jitkaau

If you don't want to do it, I suggest you don't do it. Surely your husband is not a big bully who will make you do it? My suggestion would be to do what you are happy to do.

Cacklinghen

Ask who is making the quilt--ask if he would like to assist and it will take a long time-

Sewflower

I think he is trying to recapture a memory of his mother. I would do it jointly because that would also create a memory.

sharkee

I hand quilted a 106x106 log cabin for a friend for her wedding gift and it took me about 4 months but it was so beautiful when it was done and right now I am hand quilting a 80x85 mystery quilt for her sister as a wedding gift. I LOVE to hand quilt and find it relaxing but it does take a lot of time. My goal is to learn to machine quilt but everytime I try it looks terrible and I get discouraged and go back to hand quilting.

I'm positive the quilt will look beautiful no matter which way you decide to do it

RugosaB

If I ASKED him to make the cherry frame, I would put this quilt on it. It may take years to finish, might even be part of my estate when I die, unfinished, but it would show him that I appreciated it.
Then, I would show him the responses from people like me, who do not hand quilt.
I guess I did, once. I finished a maple leaf quilt that my husband's grandmother left, but I used the 'big stitch' all I could commit to.


If I did NOT ask him to make it, and he did so out of the kindness of his heart, then, I don't know. That's a tough one. Maybe put it in the frame and show him online that men are quilting now too.

callen

I do not hand quilt because of some arthritis issues in my hands but having said that, I still would not hand quilt. Talk about a daunting task!!!! I sympathize that his mother has alzheimers but that's her & things have changed.
He doesn't drive a car from the 1920's does he? He needs to get with the program & get with modern times. I absolutely am envious of hand quilting but it is not for me & a quilt that size would be overwhelming to say the least.
Hopefully, he will understand or do like the others have suggested & teach him how to thread a needle & let him have a go at it. Good luck.

dd55

i agree. i don't have the time or patience for hand quilting.

acjacques

Quilting is supposed to be fun, but when it comes to be an obligation then it becomes a drudgery and even an imposition. When my husband asked me to make him a quilt, I agreed only with the condition that it be quilted by a professional. The fee was well worth it - he has a lovely quilt which he proudly shows to everyone. Besides, if you don't feel comfortable quilting it by hand why punish yourself?

Paula H

I love to hand quilt and did handquilt a queen size. It can be done. However.............I now machine quilt most things because as a friend said, "there's too many quilts in my head to hand quilt every one of them". I do understand where he's coming from. I used to think it was a mortal sin to machine quilt and switching was a lot like changing my religion. I decided it was better for my grandchildren to have all those completed quilts rather than my only having finished one or two.

JNCT14

Quilting by hand or by machine simply produces a different look but the end result is the same - to show off the beauty of the top and to keep the layers from shifting. Buy your husband a book on the history of quilting, then do whichever you are most comfortable with. The point is to finish it, not turn it into a UFO!