My mother has a question!
04-28-2010, 02:31 PM
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Adult children should neither have to be babysat, waited on, or entertained. A day or two before Mom should just say, "I'll be having breakfast with some old and dear friends that are in town for the day on Monday, you guys can go out or fix whatever you want for breakfast and I'll be back before lunch. Your dad will be here to let you know where things are. If you decide to cook please clean up afterwards."
04-28-2010, 02:31 PM
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Thank you, everyone. I just talked to mom and told her what all of you said and she is SO happy to know she's not making a mistake. One of you suggested she take the daughter and SIL to breakfast, too, however, the two parties don't know each other AND the boss always insists on picking up the tab and she hates to dump 2 extras on them.
thank you again - you've put her at ease.
thank you again - you've put her at ease.
04-28-2010, 02:34 PM
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Seems like there is a double standard going on here (what is good for me, you are not allowed to do). Hardly a fair arrangement. If I was your mother I would be meeting my friends for breakfast for sure
04-28-2010, 03:19 PM
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She's finally, after 17 yrs starting to stand up to him!!!! Yes, he DOES have a double standard. They've only visited me 2 times in the last 5 yrs.....but go to his son's in Seattle 2 times a year!!!! Maybe he knows how I feel about him...........hmmmmmmmmm
04-28-2010, 07:57 PM
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Double standards don't fly at this house. DH thought he might entertain a few but I set him straight right away. I told him that I was raised on a farm but left the jackass, bulls, and boars there when I left---I wasn't about to start living with one now.
04-29-2010, 08:26 AM
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Originally Posted by amma
Can the boss be invited to their home for breakfast? A happy medium, keep peace in the family?
It sounds like he is afraid to make any waves with his daughter, especially since this is only her second visit. Is he afraid that her feelings will be hurt? Without knowing their past history, is he wanting this visit to go smoothly in hopes that they will come more frequently to visit?
It sounds like he is afraid to make any waves with his daughter, especially since this is only her second visit. Is he afraid that her feelings will be hurt? Without knowing their past history, is he wanting this visit to go smoothly in hopes that they will come more frequently to visit?
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