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    Only people who make and put so much love in homemade items appreciate them. I've been there done that. Very few get the items I make. Sorry you also had to experience this heartache.

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    Guess that's why I give a LOT of thought about what I give someone, especially something handmade. Usually you can tell who appreciates that type of work...in my family they are very complimentary of my "projects" and I try to get a feel for what styles, colors, etc. they like. I listen all year and when I hear them mention something they like or want, I write it in the back of my day timer so I'll remember come Oct/Nov when I start thinking about gifts. For me, it doesn't have to be expensive or grand; just a gift that I think they will be thrilled to receive. Rarely do I give everyone the same gift...but this year I did. I had letters written by my MIL from 1915 to 1919 while she was in college to her mother and her to-be husband. I reprinted all the letters and had them bound into books and gave to my 3 daughters and 3 granddaughters. They went crazy over them as they saw it as part of their family history.

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    Yes ! Take them all back I would gladly love to have one as I only got a pr. of slippers that didn't fit me.
    Shame on them they have no regards for your hard work and the love that you put in them in making them.





    Happy New Years!

    Cheryl

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    Hi - I know exactly what you mean! I made an angel table runner for my granddaughter for her new apartment and she was like, oh, it's nice! I expected a little more than that, ya know? She collects angels, so I thought it'd be a little more enthusiastically received. :(
    However, I just made a king sized log cabin for our 47 year old son and he's CRAZY about it, so who knows!!!

    We love what we do - guess we can't expect everyone else to, but a little more appreciation would be nice!

    Quiltin'Nana

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaciqltznok
    In my family if you don't like homemade you do without!
    I do goat milk soaps, grow my own lavender to make oatmeal milk bath, sachets, candles, soaps, etc...I blend my own all natural potpourri, I blend teas, and spice rubs, make mustard, all natural apple sauce and butter, etc....so they get home made and home grown.....
    If I send you my address, can I get on your Christmas list. Every item you mentioned is something I would dearly love...especially homemade soap. If in doubt next Christmas, remember me :-)

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    I am so sorry your heart hurts......I know you put your love and hard work into each and every gift you made!
    Blessings to you!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chasing Hawk
    Oh geez,

    Take them all back and send them to us.......lol
    I feel the same way, do you want my addy??? I'm just saying... I'd Love it and appreciate all the love and labor that went into making it. So sorry that your gift was unappreciated, I guess no one taught them any manners!!

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    I'm sorry they responded that way to your creativity and hard work. Unfortunately some people don't apppreciate things home made. If you bought it at a store where there was a tag they might have liked it. There is no sense beating yourself up. You learned a hard lesson not to make one more quilted item for any of them especially if they one day ask you to make them a baby blanket or something. To bad for them it is their loss.

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    I am so sorry.how ungrateful .I love home made gifts it is so easy to go to a store and get gifts but it takes Time Money and LOVE.to make somthing special.your family that did not like the gifts it is their loss someday they will grow up and know how much Love went into those gifts. I am sorry if I am crabby but things like this upset me. It hurts when your work is not appreciated

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    This one sounds fantastic! Hospitals can always use baby blankets to cover the NICU basinets. We make them for the hospital my grandson and granddaughter were born in. They really appreciate them each and every time!
    Blessings Candi

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    Kelly, I am sorry your family did not appreciate their gifts. If it's ever possible, take them to a fabric store, craft fair or quilt show and let them see what others are saying and paying for fabric or a handmade one of a kind purse or quilt. Bet they will be shocked and will be wanting you to make them something else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ftkls501
    I am no longer going to make pureses for family I worked soooo hard getting every one a purse to only have them not like them. They were like oh ths is what you got us? It is not what i expected exspeacially after working so hard but one thing i have learned it is not their thing. I felt like i worked for nothing. I wish they could know how much work and love went into them.
    I'm so sorry for this after you put so much into them but my feeling is that a purse is a very personal choice. I feel it's like trying to buy shoes for somebody. You just never know what their taste is. You might consider saying to them "I'm sorry the purse isn't to your liking but I want you to know how much love I put into making it just for you". Might soften the pain for you.

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    Just a thought. I don't use purses, have only own one in my whole life but if someone took the time to make me one I would find some way to use it. It may not be used as a purse per say but I would find some thing to do with it, like carrying my quilting blocks around or other small projects. Even storing my extra spools of thread would be a great idea but of course they don't sew. The point is they should think outside the box and be grateful you spent your time making them something.

    Their response to your hard work was totally unacceptable and I think I would let them know how much it hurt your feelings. It just wasn't right for them to do that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kathidahl
    Quote Originally Posted by Alondra
    Idea for next year: give all the ingrates a pretty card with a note explaining that you have donated a quilt to a child in the pediatric ward at your local hospital in their name. If they don't like that, they won't dare say so, because it would make them look like the Grinch. Then don't forget to take a tax deduction for the donation. Double revenge. Ooooh, I'm so bad!
    I LOVE THIS COMMENT!! I do not have the ungrateful problem, but if I did, I think I would do this!!
    That's an awesome idea! LOVE IT.

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    I LOVE Alondra's comment about "donating a quilt in your name" to the local hospital! What a clever and gracious way is sending the message that there is someone more deserving of your many hours of work!

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    I would have taken them back and then hand them a 20 and said Merry Christmas to you, too. Then find someone that would be grateful, even if they were complete strangers. I gave 4 quilts and several oven mitts away, big enough for a mans Hands, and everyone loved them.

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    I don't think I'd make anything for anyone who doesn't do some kind of craft (sewing, knitting, etc.). Because they would understand the difference between walking in a store and paying for something (they think that is hard work) and planning, buying the material, cutting it out, sewing,ironing and making sure it is just right. Even people that think they know what you do, don't always realize the work,time and money that goes into our craft.

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    what a rotton thing to happen to you . hugs to you .

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    Gift giving has two parts because there is a giver and a recipient. Giving is an act of love with no strings attached whether we toss a few coins in street buskers cap or spend hours making a beautiful (in our eyes) purse the intent is the same - to show to that person that they are worthy of our time, effort and money. On the other hand to receive a gift is also to recognise the value placed upon their worth by the giver and therefore be grateful. What that person does with your gift is not your concern, you have done your bit. It is said that it is much better and easier to give than receive and if you think about it have you ever had a gift that you were less than ecstatic about?? I'm ashamed of how many of my gifts end up as raffle prizes

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    Sorry, my furbaby Oscar cat just posted for me - he wants attention. I was going to finish off by apologising for being preachy - it's just that I've been exlaining this very thing to a young friend who is not happy with his Christmas presents. He got what he asked for - just not the designer label!
    Happy New Year to all you quilty people and God bless you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yellow Bird
    It is amusing when family is unappreciative, but if you make something and donate it the recipient is happy!

    I have the same experience with my mother-in-law. Her Christmas gifts were received with, "Oh, you do much better work now than 30 years ago." Now wasn't that a backhanded compliment.

    Not making anything for her....gift certificates or nothing!
    Give her nothing as that's what rude people deserve.

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    I wished I had someone to make me gifts, I love homemade stuff...but I am the only one that makes homemade things. Shame on them!

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    How about if we (I know its tacky) put a tag on our homemade gifts as to the hours spent (price per hour) material used (cost) and total cost of homemade item,amount of time spent creating the item (cost per hour). Do you think they would appreciate it more if they really knew?

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    A few years ago a friend asked me to make a Christening
    gown for her grandauter. So I did. I really enjoyed doing
    it. I included a full slip and bonnet. I invested a six
    week sewing class in the prosses. Grandma thanked me
    but I never heard if Mother appreciated it at all. I did
    recieve some pictures from grandmother of the baby in
    the dress. If I do say so myself, it was beautiful.
    Some people just don't get it.

    Brenda from Wadesville In

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    I love your idea about donating a quilt in their name to a childrens hospital !!! I will do that

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