A question of perspective about money... and movie tickets
#31
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we have a crappy OLD run down theatre that is just nasty...and will cost us $12.00 per person to go see and snacks (which is where theatres make their money) are ridiculous!
SO we are opting to drive 1.25 hours south to the CITY and pay only $8.00 to see it in a really nice MALL theatre...
why??? just like your DD...we LOVE HP and this will the very last HP midnight premiere they will get to go and see!
Make it special!
SO we are opting to drive 1.25 hours south to the CITY and pay only $8.00 to see it in a really nice MALL theatre...
why??? just like your DD...we LOVE HP and this will the very last HP midnight premiere they will get to go and see!
Make it special!
#32
My feel is to allow her to make the decision. She knows of the price differences and distance and the sacrafice you would be making to take them. This is learning experience in itself. One she will know of your generosity of your time, two, a feeling of being trusted to make the decision,and most importantly, she will learn to make sacrafices for others when needed. Trust in your daughter's decision and she will gain confidence.
#33
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Originally Posted by BellaBoo
I'm probably in the minority but I never really argued over the cost of name brand clothes or other items. I said this is your clothing budget for this time and you can buy what you think you will need. If you don't buy underwear to have money to buy the expensive jeans, tops, shoes then you will go underless. I didn't stress over it or listen to whining about not having good socks when it got cold. I didn't worry about cold feet, it was their cold feet but I told them how spiffy they looked in that $100 name brand hoody. LOL.
If this were my 17 year old son (who is a pro at attempting to manipulate us through the "you don't understand!" line) I would give HIM choices: If you want to go and do XYZ, which is more expensive than ABC, then we have to make sacrifices somewhere else. Then I would give him a couple of choices - no soda and sweet treats for a month, or no trip to the beach, something like that. That does a couple of things - it makes him feel that he has input, control, and a voice, and lets you keep the budget in line.
Good luck and let us know how you resolve this!
#34
Originally Posted by bearisgray
Originally Posted by BellaBoo
I'm probably in the minority but I never really argued over the cost of name brand clothes or other items. I said this is your clothing budget for this time and you can buy what you think you will need. If you don't buy underwear to have money to buy the expensive jeans, tops, shoes then you will go underless. I didn't stress over it or listen to whining about not having good socks when it got cold. I didn't worry about cold feet, it was their cold feet but I told them how spiffy they looked in that $100 name brand hoody. LOL.
Not everyone can.
#35
Originally Posted by Favorite Fabrics
We live in a world with choices, though...
Theater #1 is 10 minutes away, the ticket price is $12 and snacks are expensive. This is a newer theater.
Theater #2 is 25 minutes away, tickets are $6 and the snacks cost about half as much. This is an old theater.
DD wants to go to theater #1. I told her that I though it was overpriced and that we should plan on going to theater #2, and that it is rather arrogant to assume that her friends are all willing and/or able to pay twice as much as they need to to see the movie. (I am willing to transport DD and 6 of her friends in our gas-guzzling van.)
That extra 30 minutes or extra 60 minutes (both ways of the trip) would not be worth the $12 difference in price.
After the midnight showing, it's going to be around 1:30 or so before you get back on the road....that 15/30 minutes could be a problem if you are overly tired. Do you have to take each girl home or are they all staying with you?
I am guessing since you said the other girls houses are quite large the money isn't an issue with them or their parents. The other parents are probably glad "they" aren't the one going at midnight so they can have the night off.
Concede this small trial...it's really not worth your time or the sadness/pouting you'll have to live with....HOWEVER I'd not make it an "Okay you win"...but rather an "Okay, I won't embarrass you in front of your friends by making you go to the "old" movie theater, BUT you must encourage your friends to do a fund raiser for "a favorite charity" or help someone less fortunate" type of conceding. (clear as mud?)
#36
The reason doesn't really matter. It probably won't make much sense to you. I would go halves on the ticket to the closer theater. Take your own snacks, unless she wants to buy them herself. If it's that important to her, try to work it out. But she needs to assume some of the responsibility for the cost. Life is short. Enjoy her, drama and all!
#37
14 is awfully young to be together with 6 others her age at midnight in a theater in a shopping mall area.
Melodrama is part of life for a teen girl. Making sensible decisions is part of being a teen's parent.
I like the idea of problem solving with her regarding the "details" of the situation involving the friend's group. 14 yr old females are notoriously manipulative. :evil:
Checking with the other parents sets a precedence in which she understands you will check things out and you will protect her (from herself and others bad decision-making)
It's better to have a kid angry with you than to have one harmed (hate to consider how) and have to pick up those emotional pieces for the rest of her life.
Be the parent and be strong - some day this may end up being "one of those" stories she tells her children.
:D
Melodrama is part of life for a teen girl. Making sensible decisions is part of being a teen's parent.
I like the idea of problem solving with her regarding the "details" of the situation involving the friend's group. 14 yr old females are notoriously manipulative. :evil:
Checking with the other parents sets a precedence in which she understands you will check things out and you will protect her (from herself and others bad decision-making)
It's better to have a kid angry with you than to have one harmed (hate to consider how) and have to pick up those emotional pieces for the rest of her life.
Be the parent and be strong - some day this may end up being "one of those" stories she tells her children.
:D
#38
Originally Posted by eashka
I guess I am very old fashioned but I feel that if you are willing to take them out at midnight it should be up to you where they go. If they are showing the same movie then either theater is good enough. And forget the snacks at midnight!
Good luck to you - go to the less expensive theatre. The cute guys will always be there. I should know, I married one - 51 years ago!!!!! Edie
#40
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THESE FOLLOWING WORDS ARE FROM MY BROTHER =A FATHER OF 3 GIRLS= They gotta be COOL Seen at only the coolest places Wear only the coolest cloths shoes jewelry etc etc as long as its OPM... Give her options --You'll give her $12 period she then can opt for the over priced ticket and no snacks OR the cheap ticket and snacks But heres the hard part AS the PARENT You can ONLY give her $12 NO matter which option she chooses He said it was a good lesson on money management Little GrassHoppers spent their movie nite money wisely Tickets and snacks :-)
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