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ruck9085 11-30-2010 09:25 AM

That is just awful! My heart breaks for you. People don't realize how much time and effort and love go into these quilts that we make for them.
I think it is just beautiful, and for Pete's sake what's more patriotic than red, white and blue?

mosquitosewgirl 11-30-2010 09:30 AM

I'm sending you great big hugs! You could come have a cup of tea and cookies and we could talk about it....My mother was like that, so I have a bit of an idea how it feels.

One of the things I learned though was that her comments along those lines came from not knowing how to receive gifts, compliments, etc....she always needed to be the 'in charge', giving one, otherwise she did not know what to do with herself.

I am sorry, though, because no matter how you can rationalize it, that kind of parental rejection really, really hurts.

More hugs.

GrannieAnnie 11-30-2010 09:39 AM

(((((((((((((((taiboo))))))))))))

jdeery 11-30-2010 10:13 AM

That is so cruel. I love it! I think anyone that see's it will
appreciate the work and love you brought into your quilt.
I would say "Dad" you really hurt my feelings, but if you
really don't want my quilt, I will give it a good home.

Abuelita 11-30-2010 10:52 AM

My s.o. made us a lovely Thanksgiving dinner - roast turkey, cornbread dressing, mashed Yukon potatoes and a special green bean casserole (not the mushroom soup kind) with fresh green beans and toasted almond slivers.
We loaded up the car and transported it to his parents house (they are in their 80's & don't get out much) - his Dad took a few bites and Justin said, "How is it Dad?" - his Dad replied, "Not bad".
Of course his feelings were really hurt.
Parents can be like that...your wall hanging is beautiful-take heart!

Quickstep 12-13-2010 08:24 AM

My Husband's grand-father served in WWI. My father served in WWII. My husband's uncle was killed in Vietnam. My husband served during Vietnam. My oldest son is serving now and getting ready to deploy for his fourth hardship tour, this time going to Afganistan. Our youngest son dives for the Navy. Our nephew (husband's side) is getting ready to deploy for the first time. And our nephew-in-law (my side) just got back from Afganistan.

I would be proud to hang your quilt.

LivelyLady 12-16-2010 07:17 PM

Beautiful! And it's as patriotic as it can get!
Maybe he was just having an "off" day?

Joanie2 12-16-2010 08:11 PM


Originally Posted by taiboo
I know it's not perfect, but I MADE it for him....I didn't even get a thank you :-( he just folded it and put it aside.

I know it's difficult but you need to let it go. I'm speaking from experience. My dad re-married 17 yrs ago and I made a king size pinwheel quilt as a wedding gift. I live in CA and he was in PA and in all the visits to them I never saw it on a bed. Dad divorced a few months ago and I expressed the importance of bringing it with him when he moved to So. Cal. He said he didn't care about it and it might be easier to just sell it at a garage sale. I was flabbergasted and told him to bring it with him and I would drive down and get it. Well, when I got there it was on my brother's bed. I asked if I could take it home because it meant a lot to me and cost a lot to make. He said it looks good on my brother's bed and that's where it was staying. What could I say? I gave it to him and it was his to do what he wanted with it. I left it there but have decided he doesn't care or value my quilts so I won't make another for him. Doesn't mean I love him any less. So leave it with your dad -- he may change his mind. You never know, you might find it on the back of his chair or couch. You made it from your heart and that's all that matters.

kacy 49 01-03-2011 05:51 PM

I love your quilt. It is beautiful. I am sorry your feelings were hurt.

roseOfsharon 01-03-2011 05:54 PM

A lovely quilt it is. hugs


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