How to make the best of it...
#91
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Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Merritt Island, FL
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You mentioned an attic...could it be finished into a small sleeping space for your son and his stuff? Perhaps a portion could be heated/air conditioned...just a small room to make him welcome but not so comfortable that he stays too long. Good Luck to him and to you and your DH.
#92
Originally Posted by Up North
Do you have a guest room? have him stay there if not there is always the sofa!!
#93
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: currently central new jersey
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can your son be the one that finishes off some attic space for himself? not a lot, but enough for a small room. or if you want to give him back his old room, he should do the whole attic for you.
it sounds like a heater and a/c would be a good idea up there anyway. in any event, he's not a throw-away child. making him feel less than welcome for any length of time that he needs you will make you feel guilty. he just may need your help finding the right kind of financial help or education he needs to pull it together. there are all kinds of social services out there for financial advice and educational choices and the services are free for the asking. also community college vocational training programs. help steer him in the right direction. (pay forward)
btw, no one owes an adult child anything. we do for them out of love. how many here are raising their gc while their single children work? if a kid lost his job and couldn't find one for 2 years, would he be loafing around feeling too comfortable? i once needed help from my family and they helped me out of love. it was me who hated it and i guarantee you that this young man is not happy to be in the position of a child again.
it sounds like a heater and a/c would be a good idea up there anyway. in any event, he's not a throw-away child. making him feel less than welcome for any length of time that he needs you will make you feel guilty. he just may need your help finding the right kind of financial help or education he needs to pull it together. there are all kinds of social services out there for financial advice and educational choices and the services are free for the asking. also community college vocational training programs. help steer him in the right direction. (pay forward)
btw, no one owes an adult child anything. we do for them out of love. how many here are raising their gc while their single children work? if a kid lost his job and couldn't find one for 2 years, would he be loafing around feeling too comfortable? i once needed help from my family and they helped me out of love. it was me who hated it and i guarantee you that this young man is not happy to be in the position of a child again.
#94
I have always believed in "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." And by all means "I sure don't want to offend anyone, but...." This thread has opened my eyes. I THOUGHT quilters were a nice bunch of people.... After this thread, and a few others I see the light on how some of you really are. Just let me say this, I hope none of you are ever put in the position this young man has had to lower himself to. Because you wouldn't deserve the doghouse outside to sleep in.
#95
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Join Date: Aug 2010
Posts: 601
As you have just shown, quilters are not all nice, or even polite. They're just people.
Originally Posted by julia58
I have always believed in "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." And by all means "I sure don't want to offend anyone, but...." This thread has opened my eyes. I THOUGHT quilters were a nice bunch of people.... After this thread, and a few others I see the light on how some of you really are. Just let me say this, I hope none of you are ever put in the position this young man has had to lower himself to. Because you wouldn't deserve the doghouse outside to sleep in.
#96
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: North East Lower peninsula of Michigan
Posts: 6,230
My son His fiance and little boy moved in with us for six months. they had a room in the basement but I ended up caregiver to the baby had to take him to day care and pick him up was a difficult time as we didn't agree on discipline rules but in the end it all worked out. But 6 months was a Long time! If you can find a space for him it will be worth it!
#97
Originally Posted by julia58
I have always believed in "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." And by all means "I sure don't want to offend anyone, but...." This thread has opened my eyes. I THOUGHT quilters were a nice bunch of people.... After this thread, and a few others I see the light on how some of you really are. Just let me say this, I hope none of you are ever put in the position this young man has had to lower himself to. Because you wouldn't deserve the doghouse outside to sleep in.
#98
Originally Posted by marknfran
Originally Posted by julia58
I have always believed in "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." And by all means "I sure don't want to offend anyone, but...." This thread has opened my eyes. I THOUGHT quilters were a nice bunch of people.... After this thread, and a few others I see the light on how some of you really are. Just let me say this, I hope none of you are ever put in the position this young man has had to lower himself to. Because you wouldn't deserve the doghouse outside to sleep in.
#99
#100
Originally Posted by BellaBoo
I wouldn't make it too easy for your son. It's your room not his. But kids are our joy so you have to try. I would put a bed up in the attic, buy a clothes rack and believe me he will come up with other needed items for up there. he wont' be there much except to sleep anyway. I would rather help my kids pay their rent then have them move back home.
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