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Thread: Has quilting made you more or less of a loner?

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    Oh, Donna, I am so sorry you lost your sister. My sisters and I are scattered all over the place, so I don't see them as much as I would like. I am a home body, but I do go into the LQS and do sit and sews at least once a month. I do enjoy this website and chatting with everyone.

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    Sorry to hear about your sister. I am sure it has not been easy, even the task of dispursing of her items she cherished.
    I am not sure I am a loner, I spend a lot of time alone, but I prefer being in the company of others and thrive on it. I was in the work force until a month ago due to permanent layoff. Missed the conversation and people. But slowly I don't anymore and dont want to get out there and find another job. (Thank goodness I dont have to-we will never be very well off, but DH and I know being happy is more important than having things.) I have all of your posts to read and reply to. I feel like you are sitting across the table from me sipping on coffee in the morning, tea in the afternoon, and margaritas or a glass of wine at night. (Wish that were true.) Nope, I am not a loner.

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    I am sorry about your Sister, you and she are in my prayers.

    I have been a loner almost all of my life. I was an only child and had to make my own entertainment. (before TV and the internet). I worked outside the home until I had to retire to become a caregiver. I was a caregiver for my dad with Parkinsons, then my Hubby with Alziemers and then my Mom with heart and walking problems, she died at age 92.

    After I lost them I was entirely alone and sold my house in Florida and moved back to Pennsylvania to be near my daughter. I had found quilting along the way and love the act of creating new and pretty things with fabric, so I was content to be a loner. My daughter is always trying to get me to go out and "Meet people", but I would rather stay home and sew or spend time on the computer. I am hearing impaired and have trouble walking due to Arthritis, so that precludes many of the things that I could do "out there". I am going to volunteer 1 day a week at the local hospital, doing computer entry, which they really need help with, to satisfy my daughter and I hope make it possible for me to make a few friends. Wish me luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grammy17
    Quote Originally Posted by luvstitches
    So sorry about your sister.
    Yes, I've become a loner more so since becoming a quilter.
    It is addicting and lately it is all I want to do besides hang out on the quilting board.
    Me too. My husband sits in front of the TV and I sit here. Keep seeing more quilts I want to make. Need to use material I have. I have a neighbor who wants to sell hers for $2 yd. Should I buy it? I'm on a very fixed budget so even that may be a stretch.
    oh yes,,,if you plan on continuing to quilt I would get it. that is an awesome price. if necessary work out an arrangement with her. You will never forgive yourself if you pass it up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lv2sew2011
    Well, after a friend of 17 years just stop having anything to do with me, I refused to be hurt like that ever again, so now I keep my distance. I won't let people get close to me. So all I have now is my computer, quilting, and other crafts. My sons hardly ever call me or visit. So I guess Internet friends is all I have in my life at this time.

    To this day, I have no ideal why my friend stop having anything to do with me, I ask her if I had offended her and she said no, that I had done nothing, but I must of did something to hurt her and she never gave me a chance to say I'm sorry. After 3 years trying and crying to find out what I did, I just gave up.

    At that time I had loss a lot of weight and became much smaller than her, but if she could only see me now, I've just about put it all back on from depression.

    I've told people about this and they seem to think the weight loss might be the reason she quit having anything to do with me, I just don't know...

    But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you!

    So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(

    So Sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to loose a sister, I lost my sister to drowning in 2009 she was my only sibling...
    Please do not let one person in your life keep you from making new friends. There are lots of great people out there and I am sure some that would love to be your friend. I moved to wa. from calif. and really missed my friends. started a garden club here and volunteered to keep a free library going and now have 3 wonderful friends. Never let someone else take such control of your life. After all, quilters are some of the nicest people I know along with gardeners. smile....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lv2sew2011
    Well, after a friend of 17 years just stop having anything to do with me, I refused to be hurt like that ever again, so now I keep my distance. I won't let people get close to me. So all I have now is my computer, quilting, and other crafts. My sons hardly ever call me or visit. So I guess Internet friends is all I have in my life at this time.

    To this day, I have no ideal why my friend stop having anything to do with me, I ask her if I had offended her and she said no, that I had done nothing, but I must of did something to hurt her and she never gave me a chance to say I'm sorry. After 3 years trying and crying to find out what I did, I just gave up.

    At that time I had loss a lot of weight and became much smaller than her, but if she could only see me now, I've just about put it all back on from depression.

    I've told people about this and they seem to think the weight loss might be the reason she quit having anything to do with me, I just don't know...

    But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you!

    So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-(

    So Sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to loose a sister, I lost my sister to drowning in 2009 she was my only sibling...
    Your friend sounds very shallow...I don't know her but if she stopped being your friend because you lost weight, she wasn't much of a friend to begin with.

    My problem is none of my friends live near by. I moved to Az from CA and we live in the middle of no where, so I have to go a distance to meet friends. I have made some new friends here, I just don't get to see them much!

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    yes i am a loner also.

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    Sorry for your loss, but the main thing is that she was happy.

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    i guess i am a loner by nature. but right now i'm away from home and family. working in nc 500 miles from home. just me and my 13 yo son. we're in a tiny camper but i had to bring my machine. sewing is mostly calming for me. i quit when it isn't. i'm just glad the board is here with all you wonderful people. helps with the lonliness.

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    DonnaJean, I am truly sorry about your sister. You have been doing a sweet thing by helping others by sending out her books, etc. Mama will be gone three years this coming May 10th. She passed on Mother's Day. I am the oldest living person in her direct blood line. Only have two of Daddy's sisters living older than I am in his direct blood line.

    RE: being a loner... Considering that I am disabled in a wheel chair, I seldom get out of my home in the cold weather. So yes, I guess I have become pretty much a loner except for m y dear husband and my aide....
    About all I do now is hand stitching the old fashioned needle and thread way. I also do family genealogy...

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    I am still the same loner that I have always been. Before quilting I had other indoors hobbies, so can't blame that on quilting. I happen to like myself (which is good, because wherever I go - there I am!) My hubby is a loner in his own right, and we both have few but dear friends. No problems here.

    Sorry you lost your sister.

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    I have never been so involved in my local area has I have since I have quilted , I teach a litle and have meet some of the most wonderful "older " ladies I would have never talked to before , they re so giving and have such funny life stories to tell . Cathy

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    so sorry about the loss of your sister. Quilting has brought more people into my life than I had before. I have been a loner all of my life, but I do love and enjoy people.

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    I was a loner before I started quilting. I've never followed or lived by the opinions of others as I have my own life to lead and if I generally try to work toward the common good, quilting is a good way to get you involved with others. I have become more sociable and attend more meetings and get invited to more functions than I ever did before I started quilting. It is a great socialiser and ice - breaker.

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    "This was pre-internet times & quilting became such an obsession that all she did was quilt & work"

    I think this could be true of many hobbies... my ex was a "ham" radio operator.. he would be up about 5a...work from 8a to11:30 home for lunch than back to work at 1p and home by 4:30...rest of the time was on the radio.. Didn't go to bed till about 11ish and sometimes later.. I would often wake up during the night and he would be on the radio again..he had trouble taking the trash out... should have left him long ago.

    Any hobby can become an obsession and the internet and boards like this one can easily become one. The thing that bother's me to is the lack of exercise and weight gain of so many of us quilter's...I am right there with them and I am worried that the older I get the harder it is to lose.

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    Quote Originally Posted by donnajean
    I was just responding to another posted topic about how much is too much stash. My sister died in 2001 with a 5 bedroom house as well as storage facilities filled with anything relating to quilting. Her "when I retire I will open a quilt shop" never happened as she lost her battle with colon cancer. This was pre-internet times & quilting became such an obsession that all she did was quilt & work. She became isolated from any local friends. I don't know if this would still be true if she had gotten involved with the internet connections we have today. I have met & helped so many quilters as I send her 2,500 quilt books all over the world. Sites like this QB are a blessing for the many people like my sister who do not get out & about.
    I'm very sorry for your loss. Maybe your sister just really loved to quilt so much that she would rather do that than hang out with people. Maybe it gave her an outlet from the stress of working. I hope all the fabric and books she acquired gave her great joy.

    This board is wonderful and no one who joins need ever be lonely again! You can talk to so many people, about your favorite pastime, all day or night! Too bad your sister didn't live to find the great camaraderie we have here...

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    The best part of my quilting habit, is that when I do get out and about, there is always something to share with others. I don't drive, so I am not as outgoing as I used to be. I enjoy my company too, so I am not a loner, just happy with my life. It is almost what I want it to be. :thumbup:

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    Sorry about your sister. I am more of a loner at times. I go to sew at a quilt shop with a couple of other ladies on Tuesdays and go to a sewing evening once a month. It gets me out of the house and talking to other quilters. I think quilting can make you a hermit just because you want to stay home and quilt.

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    Sorry to hear about your loss, but just think of all the persons she has touch with her things, she is lonely no more.

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    I am very much a loner not by choice but circumstances. I just do not know anyone near where I have lived the last 3 years, I got tired of going shopping with no purpose in mind and found I was buying just to fill in my loneleness so I started going to stores like jo anns then to quilting stores, I do not feel so alone now because I get on this board everyday and have my quilts to keep me busy.

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    I was a loner before I started quilting. I always had a nite job, or did 12 hour shifts as a home health aide. Never really had any girlfriends, raised my 3 kids by myself. Now there gone and out of the house. Ran into a school teacher that I knew at Hancocks, and started kinda quilt group at my house, just the two of us. Then we found a free quilt group and have been doing that now for 2 years. What a difference. Moved into a new nieghborhood last year started sewing out side, All my nieghbors came over to see what I was doing. Made friends with everyone on the block. How cool is that. I live in a cul-de-sac, and is very quiet here.

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    Very sorry about your sister HUGS.................
    l have always been very content with my own company as l have had a very busy life work related. l couldn't seem to settle down to retirement till l met a quilter who started me off into the quilting world now l am in two groups l have just finished a weekend having a quilt show with my main group which was very tireing but great l have lots of friends who came in to see what l was doing now and made a lot of new ones as l was deminstrating machine embroidery and being a white glove lady which gave me time to chat good luck to those quilters l think quilters are family and easy to talk to. HAPPY QUILTING WHERE EVER YOU ARE IN THE WORLD

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    I guess I can say that I am a loner here. When I go up to CT - my friends and I always get together. I have a few acquintances here - we don't get together often anymore - we go out for lunch occasionally. All the social gatherings or groups have not continued. So I spend most of my time w/DH, quilting, alone or more enjoyably on this board - so I do keep myself busy.

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    I'm retired and have health problems. So I'm home more, which is great because I can quilt. I do miss my family. Lately we found Skype. It's a free web site that allows my daughter and her family in Texas to talk to me in Connecticut, and we can see each other FOR FREE!! All you need is an internet connection and webcam. So all of you who are far from loved ones, try it. I paid $70 for my webcam (not on sale.) Save your pennies for one. It will open your world like this board has. I'm not affilated with Skype. I think it's important to have a circle of friends. If you are home bound, Skype might be one answer.

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    I am so sorry about the loss of your sister. I have never been a loner and quilting hasn't changed that. One day a friend from church asked if I would teach her to quilt. I said sure, bring your machine to my house and I will teach you. Next day she called again and said she had mentioned it to so-and-so and would I teach her, too. I said fine, she can bring her machine, too. A few days later I got an email saying there were 15 who wanted lessons, then 20, then an announcement was made at church (without consulting me) that there would be a quilt class for the 25+ women who had expressed interest! So that's how I began to teach twice a month at the church (I don't have enough outlets in my house). Guess who has yet to attend a class?

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