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Thread: Has quilting made you more or less of a loner?

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    I am sorry for the loss of your sister. I've always been a loner and hermit. Quilting has made me get out and socialize a whole lot more because I belong to guilds. The really small guild I belong to gets together every wednesday and sews. I'll be happy when I'm close enough to go sew with them at least twice a month.

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    My sis (who has always lived a half a continent or more from me, but is my twin separated by birth) and I have talked about loner/lonely. We decided we like to be alone because, "Hey, I like myself!" That being said, quilting can be a project done in solitude or multitude, whatever fits your particular status at any given time. And I am both loner and outgoing on any given day.

    Ten years is a long time to be without your sister. I am sorry for your loss.

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    I am sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing a sister. I am basically a loner by nature. I can only take being in groups of people in small doses and I have a few friends whom I see occasionally. I don't like shopping - except fabric shopping! - or crowds, and am usually glad to get home again.

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    Well, after a friend of 17 years just stop having anything to do with me, I refused to be hurt like that ever again, so now I keep my distance. I won't let people get close to me. So all I have now is my computer, quilting, and other crafts. My sons hardly ever call me or visit. So I guess Internet friends is all I have in my life at this time.

    To this day, I have no ideal why my friend stop having anything to do with me, I ask her if I had offended her and she said no, that I had done nothing, but I must of did something to hurt her and she never gave me a chance to say I'm sorry. After 3 years trying and crying to find out what I did, I just gave up.

    At that time I had loss a lot of weight and became much smaller than her, but if she could only see me now, I've just about put it all back on from depression.

    I've told people about this and they seem to think the weight loss might be the reason she quit having anything to do with me, I just don't know...

    But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you!

    So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(

    So Sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to loose a sister, I lost my sister to drowning in 2009 she was my only sibling...

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    Sorry for the loss of your sister. :(
    It's good that you can think of her as you quilt! :)

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    Sorry for your loss. Quilting has pretty much made me more of a loner. There are not a lot of people who quilt in my area so besides for a few classes every now and then, this board is my Only interaction with other quilters. I also find I would rather be home quilting than doing other things

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lv2sew2011
    Well, after a friend of 17 years just stop having anything to do with me, I refused to be hurt like that ever again, so now I keep my distance. I won't let people get close to me. So all I have now is my computer, quilting, and other crafts. My sons hardly ever call me or visit. So I guess Internet friends is all I have in my life at this time.

    To this day, I have no ideal why my friend stop having anything to do with me, I ask her if I had offended her and she said no, that I had done nothing, but I must of did something to hurt her and she never gave me a chance to say I'm sorry. After 3 years trying and crying to find out what I did, I just gave up.

    At that time I had loss a lot of weight and became much smaller than her, but if she could only see me now, I've just about put it all back on from depression.

    I've told people about this and they seem to think the weight loss might be the reason she quit having anything to do with me, I just don't know...

    But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you!

    So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(

    So Sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to loose a sister, I lost my sister to drowning in 2009 she was my only sibling...
    I can so relate to your story, I know what happened, but because we work at the same place, I was put though h*ll for 2 years. I would have left, but at the time, I was single and needed that job. I'm still very bitter and built a nice wall. So all I have are my internet friends.

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    So sorry for your loss. I've always been a loner. Quilting just gives me more interesting things to do. My hubby and I have lost both our parents; brothers and sisters scattered to the four winds so to speak; and our DD married to military and taking the grand kids all over the USA. We talk and email but very seldom see each other. I was so lucky to find this board and all of you who quilt, make me laugh, cry, and challenge me everyday with new ideas. Thanks

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    Quote Originally Posted by redvette54
    Quote Originally Posted by Lv2sew2011
    Well, after a friend of 17 years just stop having anything to do with me, I refused to be hurt like that ever again, so now I keep my distance. I won't let people get close to me. So all I have now is my computer, quilting, and other crafts. My sons hardly ever call me or visit. So I guess Internet friends is all I have in my life at this time.

    To this day, I have no ideal why my friend stop having anything to do with me, I ask her if I had offended her and she said no, that I had done nothing, but I must of did something to hurt her and she never gave me a chance to say I'm sorry. After 3 years trying and crying to find out what I did, I just gave up.

    At that time I had loss a lot of weight and became much smaller than her, but if she could only see me now, I've just about put it all back on from depression.

    I've told people about this and they seem to think the weight loss might be the reason she quit having anything to do with me, I just don't know...

    But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you!

    So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(

    So Sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to loose a sister, I lost my sister to drowning in 2009 she was my only sibling...
    I can so relate to your story, I know what happened, but because we work at the same place, I was put though h*ll for 2 years. I would have left, but at the time, I was single and needed that job. I'm still very bitter and built a nice wall. So all I have are my internet friends.
    Sorry you had to go through h*ll 2 years, I hope some day things can change for you guys if thats what you want.

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    Probably less of a loner, at least now. For quite a while I was the only one I knew who liked quilting/sewing, but now a couple of friends I've known for years are into it and we have fun every few weeks.

    I'm sorry for those of you who have had friends hurt you -

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    Over a year ago I was very withdrawn ... just work and come home and collaspe. I realized that I missed the creative side of my life. I was an avid quilter for 30 yrs and had stopped several years before. So with the help of a cousin/friend in another state I started quilting again, started a blog and found the QB. These things has opened my life and relationships in so many ways. It is amazing how you know when you really connect with someone (even over the internet) and develop a friendship.

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    I worked all the time and raised five kids and seemed to be on the road all the time or at work. Now they are all grown and I have had some serious health issues and I can stay home if I want. I enjoy my sewing time and being alone is not a problem. The people I associated with during my working years do not quilt or sew. I do belong to a quilt guild and enjoy it tremendously and I really enjoy the company of this quilting board as well as one of my daughters who has become quite an accomplished quilter. Wish she lived closer. We do communicate by phone and e-mail though so keep up with what each of us is doing.

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    Sorry to hear about your sister. I am a loner by nature, don't go out much. After my husband passed away nearly 10 yrs ago I took up quilting, I've always been a knitter. Now my friends, the few who are still around, pop in to bring me all their old sheets and clothes to see if I have any use for those and to see what goodies I've created out of them and often buy them back! This is their way to help me(I think) as I have a very meagre pension to live on.
    This board is my morning coffee friend to start the day with my new friends here and keeps me from feeling such a useless hermit. Thank you for your company, ladies.

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    You know,this is my first quilt in years.I have to make myself fine something to do.So many people have their little groups,then there's me on the outside looking in.When i moved up here,but it's the same here.

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    I was already a loner and a crafter and I'd rater quilt than be around my negative neighbors

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    I tend to be a hermit and before I lost my job I was content to come home and collapse. Now all I want to do is some form of quilting. I 'm hoping to be more involved in this group as you guys are great and support one another. I also think that the more confidence you have as a quilter the more you can open up.. but that's me.
    So sorry you lost your sister. That must have been really hard to go through. She must have really enjoyed quilting if she wanted to open a store! Hope you don't feel so alone without her.
    Hugs and Love

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    So sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers.

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    I was always pretty social-in fact, when I decided to quilt, I pulled a friend along with me. She worked on two little projects, decided it wasn't her thing, but I got hooked! Now, when she calls and wants to go somewhere and do something, I'm torn-I'd much rather spend time with my sewing machine, but she is a good friend. . .and since retirement, I got "volunteered" one day a week at church-more time away. . .I guess in my heart, quilting is making me a loner!

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    I guess I have always been a loner. I am retired and on disability and do not get out much either. My closest friend lives 900 miles away in New Mexico. Also most of my family live either in NM or Colorado. I only seem to get out when I need groceries or I need something for my quilting. Jeanniebelle

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    Loner - hermit - recluse .... all those descriptions fit me. I enjoy being with people but have been hurt too many times so I now stay away from people who have the capacity to hurt me. Cowardly? I think not. I prefer to call it self-preservation and my time quilting fills a void. I enjoy this board as you can voice an opinion and be heard (read) and others comment on what you had to say without being rude, mean and uncaring ............ I appreciate you all!

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    I am sorry about the passing of your sister. I have definitely made more friends doing this than I would have otherwise.

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    Quilting has brought me out of my shell. I retired 2 yrs. ago. a month later I went to work at LQS just to be around quilters. I dont work in the shop now, but I do teach a Small Projects Class every month and the Moda Club, and I make samples for the shop. I also meet the first Sat of every month with 10 to 12 0f my friends at the library. We bring our machines and sew all day and have a pitch in. We have been doing this for 2 yrs. Life is good!

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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

    It hasn't made me a loner, I still get out, but I love being alone and quilting is much cheaper than therapy or meds to calm the nerves. :lol: :lol:

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    I've always been a loner & at this age, it won't change.Maybe some ppl are predesposed to getting into any interest big time, not just quilting?I'm sorry for your loss.

    Quote Originally Posted by donnajean
    I was just responding to another posted topic about how much is too much stash. My sister died in 2001 with a 5 bedroom house as well as storage facilities filled with anything relating to quilting. Her "when I retire I will open a quilt shop" never happened as she lost her battle with colon cancer. This was pre-internet times & quilting became such an obsession that all she did was quilt & work. She became isolated from any local friends. I don't know if this would still be true if she had gotten involved with the internet connections we have today. I have met & helped so many quilters as I send her 2,500 quilt books all over the world. Sites like this QB are a blessing for the many people like my sister who do not get out & about.

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    So sorry about your sister. As for the neighbor, if you like the material, buy it. As for this post.......I have found that since this board and quilting, I find myself less apt to go out. So I guess that makes me more of a loner.

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