Missing Mom
05-08-2011, 12:58 PM
#31
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Oh, I know how painful this day is for us who have lost our MOMs. Mine has been gone 11 years now and i would hope and pray that she is watching me every day. I know she is in a better, beautiful place free from pain and hurt. This makes it a little easier. And next month we go thru it again for FATHERs day. But somehow we make it thru by the grace God gives us every Day.
Hugs to all that are in the same situation. :lol: :lol: :lol:
Hugs to all that are in the same situation. :lol: :lol: :lol:
05-08-2011, 03:00 PM
#32
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What a lovely thought. You know, she has, in a way, been there for you all this time. Look how you think about her and know what an influence she has had on your life. I'm sure she would be very proud of you.
05-08-2011, 03:38 PM
#33
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Originally Posted by BobbiSue
Mama passed on Mother's Day 2009. She was an Alzheimer's victim. I miss her more than I can ever say. She taught me so much.... how to be a lady who was not afraid to get my hands dirty helping others. The key work she taught was Lady. Never heard a nasty word pass her lips. Saying all this, I'll love her to my dying day but wouldn't bring her back in the condition she was in for any price. I can't bring her back but I can go to her. God bless you and all the other mothers this Mother's day 2011.
victim. Still ask her opinion on things when I have problems. Talk to her even when I don't. The sweetest little person I have ever known, loved by so many people. She had the kindest heart and only saw good in everyone she met. Agree about not bringing her back under the AZ cloud that enveloped her. We can go to them. God Bless Mothers nationwide.
05-08-2011, 07:06 PM
#34
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I definitely share your same feelings quilting grannie. It was Oct. of 1990 when my mother passed away. I was a bit older than you when she passed away, as were my children. They had many wonderfuld summers and years with her. Our daughter was a Sr. in H.S. and son was a freshman. However my youngest niece was only 4 so she never really knew mother oldest niece and nephew were both married with children at the time.
We were the best of friends, and shared so much, there is just my brother and I, and not having a sister mother and I were very close. We often called each other when we had questions about sewing or cooking. I feel like I was cheated of so many wonderful years, and would love for her to see my quilts and other things that I have accomplished since her passing, but then who am I to feel that way and have felt guilty about that when God has His own plan. We had daddy until 2004, now there is just my brother and I and we have always been so close, we often talk about what wonderful parents we had.
I too have a very hard time with Mother's Day and now Father's Day.
My husband lost his dad five months after my mother passed away and his mother three years ago now.When they were all living I bought all cards and gifts, but just couldn't anymore after mother passed away.
For about three years I would think about something and think I need to call mother and tell her, then reality would sit in. Even now I still find myself wishing I could call and tell her somthing. I talk to her and to daddy a lot. I still think of them every day, I guess I always will.
But I'm like you I finally had to realize that I'm the mother now and also wonder how my kids will deal with the same thing. I'm the Aunt that my youngest niece calls, her mother is still living, but walked out on her and my brother when she was 14. Niece has been married for 3 yrs now and doesn't have much to do with her mother.
I have had a good day though, I had a early morning call from my brother, wishing me a Happy Mother's day, a beautiful card and phone call today from my son, he lives about 500 miles away, and never misses sending a card and calling. A short but enjoyable visit and a beautiful amethyst geode pendant from by daughter, she lives 100 miles away. I can't forget a dozen beautiful roses from DH.
We will never ever quit missing our parents, time eases the pain, but it will always be there, especially on certain occasions.
Sorry for the long post, but somtimes we just have to get things like this off our chests, or at least I do, I am one that just can't cry,wish I could it would help more I think, and this is how I deal with my pain by talking about it.
But wishing all who have lost their mothers and all who still are lucky enough to have their mothers with them, a late but beautiful Mother's Day and many many more to come. Cherish every day and year you have her with you. (((Hugs))) to all Gerbie
We were the best of friends, and shared so much, there is just my brother and I, and not having a sister mother and I were very close. We often called each other when we had questions about sewing or cooking. I feel like I was cheated of so many wonderful years, and would love for her to see my quilts and other things that I have accomplished since her passing, but then who am I to feel that way and have felt guilty about that when God has His own plan. We had daddy until 2004, now there is just my brother and I and we have always been so close, we often talk about what wonderful parents we had.
I too have a very hard time with Mother's Day and now Father's Day.
My husband lost his dad five months after my mother passed away and his mother three years ago now.When they were all living I bought all cards and gifts, but just couldn't anymore after mother passed away.
For about three years I would think about something and think I need to call mother and tell her, then reality would sit in. Even now I still find myself wishing I could call and tell her somthing. I talk to her and to daddy a lot. I still think of them every day, I guess I always will.
But I'm like you I finally had to realize that I'm the mother now and also wonder how my kids will deal with the same thing. I'm the Aunt that my youngest niece calls, her mother is still living, but walked out on her and my brother when she was 14. Niece has been married for 3 yrs now and doesn't have much to do with her mother.
I have had a good day though, I had a early morning call from my brother, wishing me a Happy Mother's day, a beautiful card and phone call today from my son, he lives about 500 miles away, and never misses sending a card and calling. A short but enjoyable visit and a beautiful amethyst geode pendant from by daughter, she lives 100 miles away. I can't forget a dozen beautiful roses from DH.
We will never ever quit missing our parents, time eases the pain, but it will always be there, especially on certain occasions.
Sorry for the long post, but somtimes we just have to get things like this off our chests, or at least I do, I am one that just can't cry,wish I could it would help more I think, and this is how I deal with my pain by talking about it.
But wishing all who have lost their mothers and all who still are lucky enough to have their mothers with them, a late but beautiful Mother's Day and many many more to come. Cherish every day and year you have her with you. (((Hugs))) to all Gerbie
05-08-2011, 07:26 PM
#36
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Originally Posted by QuiltingGrannie
To all the mothers on the board - Happy Mother's Day.
There are a few times a year I really get to missing my mom and Mother's day is one of them. She has been gone for 21 years already.
She has missed so much of my life. I was only 33 when she died, in the midst of starting a new life. She knew and loved the man in my life, but never saw us get married. My kids were blessed in having spent a couple of weeks for a few summers with her until she was too ill to handle them. I am grateful for that.
We moved to TN after she passed, so she never saw our home here.
She never got to see that I became a quilter and that a lot of what she taught me about sewing I use today, and really appreciate her teaching me to sew.
She never got to see my kids as married people. Never met my grandkids.
But, she will always be with me in my heart. I am not be able to call her or go visit her. I wonder if she knows how often I 'talk' to her.
And it is at the times that I miss her and want to talk to her and ask her things that I realize.... I'm THE mom now!
And then I begin to wonder how will my kids remember me and feel about me when I am no longer here for them?
Happy Mother's Day Mom! Thank you for all that you were to me and to so many other people who loved you. We miss you and love you.
There are a few times a year I really get to missing my mom and Mother's day is one of them. She has been gone for 21 years already.
She has missed so much of my life. I was only 33 when she died, in the midst of starting a new life. She knew and loved the man in my life, but never saw us get married. My kids were blessed in having spent a couple of weeks for a few summers with her until she was too ill to handle them. I am grateful for that.
We moved to TN after she passed, so she never saw our home here.
She never got to see that I became a quilter and that a lot of what she taught me about sewing I use today, and really appreciate her teaching me to sew.
She never got to see my kids as married people. Never met my grandkids.
But, she will always be with me in my heart. I am not be able to call her or go visit her. I wonder if she knows how often I 'talk' to her.
And it is at the times that I miss her and want to talk to her and ask her things that I realize.... I'm THE mom now!
And then I begin to wonder how will my kids remember me and feel about me when I am no longer here for them?
Happy Mother's Day Mom! Thank you for all that you were to me and to so many other people who loved you. We miss you and love you.
05-08-2011, 08:04 PM
#37
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I was blessed to have my mother for 61 years. She died on May 5, 2005, just a few days before Mother's Day. I miss her so much. Six years have passed, but very few days go by that I don't think about her. Sometimes for just a brief moment I'll think that I need to call and check on Mother, then just as quickly I realize I can't. My husband lost his mother on April 14 of this year. Today was a hard day, but we were blessed to have both our children and all our grandchildren except the youngest with us for supper.
05-08-2011, 08:09 PM
#38
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Lost my mom Feb 14, 2004, Not a day goes by that she is always on my mind, Miss her so much. She was 93 and had a long and healthy life. Lost one of my sisters 5 months later with colon cancer. That was a tough year, so grieved for them till I found this board last year and started wanting to quilt again. So Thanks to all of you for getting me back to quilting. My mom is right there beside me everyday. She would be proud of the quilts I have done. She had quilted all her life.
05-08-2011, 08:13 PM
#39
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I am adopted & often wonder if my real mom ever thinks about what she gave up...espically on mother day.
Oh not to worry, I have always had the attitude she had a choice as she was involved in my life until I had my 1st daughter then decided that would be it. I was blessed w/ wonderful adoptive parents.
Oh not to worry, I have always had the attitude she had a choice as she was involved in my life until I had my 1st daughter then decided that would be it. I was blessed w/ wonderful adoptive parents.
05-08-2011, 08:33 PM
#40
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My Mom will be gone 10 years this June. It was the worst time of my life (well, right now not so great either). We were moving to Fl. from Mass, I just turned 50, my 2 older children did not move with us and I lost my Mom about a week before we moved. She went into hospital not feeling well and never came out. I miss her so much. I talk to her all the time and tell her to come back here to fold my whites.
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