When someone doesnt pay Lesson Learned.
09-20-2011, 07:13 AM
#91
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You wouldn't be able to get away with telling your Dr. that his education, knowledge and or talent is worth nothing. I WAS married to a man who embarrassed me all the time because he owed money that he would not pay. When I asked him if he had paid he said "no, they didn't ask for it". I was always telling him they should not have to ask what was already agreed upon.
09-20-2011, 07:20 AM
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Please, please, ask gently, gracefully for the agreed on price. Like so many others have said, it is not the way to go. Groceries stores or quilt shops will not let you walk out of their store w/out money or credit card. You should get paid the agreed upon price or they should be ashamed of themselves and offer the merchandise back with apologies!
09-20-2011, 01:02 PM
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They think $50.00 for a handmade purse is too much? Yet that same person will go to a dept store and pay 2 or 3x that amount for a purse usually made in a sweat shop. I agree, get your money first. That way you can buy the needed material. No money, no honey!!
09-20-2011, 03:52 PM
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I make baby bibs (aprons) to be sold and all moneies to go to benifit Autism Speaks. One day my next door neighbor asked if I would make her one but she wanted to pick out the material. I told her ok and when we went shopping. She paid for the fabric and I told her it would be a minimum amount to be donated to Autism Speaks. At this time she became very upset and did not want to give me $5.00 to be donated. She no longer talks to me since I asked for the money. So solly for her madeness...I do not work for free only for charity to benefit the cause.
09-21-2011, 07:17 AM
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It's such a drag asking people for money. But this situation is so wrong!! Lots of good suggestions here especially the card idea. Do something about this and stick up for your time and talent.
09-21-2011, 03:08 PM
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UPDATE
Oh my!! I have not checked this thread in days and I am overwhelmed by all the wonderful advice that comes from your personal experiences. There are so many great replies I am taking them all to heart.
Now I have to tell you I showed my sister one that I made and she fell in love with it. She ask me to make her one a little bigger and she would take it to work with her and see if anyone wanted one. She also ask me how much I thought about selling them for. I told her I was thinking 40 $ after all the material, pellon and time I did not think it was unreasonable. So Saturday I took the time and made the one in my avatar for her. On Sunday I took it over and she gave me 40 dollars. Now. this is my sister and she would not let me leave without the money.. I said just pay for the pellon.. The material was out of my stash but she insisted that is what I charged so that is what she was paying. I still cant believe my own sister insisted she pay and others will not. Needless to say I thanked her and took the money.
On Monday I happened to tell my boss and my coworker that I sold one for 40 dollars. My coworkers reply was "Oh thats nice" My boss said.. well how long did that one take and I said about 10 hours because I quilted it. (I usually dont) and her reply was "Your going to have to streamline your process if you want to make it worth your time" I was appalled.. I wanted to say.. Well I wouldnt have to charge so much if people ALWAYS paid me. Being the person I am I bit my tongue .. You can bet I will NEVER make anything for anyone at work again I dont even think I would do it if I have the money upfront.
I am done being upset about it now..
Thank you again for all your Wonderful Advice.. Even if I am not strong enough to take it
Oh my!! I have not checked this thread in days and I am overwhelmed by all the wonderful advice that comes from your personal experiences. There are so many great replies I am taking them all to heart.
Now I have to tell you I showed my sister one that I made and she fell in love with it. She ask me to make her one a little bigger and she would take it to work with her and see if anyone wanted one. She also ask me how much I thought about selling them for. I told her I was thinking 40 $ after all the material, pellon and time I did not think it was unreasonable. So Saturday I took the time and made the one in my avatar for her. On Sunday I took it over and she gave me 40 dollars. Now. this is my sister and she would not let me leave without the money.. I said just pay for the pellon.. The material was out of my stash but she insisted that is what I charged so that is what she was paying. I still cant believe my own sister insisted she pay and others will not. Needless to say I thanked her and took the money.
On Monday I happened to tell my boss and my coworker that I sold one for 40 dollars. My coworkers reply was "Oh thats nice" My boss said.. well how long did that one take and I said about 10 hours because I quilted it. (I usually dont) and her reply was "Your going to have to streamline your process if you want to make it worth your time" I was appalled.. I wanted to say.. Well I wouldnt have to charge so much if people ALWAYS paid me. Being the person I am I bit my tongue .. You can bet I will NEVER make anything for anyone at work again I dont even think I would do it if I have the money upfront.
I am done being upset about it now..
Thank you again for all your Wonderful Advice.. Even if I am not strong enough to take it
09-22-2011, 02:50 PM
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Originally Posted by willferg
I know it's hard to ask for money, and in a perfect world, you shouldn't have to. But I learned from an old boss that's it's okay to ask. He would say something like, "The total you owe me for the purse is x. I know money is tight, but when do you think you can get it to me?" Get a specific date, and then on that date (if you aren't paid sooner), say, "You mentioned you'd have the money for the purse today, and I was wondering if you have it for me."
He used to say, "What did you ever buy that you didn't have to pay for?"
I have to agree with this completely!! I NEVER turn over the item until it's paid for. I ask them when they will be able to pay, and on that day I have the item with me. No money, no item. Simple.
I don't mean to put the blame on you in any way, but letting people get away with this (and it's often unintentional forgetfulness) isn't fair to you because it makes you feel bitter and burned, and you sound like too generous a person to have to carry that burden.
Just my two cents!
He used to say, "What did you ever buy that you didn't have to pay for?"
I have to agree with this completely!! I NEVER turn over the item until it's paid for. I ask them when they will be able to pay, and on that day I have the item with me. No money, no item. Simple.
I don't mean to put the blame on you in any way, but letting people get away with this (and it's often unintentional forgetfulness) isn't fair to you because it makes you feel bitter and burned, and you sound like too generous a person to have to carry that burden.
Just my two cents!
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