am not going to make anymore for family
#101
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 4
I know what you mean. Made a quilt for a relative. First thing she said was "I don't like the color green". I quilt to relax so I try to put all negativity aside. I plan to only give quilts or hand-made gifts to people I know who would appreciate them.
#102
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: central Indiana
Posts: 1,166
I am sorry your feelings were hurt. In my opinion, purses are kind of 'personal'. I prefer to carry a fabric or straw bag in the summer but in the winter I want a leather one. I kid you not....I needed to replace my winter purse a few years back...it took me a couple years to find the one I ended up buying.
I am very careful when I make things for people. I do not want to put all the time and effort (and the cost) into something that is not going to be 'liked'.
I am very careful when I make things for people. I do not want to put all the time and effort (and the cost) into something that is not going to be 'liked'.
#103
Even if I didn't like it, I wouldn't say anything. However, I hate making things for people other than Christmas items, because people's tastes are different and I wouldn't want to venture a guess as to what they would like and not like as a purse.
#104
I guess these are just life's lessons but it is also pretty cold-hearted to outright tell you they didn't like them. At least they could have kept it to themselves and re-gifted them later, but to tell you that, after all the work, was just insensitive.
This is why I donate almost everything I make. Whoever likes it, gets it and that's fine with me. I figure they won't pick it out of the donation pile if it's not their "thing" and someone else will love it later. My joy is in the making of it.
I DO understand someone not liking a certain thing we would make them. I hate the color pink and, although I wouldn't show it outwardly, I'd take it home and give it away as soon as I could, so don't keep your hurt. It's not worth it. Live and learn :)
This is why I donate almost everything I make. Whoever likes it, gets it and that's fine with me. I figure they won't pick it out of the donation pile if it's not their "thing" and someone else will love it later. My joy is in the making of it.
I DO understand someone not liking a certain thing we would make them. I hate the color pink and, although I wouldn't show it outwardly, I'd take it home and give it away as soon as I could, so don't keep your hurt. It's not worth it. Live and learn :)
#105
Try not to let it get to you. I know it is hard, but people in this day and age seem to want store bought stuff. I have no clue as to WHY but you did your part and you know in your heart, you gave a gift of love. I am sorry though.
#106
I am so sorry. I know how that hurt your feelings. I don't give my hand made gifts to anyone but my own children and grandchildren. I don't want to experience that. Those closest to me cherish my presents because they know how hard I work on them. Bless you.
#107
Originally Posted by sueisallaboutquilts
I'm so sorry this happened to you. But what really gets me mad is that I was taught to appreciate whatever I get, as most of us have. What happened to gratitude??? Even if I don't like something I ACT as though I love it b/c I do in the sense of someone giving me a gift, handmade or bought, it IS the thought that counts!
#108
Junior Member
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Mid Michigan
Posts: 109
I'm sorry you had this experience. Family can be cruel. They should be happy they received a gift alot of us didn't.I wouldn't make them anything not just purses. You put to much work and Love into them to be rejected and I wouldn't go back for seconds.jmo
#110
I can sympathize with you. I , too , used to make a special baby quilt for each of the new babies. In our large family that is a lot of quilts !! Each one was made with a different pattern and unique to each baby. Besides taking the time to make them , quilt them and package them I had to ship most of them as I do not live in the area of my family. Either they hated some of them or just did not have the courtesy to acknowledge a gift. A simple email would have done. Well, I quit. they no longer get quilts from Aunt Pam.
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