makes her happy. Another thought is that is a large quilt and unless they have a very large house with a lot of wall space it will be too much of a "stand out" on a smaller wall.

peaceandjoy

Many people like having pets sleep on the bed. Personal choice. We all do things that others would find less than appealing, so no need to judge what someone else is doing.

I'm in the "use it however you'd like" camp when it comes to gifts and am more confused by people getting upset about beloved pets on a quilt than I am the pets on the quilt. Gifts don't come with strings attached.

He knew that the original had been damaged by the pups, so it seems odd that he'd spend that kind of money (reasonable for a bed size quilt) and think that the dogs would suddenly not be on the bed. Maybe he doesn't like them there and thought this was going to be the solution, but that ship has sailed and without conversation and understanding, IMO, it's on him for thinking it would be any different this time around.

If they have someplace large enough to hang it where it can actually be seen, that seems like a reasonable solution, as long as it is what SHE wants. It was given to her, and wasn't presented as a wall hanging. If she is agreeable, I wouldn't think of it as not being used. It was paid for, would still be enjoyed (who wouldn't enjoy seeing those fabulous colors?) and would hopefully prevent damage.

Whether you say anything or not depends on how close you are with them both. If he asked, I'd give him an honest answer regarding feasibility of hanging (it's large, a lot of weight), but would not say anything more along the lines of whether or not the dogs should be allowed on it or whether an expensive gift should be better taken care of. That's between them.

cashs_mom

I agree that it's theirs to do with as they want. How they decide to use it is between them. However, if I was asked to make another one, I'd either decline (my choice) or make a very simple quilt for them and not worry about it. Sadly, your Goddaughter really doesn't appreciate the work you put in the quilt and chooses to treat it like a Walmart quilt. Makes me wonder, if this is how she treats something she loves, I wonder what she'd do if she didn't like it?

BTW, I have 4 dogs, two of which sleep on the bed. I've always had multiple dogs and I've never allowed them to ruin comforters or quilts.

Onebyone

Offer to make him a duplicate only smaller for a wall hanging.

LI_diva

Laughed out loud thinking about Amazon getting involved in my marital disputes 🤣

mkc

Exactly.

This isn't about a quilt. It's about a relationship issue. OP is well-advised to stay out of it lest she end up the scapegoat.