behavior problem question
01-08-2011, 06:53 PM
#131
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Originally Posted by mommamac
I think you were lenient - I would have taken him & his piggy bank to the store, have him find the cost of the item & buy it for his brother. If his bank didn't have enough, then I'd have him then 'work' to earn the difference.
Kids need consequences that fit their actions - like the sign in some stores: 'if you break it, you buy it!'
Kids need consequences that fit their actions - like the sign in some stores: 'if you break it, you buy it!'
01-08-2011, 06:58 PM
#132
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At 8 yrs old he needs to learn the value of $$. The fact that he had to pay you for the toy he broke is an excellent way to teach this fact.
If the family gave you flack, when are they going to start teaching him responsibility?.... When he's 18?.... too late then...
Stick to your guns
If the family gave you flack, when are they going to start teaching him responsibility?.... When he's 18?.... too late then...
Stick to your guns
01-08-2011, 07:53 PM
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I whole heartedly agree!!! Especially since it wasn't an accident but deliberate meanness
Originally Posted by mommamac
I think you were lenient - I would have taken him & his piggy bank to the store, have him find the cost of the item & buy it for his brother. If his bank didn't have enough, then I'd have him then 'work' to earn the difference.
Kids need consequences that fit their actions - like the sign in some stores: 'if you break it, you buy it!'
Kids need consequences that fit their actions - like the sign in some stores: 'if you break it, you buy it!'
01-08-2011, 09:02 PM
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Originally Posted by redkimba
I think you did the right thing. The 8-year-old needs to learn that all actions have consequences, both good and bad.
Pardon my opinion, but it seems that he is allowed to get away with a lot more than he should by his parents. I think you and your husband did exactly what was necessary. Woe be his parents in the years to come.... and I'd bet that in the not too distant future, you will probably hear him mention this experience .... a learning experience.
01-08-2011, 09:48 PM
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Originally Posted by amma
At the age of 8, he knew exactly what he was doing. Teaching him that there are consequences is a good thing. Teaching him that he needs to be financially responsible for his actions is a good thing too! :D:D:D
If the parents had a prob., they needed a lesson themselves.
Kids are growing up with no respect for anything now.
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