Magdalena

I think sometimes the venter needs positive people to see the brighter side of the situation.

Jingle

I always figure the poster has gone the nice and polite route to get their wrongs righted and only post after that hasn't worked. Then when they post others will tell them to do the other things you talked about.
Because you don't know what the others may be going through, it isn't nice to judge them.
Like someone else said if you don't like what someone has posted, just ignore it and go to something else.
Just the way I see things.

Mary M

I sure do like the way you see this. Yes, there are times when we shouldn't put our problems on others to read and instead keep it light but what I am also seeing is negativity being treated with negativity. If we really look at it, there really isn't much difference in the person complaining about a store [just an example] than a person on here complaining about that person. I usually don't take the average complaint about a store [say, the help is rude] as being really negative but more to "buyers beware." There have been times I have appreciated the buyers beware postings for it saves me time in not bothering with thise places. Just different opinions among different people.

carhop

i also beleave someone was just trying to vent everyone needs to do this once it a while leave it with a grain of salt

leonajo

Sherry, I agree with totality!

It's still a free country, If u r not interested in a post, just move on to another topic, no one will ever know:)

redvette54

The one thing I love about this board is most posts are upbeat, nice and positive. When I read about someones experince with a store or the quilt police, I take it as a heads up, if I went to that store. Many times, I choose not to read the replies. On the personal side, I work for the most negitive person, I know. After working a day with her, the negativity rubs off and one of the first things I do when I come home, is get on our board for a pick me up.

leiladylei54

Negative posts and negative feedbacks....if we don't like reading them, then we have the option of going to the next post. None of us are forced to contribute to adding their own comment. And sometimes the poster is just venting so the troops rally behind her/him. It can be a way of showing support that we understand.

bobbie1

I read it as "someone to vent to". Lord only knows how much I need that sometimes myself. Just someone who will listen and know "just" how you feel. Do not need response or sympathy, etc. Just a "shoulder to cry on" or "ear to bend". Seems to me that everyone here..or almost everyone is like one big family. We are here for you. I don't look at it as negativity.

IrishNY

I agree with noveltyjunkie - it is more disturbing to me when people take one situation and make a sweeping generalization, like "if you're not a quilter, you don't appreciate the work that goes into the things we make". I think that is real negativity and it's damaging.

But I understand the need to vent about a frustrating situation and am OK when someone does here. Lots of posters write that they love this board because people listen to them here. So if they need to vent and be heard, I think it's fine to do it here. I don't need to read it if I don't want to.

Judie

I think its fashionable to be negative.. Listen to most any conversation, it runs to the negative or to how someone got what they demanded, told someone off and so on..

Not only is it fashionable, but it's easier.. It is so much harder for most to think of what's good, what's right, what's beautiful and noteworthy than it is to think of the wrongs and slights and hurts we all experience.

On top of that, I think that negativity breeds more negativity. I often try to put in a positive comment or think of a reason that someone would act the way they do. Sometimes I get laughed out of the group as a pollyanna..

Oh well.. I don't like to dwell on the negative, this is a hard world and I don't need to relive all those hurts over and over.. so if it gets too negative, I go someplace else.

For the most part I love this group.. they are helpful, have great suggestions and care about quilting. Perhaps they just need the more postive ones to be more encouraging. I'm going to give it a try!