My Darling? Husband
01-20-2011, 09:33 PM
#261
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Did anybody ever received so many replies? It just shows you they are almost all the same. Only there faces differ. Sorry I sound a bit bitter mine was the same about more things and that is why I live "all by myself with peace and pieces"
01-20-2011, 09:48 PM
#262
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Originally Posted by deema
My husband has the same "hobby" as yours. :(
He doesn't mind so much that I quilt, he's not interested in it, but he gives me the obligatory "That's nice". He doesn't really complain about it, but I can tell when he's irritated about me spending every free moment in my basement and then I just feel guilty.
He left this morning to go out of the country for a month...is it bad that I'm happy about it because I can quilt guilt free whenever I feel like it?
He doesn't mind so much that I quilt, he's not interested in it, but he gives me the obligatory "That's nice". He doesn't really complain about it, but I can tell when he's irritated about me spending every free moment in my basement and then I just feel guilty.
He left this morning to go out of the country for a month...is it bad that I'm happy about it because I can quilt guilt free whenever I feel like it?
:-o
01-20-2011, 09:53 PM
#263
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Originally Posted by BevD
My DH doesn't understand my quilting...cutting up perfectly good fabric into little bits to sew back together again??
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warm quilt hugs, sue in CA
01-20-2011, 09:57 PM
#264
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Location: Seattle
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My husband of 44+ years and I enjoy doing some things together, but each have our own hobbies, too. He enjoys wordworking, and is very, very good at it. He has built several beautiful pieces of furniture for our home, including a wonderful sewing cabinet and cutting table for me. He also reads and does sudoku a lot. We both watch TV, but other than football, have different tastes in shows, which is fine with both of us.
I sew, quilt, knit, and read and he doesn't mind any of it. I also volunteer at school one day a week, which he kind of resented at first (I retired this year, but he has been retired for four years), but he seems to have gotten over it. Maybe he figured he might as well because I wasn't going to stop. That's when I get my "kids and teaching fixes".
In the spring and summer, we both enjoy yard work and patio time together, sometimes listening to baseball if it's on. We like the animals and have made our yard into a Backyard Sanctuary for birds and other small animals. We also enjoy perusing antique shops.
I spent many a time at (boring) airplane shows and museums with him earlier in our marriage, so if I ever drag him to a quilt show, he has no room to complain! I haven't done it yet, but may someday.
I'm sorry so many of you have less-than-supportive spouses. I echo what others have said: We are here for you.
I sew, quilt, knit, and read and he doesn't mind any of it. I also volunteer at school one day a week, which he kind of resented at first (I retired this year, but he has been retired for four years), but he seems to have gotten over it. Maybe he figured he might as well because I wasn't going to stop. That's when I get my "kids and teaching fixes".
In the spring and summer, we both enjoy yard work and patio time together, sometimes listening to baseball if it's on. We like the animals and have made our yard into a Backyard Sanctuary for birds and other small animals. We also enjoy perusing antique shops.
I spent many a time at (boring) airplane shows and museums with him earlier in our marriage, so if I ever drag him to a quilt show, he has no room to complain! I haven't done it yet, but may someday.
I'm sorry so many of you have less-than-supportive spouses. I echo what others have said: We are here for you.
01-20-2011, 10:11 PM
#266
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My husband and I have been married 38 years. He doesn't complain about anything. He used to make crappy remarks about me reading half the night, but I told him a story I overheard at church. Two seniors[ladies]were talking about their husbands griping about their reading and other hobbies.The husbands thought they were being selfish and didn't want to sit and watch THEM watch TV. Well, one lady replied that she couldn't wait until her husband died so she could do what she wanted. The other lady agreed. I went home and told Hubby it is a shame that you can't be happy and would sit around waiting on someone to die to enjoy your life. After that he NEVER says a word about what I do. He takes me to quilt shops when we travel and encourages me to have a hobby. I raised my family and worked part-time so it's my time to enjoy life without stress.
01-20-2011, 10:23 PM
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Originally Posted by LeeAnn
I'm blessed to have a husband who loves and supports my quilting 100% of the time. He says he loves it when I sit in the den with him and hand quilt. When I'm in my sewing room he watches his "guy shows" or gets on the computer. He even goes to quilt shows with me. Yes, he's a great guy.
Dianne I feel for you and your situation. Your husband's problem is himself not you, he's jealous that you have a hobby that makes so happy while he's so miserable caught up in his self-pity.
My DH was always supportive of all my interests. He used to enjoy going to quilt shows with me and marveled at the quilts on display. He even enjoyed helping me lay out fabric and helped me cut it.
01-20-2011, 10:38 PM
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Originally Posted by diannemc
My Darling? Husband is a TV person..He has no hobbies...Watching TV is all he does when not working...I am not!!..I love my sewing..He has always hated my sewing...
I don't know why except maybe the money it takes and the time it takes away from him...(and maybe the pins he has had to pull out of his barefoot a time or two :oops:)
Well the other day I finished a quilt and showed it to him.. He said "Thank goodness you are through".. I am sick of all this quilting..It use to be sewing now quilting... I wish you would just stop it..." I just turned and looked him square in the eyes and said.."Quilting makes me happy....and trust me....You want me to be happy..." Am I the only one here who has a hard time with a husband who doesn't understand to joy of quilting??
I don't know why except maybe the money it takes and the time it takes away from him...(and maybe the pins he has had to pull out of his barefoot a time or two :oops:)
Well the other day I finished a quilt and showed it to him.. He said "Thank goodness you are through".. I am sick of all this quilting..It use to be sewing now quilting... I wish you would just stop it..." I just turned and looked him square in the eyes and said.."Quilting makes me happy....and trust me....You want me to be happy..." Am I the only one here who has a hard time with a husband who doesn't understand to joy of quilting??
His motherLOVES the stuff I make for her. I just let her gush. She's done her fair share of quilting in her day too.
01-20-2011, 10:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Shelbie
No you are definately not alone. My husband hates all of my stitching even though he was well aware that sewing and quilting were part of who I am before I even married him thirty five years ago. My sewing room is next to the family room with the TV and he frequently complains that I won't come out and "sit" with him. I seldom watch TV, can't stand most shows and hate sitting in the semi-dark. I also resent spending time with nothing to show for it. We've finally come to an "understanding", I stitch, he watches TV and we never will agree on the subject. I've also warned my daughters if anything happens to me, to come and rescue my quilting treasures and stash as I'm sure he would just call our son with his dump truck and haul it all to the landfill. Other than the dislike (hate) of my quilting, he is a really nice guy.
When he cleaned out his dad's garage after he died, you would not believe the stuff that was destroyed. Made me sick.
01-20-2011, 10:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Beebee
It will get better as the years of marriage pass..Believe me...was married 50 yrs. before he left. They do "mellow" over the years and look forward to "whats for dinner, dear"
How long?????????????? 30 years hasn't made him like my hobbies in the least.
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