Be good to yourself...!
#31
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 416
Can you accept a compliment without giving excuses. Lots of women cannot take congratulations. My late husband would tell me just say thank you. If 99.9% of your work is O.K, why mention that little defect. Even Ivory soap was only 99% pure and it is selling well .
#33
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Central Willamette Valley, Oregon, USA
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Has any of you heard the old BS about girls not being good at math? That is what keeps me quilting, just to prove "EXPERTS" wrong! There is not a quilter out there that does not use geometry, daily! "If you can use geometry, you can rule the world!" (Direct quote from my geometry teacher in high school.)
#34
Some things I can do because they need to be done, some things I can do because I want to do them, and some things I can learn to do because I am capable of learning. And I thank God for these things every day
#35
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I have no problem making fun of myself because...why not? My children do it often. I'm a classic nerd with labcoat and goggles. My self esteem is very healthy, my intelligence has never been in question, and there are many things I can NOT do (walk a tightrope, sit through really LONG meetings with nothing to do). The only time I'm really bummed is when the computer eats something important that I forgot to backup.
I decided to get in touch with the right side of my brain (I'm very left-brain and linear) and make a quilt. In this process I discovered that I am "color challenged" and heavily patterned designs make it harder. Once I figured that out things improved because I developed strategies to overcome that. I make fun of my mistakes all the time because they are really funny. I can resew the same seam three times, not notice stripes are in the wrong direction, etc. and never notice until later. Goofy, yes, laugh worthy, you bet.
Nothing is a failure if you learn from mistakes (in engineering this is called a good failure), share a giggle and a smile, eat some chocolate... Sometimes I see bark and not the tree. Not always a bad thing just differently challenged I guess.
I decided to get in touch with the right side of my brain (I'm very left-brain and linear) and make a quilt. In this process I discovered that I am "color challenged" and heavily patterned designs make it harder. Once I figured that out things improved because I developed strategies to overcome that. I make fun of my mistakes all the time because they are really funny. I can resew the same seam three times, not notice stripes are in the wrong direction, etc. and never notice until later. Goofy, yes, laugh worthy, you bet.
Nothing is a failure if you learn from mistakes (in engineering this is called a good failure), share a giggle and a smile, eat some chocolate... Sometimes I see bark and not the tree. Not always a bad thing just differently challenged I guess.
#36
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Raleigh,NC
Posts: 1,962
thanks Kellum46!that sure makes me feel better about me and math!
Selm; I learned that also," I am".... and so on look in the mirror and say it, if you can't say anything good about anyone(me??) don't say anything at all! and the can't underlined.
Selm; I learned that also," I am".... and so on look in the mirror and say it, if you can't say anything good about anyone(me??) don't say anything at all! and the can't underlined.
#37
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someone else said something about math,I do know why I have had a hard time in math, when I was growing up, my dad always called me stupid and all the negative words when I did the math, so I have a "block: there for math, anyway the other thing, in the era I was growing up, theres a place for girls, and they weren't to cross the line, the stay at home moms(and please I am not putting you dowen "home moms!)but that was the culture I was raised in, and y'know my brother was a wiz at math(still is), weird! so I let the others do the math, now English thats another story, I am very good in that . I even tried to write some stories. which thats another story, and the ones that hate math?? they are good in English
#39
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Muscatine, Iowa by way of West Virginia, Washington State, and Montana
Posts: 1,130
Originally Posted by CarrieAnne
Kate, good thing to remember. I am very guilty of this, lately, with trying to get a decent job. I CANT go back to school because, you know, wont pass math, BLAH, BLAH. I need confidence, and I NEED to remember this.
How does one get confidence, if ANYONE knows, please tell me?!!!
Ah, I am rambleing, firstcup of coffee, lol!
How does one get confidence, if ANYONE knows, please tell me?!!!
Ah, I am rambleing, firstcup of coffee, lol!
I went to school before, and I can do it again. It will be more fun since I can do it because I want to and not because I have to.
I use math every day. I just need to review what I have already learned.
I'm going to find a great job. I am valuable and have plenty to offer.
You have found jobs before. You will find one again. Maybe you can approach it like this: You are interviewing THEM to decide if THEY are good enough for you to want to work for them (whoever "them" is).
I hope this makes sense. I have had to battle though all these things myself. I have learned that I am much more likely to succeed when I believe in myself. Hope this helps. Big Hugs to you.
#40
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Muscatine, Iowa by way of West Virginia, Washington State, and Montana
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Originally Posted by lab fairy
I have no problem making fun of myself because...why not? My children do it often. I'm a classic nerd with labcoat and goggles. My self esteem is very healthy, my intelligence has never been in question, and there are many things I can NOT do (walk a tightrope, sit through really LONG meetings with nothing to do). The only time I'm really bummed is when the computer eats something important that I forgot to backup.
I decided to get in touch with the right side of my brain (I'm very left-brain and linear) and make a quilt. In this process I discovered that I am "color challenged" and heavily patterned designs make it harder. Once I figured that out things improved because I developed strategies to overcome that. I make fun of my mistakes all the time because they are really funny. I can resew the same seam three times, not notice stripes are in the wrong direction, etc. and never notice until later. Goofy, yes, laugh worthy, you bet.
Nothing is a failure if you learn from mistakes (in engineering this is called a good failure), share a giggle and a smile, eat some chocolate... Sometimes I see bark and not the tree. Not always a bad thing just differently challenged I guess.
I decided to get in touch with the right side of my brain (I'm very left-brain and linear) and make a quilt. In this process I discovered that I am "color challenged" and heavily patterned designs make it harder. Once I figured that out things improved because I developed strategies to overcome that. I make fun of my mistakes all the time because they are really funny. I can resew the same seam three times, not notice stripes are in the wrong direction, etc. and never notice until later. Goofy, yes, laugh worthy, you bet.
Nothing is a failure if you learn from mistakes (in engineering this is called a good failure), share a giggle and a smile, eat some chocolate... Sometimes I see bark and not the tree. Not always a bad thing just differently challenged I guess.
Well said, Lab fairy. Life got much more pleasant when I learned to laugh at myself.
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