Watching out for Tender Feelings and yet Giving Advice
#51
It is so hard to give advise to someone that knows what they want. But it is their quilts and if they love the work they did, then accept it and move on. Their next quilts (if they decide to another) will be quilted so much more, and they will make that decision. Not someone else. Yes it is hard, but life is hard. We all must find our own way to doing something. Good luck, and be proud that they wanted to learn to quilt with YOU.
#52
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$29.99 quilts in the stores and think that is what we make.
#54
I don't agree with letting them learn the hard way without at least trying to help them learn the easier way first. That could turn into a "why didn't you tell me?" situation.
I agree with the sandwich equation of how to discuss problems with the quilting, and with suggesting they double check the directions on the batting and telling them why that is important! Just saying something like, "I'm concerned that you are going to need more quilting to keep your batting from shifting, but check the batting directions just to be sure it is ok." You will have expressed your concern without being critical, and offered a way for them to check on their work on their own initiative.
Edited to add: I didn't understand that you had already spoken to the girls about the quilting, only to the one's mother. If in fact you have already expressed your concern to the quilt makers themselves, and they were not receptive, then I would have to say to let it go and hope for the best.
I agree with the sandwich equation of how to discuss problems with the quilting, and with suggesting they double check the directions on the batting and telling them why that is important! Just saying something like, "I'm concerned that you are going to need more quilting to keep your batting from shifting, but check the batting directions just to be sure it is ok." You will have expressed your concern without being critical, and offered a way for them to check on their work on their own initiative.
Edited to add: I didn't understand that you had already spoken to the girls about the quilting, only to the one's mother. If in fact you have already expressed your concern to the quilt makers themselves, and they were not receptive, then I would have to say to let it go and hope for the best.
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#55
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I don't agree with letting them learn the hard way without at least trying to help them learn the easier way first. That could turn into a "why didn't you tell me?" situation.
I agree with the sandwich equation of how to discuss problems with the quilting, and with suggesting they double check the directions on the batting and telling them why that is important! Just saying something like, "I'm concerned that you are going to need more quilting to keep your batting from shifting, but check the batting directions just to be sure it is ok." You will have expressed your concern without being critical, and offered a way for them to check on their work on their own initiative.
Edited to add: I didn't understand that you had already spoken to the girls about the quilting, only to the one's mother. If in fact you have already expressed your concern to the quilt makers themselves, and they were not receptive, then I would have to say to let it go and hope for the best.
I agree with the sandwich equation of how to discuss problems with the quilting, and with suggesting they double check the directions on the batting and telling them why that is important! Just saying something like, "I'm concerned that you are going to need more quilting to keep your batting from shifting, but check the batting directions just to be sure it is ok." You will have expressed your concern without being critical, and offered a way for them to check on their work on their own initiative.
Edited to add: I didn't understand that you had already spoken to the girls about the quilting, only to the one's mother. If in fact you have already expressed your concern to the quilt makers themselves, and they were not receptive, then I would have to say to let it go and hope for the best.
#56
I may just casually ask about the manufacturer's directions on the batting. That seems like the best way to deal with the issue. I have already given my accolades on the piecing, design, color and the final appearances. They really did do a great job and I have told them that over and over.
#57
I relieve the warm and natural cotton batting has a 10 inch spread that it will handle, so if that one is within the parameters do nothing, otherwise "put the blame on the batting" say you know I have used warm and natural in the past and I know it will take up to 10 inches between quilting so there might be a problem if it is less. For the other one something along the same line , "oh the batting is thus and so, I usually use warm and Natural and it has a nice wide spread of 10 inches, you might want to check the manufacturers requirements since every product is different." " This takes the blame away from the person and places it as a requirement of the product. One offered in ahelpful way back off since they will have to learn the hard way, some of us have to learn lessons that way, (one of my sons) and it is better to let them learn that way, the next time they may seek out worthwhile advice.
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#59
The DDL just may listen if I offer to help her when we go back. She has more "irons in the fire" than most young mothers and may just be thinking of how to finish the project in a hurry. I may offer to tie it for her or something. I think I will try posting photos of their quilts to let you judge by sight rather than by my explanation. The DGD made a baby quilt for her new niece and the DDL made a double bed sized quilt for a new bunk bed set for her three year old.
#60
The DDL just may listen if I offer to help her when we go back. She has more "irons in the fire" than most young mothers and may just be thinking of how to finish the project in a hurry. I may offer to tie it for her or something. I think I will try posting photos of their quilts to let you judge by sight rather than by my explanation. The DGD made a baby quilt for her new niece and the DDL made a double bed sized quilt for a new bunk bed set for her three year old.
Anyway, maybe the baby blanket will handle the washing with Warm and Natural batting the way it is. However, consider a few more photos of the double sized quilt my DDIL made and let me know what you think.
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