Pam B

No, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with not wanting to be married at 21. And, I am a mom of a 21 year old talking. My son was just married last married...he was 28 at the time and married a wonderful young lady who is 31 (and,yes, her first marriage). We have another daughter who will be marrying her high school/ college sweetheart in June. They are both 23 and have dated for years. My youngest (the 21 year old) is having way too much fun as a college junior and looking forward to starting her career to worry much about being in a committed relationship. In fact, she feels sad for her high school friends who are already married, some with children, living in our small town and working at minimum wage jobs. And, no...there is nothing wrong with getting min. wage...her point is that there is a whole world out there and people should see it before they settle down. Don't let anyone make you feel bad.

tdgiffin

As the Bible says, to everything there is a season. If and when your season comes for this, you will know.

sueisallaboutquilts

Honey, you just got a whole lot of good advice!! :D
People ask such dumb questions sometimes too- I guess that doesn't change lol

seamstome

Just wait until a bunch of them are divorced...does she want you to join that crowd too?

I was married at 20 the first time. Believe me it takes more maturity to remain married than alot of 20 year olds have.

Enjoy YOUR life and if you get married that's okay.

Jan in VA

Or, if you're feeling especially peckish that day, you might say, "Why?? Does misery love company?" and give a sugar-wouldn't-melt-in-my-mouth smile! LOL! ;-)

Jan in VA

nativetexan

oh honey, my first husband proposed to me when i was 15 yrs old. i waited till i was 23 to marry him. I've been married 30 yrs now- to my 3rd husband!!
don't rush!!!

mollymct

What everyone else said...I think it's just a topic some people naturally go to without thinking. I've heard it for years. I don't even think most people are being particularly nosy (maybe some!), it just follows "how are you? how are your parents?..." It doesn't bother me until they start matchmaking!

CarrieAnne

I have a 21 yo son and 22 yo dd and I dont think either one is ready for marrige yet, lol!

quiltinghere

There's a difference between *rudely* and *matter of factly*.

I hope you find the difference sooner than I did (after the age of 50).

Something polite like...
"No - I'm not getting married anytime soon - but if you promise not to ask such a stupid question like that to me again - when I'm engaged you'll be the 5th person to know...how's that sound to you?"
:)

Annaquilts

Not at all I have an adult daughter that is 22 and not married and another one 20 and she is not planning to get married next year. My son is getting married and his Hailee, yes same name, will be 25 when she gets married. Know too many young people that are already divorced. I really like that my kids take some time to work on their education and figure out who they are before taking that step.