sahm4605

I think that I will give my bro a call and see if he can get a couple of good pics of her for a memory quilt for maybe next Christmas. I think that a cuddle quilt will work good now. I think when I call him I will ask him what colors she likes. Or if he knows what colors her mom likes. I have a quilt top done that I wasn't sure who to give it to yet and might just use that top if he thinks she will like the colors. It is actually my avatar quilt.thank you all for the help. I will aslo see if I can get a couple of her shirts that my sil remembers most or likes and use them for the memory quilt for her. if my bro thinks it is a good idea. I just want to get something done by tomorrow night because I am leaving at around 6:30 am to drive to OK for the funeral.

pjustice63

Too soon. Later.

wolfkitty

I think a comfort quilt to cuddle in would be the best right now. Give them time to let their feelings settle before approaching them on something like that.

cherylynne

I think that a pretty quilt, maybe from flannel would be well received. Depression is an illness and those afflicted sometimes just can't bear to suffer any more. Your SIL may benefit from a support group for people in her situation. Take care and follow your heart.

sgardner

In any dysfunctional family, I think it can be extremely difficult to hit only on the memories that evoke a positive feeling, and not the ones which there is pain attached. It takes a lot of personal knowledge to get that mix just right so that the quilt does it's job, which is to provide comfort. I think if you give her a month, and then ask her to list her 10 most favorite memories about her mom, then you might do a better job at getting that mix right. Give her time to digest the death, because right now she might just be struggling from day to day with survival.

lynnie

how about a pillow or teddy bear out of her clothing

vanessa

I am with SadieMae. I would make her a comfort quilt for now, and then when time has passed, maybe you would get a chance to talk to her about making the memory quilt.

Quilter7x

I agree that a quilt to comfort her right now would be best and something to remember her by next Christmas like you said would be best.

I'm so sorry this happened. I've been touched with the same situation, so I know what the family is going through. I wish the best for all involved.

joan_quilts

I made my mom a quilt for the nursing home she stayed in. After she passed, my dh, who is a truck driver said he would take it and use it in his truck.

It has been 5 years since she is gone, and even washing for dh to take back to the truck, makes me really sad.

I think a comfort quilt would be awesome. Just my opinion.

kwhite

In time she may get a good bit of comfort out of helping you make it even.