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    I've been going throu a period of depression I guess for lack of better word..and I haven't wanted to do anything...I haven't even been in there in over a month...I haven't touched a piece of fabric in just as long...even though I have some projects i'm supose to be working on...I just don't feel like it.I don't have any new fabrics, and i'm sick of the ones i have..and not to mention i'm running low, and can't get any more right now ( tough financial month )..I guess maybe I need some motivation and some good creative mojo juices flowing....help me...please!

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    Hang in there Jamie. We all go through tough times. You did the right thing turning to these people on this board. They are a loving and knowledgeable group. Sometimes forcing yourself to do something you just don't feel like doing is the best solution to pull yourself out of the funk. That is easier said then done. But do be creative in what you work on since sometimes these things will not turn out the way you would have liked. That is why when I feel like that I will pick up scraps and make something small just to feel productive and being creative is always a lift for me. Also I always find something on TV that will make me laugh. It truly is the best medicine.

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    We all go thru that at one time or another.
    I've gone thru spells where I wouldn't even walk in the room.
    Right now, I'm taking a break because I have this little headache that is tormenting me. Hoping it will be gone by tomorrow, 4 days is more than enough. I'm thinking it's just the heat and humidity that's getting to me. Our power has been flicking on and off and when it does, the house heats up REALLY fast, so when that happens, there's no way to cool the house down and headaches show up.

    Just hang in there....start going thru the pics here or just Google search and maybe something will "bite" you. :)

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    Is there other stuff going on in your life that is pulling you down?
    Are you physically well?
    Hope your world looks better to you soon.
    Hugs. (If you want them- some people don't)


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    Bear....EVERYONE can use hugs! :)

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    when i get in a funk i like to do a fun quick project that i can finish in a couple hours.

    my new favorite is the origami purse.

    http://www.quiltingboard.com/posts/list/16387.page


    i changed the design slightly by adding in batting and quilting but the purse has the same shape. if you use batting you don't have to sew along the bottom corners to make the bag hold its shape - the batting alone helps hold the form.

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    I love hugs....a lot of physical..and emotional..and other things going on for the past couple of months...I'm not a depressive person usualy...but i've just been really down lately. I don't watch tv...and i have 4 small children, so going away is pretty much out of the question...quilting has been my release and my Me time..and now I don't even wanna do it! I either need a good swift kick to get out of this funk..or maybe some new fabric or anything quilting...I feel like pieces of me are missing right now :(

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    Maybe a vacation to an island in the Pacific? lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by tlrnhi
    Maybe a vacation to an island in the Pacific? lol
    hey, that sounds like a winner! you guys could go down to beach and Terri, you could get cooled off, and rid of that headache...me too, with heat, sometimes...and I'll babysit the four kiddies...no sugar, I promise, but lots and lots of games, and fun...go, you two, and have a ball! I won't even run the toilet over, while your gone, and will make sure, critters don't get in to steal stash, but I might hokey pokey with kids, right on in there, to have a look-see. Don't mind that it ain't all straight for company...other ppl's stuff, don't bother me, one bit...just my own :wink:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jamie
    I love hugs....a lot of physical..and emotional..and other things going on for the past couple of months...I'm not a depressive person usualy...but i've just been really down lately. I don't watch tv...and i have 4 small children, so going away is pretty much out of the question...quilting has been my release and my Me time..and now I don't even wanna do it! I either need a good swift kick to get out of this funk..or maybe some new fabric or anything quilting...I feel like pieces of me are missing right now :(
    well, bug, hug, thin....ooops, big hug then... :wink:
    yes, we all really do, get in this rut, sometimes...that's what it sounds like. You need a change of pace or scenery...some fresh air, etc.
    Physical probs, cause emotional, and think you said cash flow is low...that'll do it fer sure!
    Your feeling constricted...like I never go anywhere, by choice, but let car be unavailable to me...road-runner itch, hits!
    i would 1 - not feel guilty about not quilting...just adds to
    just be on hiatus from it, for a bit.
    don't really know, what would put some sparkle back in your interests...so, go with what feels good, and let whatever you can, go...housework, etc.
    I promise THAT won't go anywhere, lol!
    Make a in house tent with kids, on living room floor and camp. Costs nothing, and they love it. They know when mommy doesn't feel right. Hope you feel more like yourself, very soon, Jamie. hugs agin :wink:

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    I'm going to head in right now, and start going through my fabric, I know I have a lot of scraps, and pieces I don't like, and some other ones I'm just sick of looking at, and maybe I can find someone who would like to exchange fabrics...plus where as I'm sick of spending half my day cleaning...I don't really consider this cleaning...It more wishful thinking :)
    Thanks everyone It's nice to have someone to talk to and a bit of encouregment when your feeling down.

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    Hi Jamie---Sometimes I will go through a spell where I do not go into my quilt room for weeks at a time. The "bug", "urge", "creative juices"---whatever you want to call it-is just not there.

    But, I do find if I will just go into the room and straighten my stash and/or refold fabric, maybe look through an old quilt magazine that it will lift my spirits. I still may not be in the mood to sew or create---but I will be feeling better.

    I have a huge stash and would love to share. Tell me what kind of fabrics you like and let me "shop" for you at my house. Maybe I could send you a "squishy" with a few new-to-you fabrics that might get you enthusiastic about a new project.

    How old are your 4 kids? Are they old enough for a sewing clinic with mom? There are lots of projects that even little kids can do too--maybe their creative juices will spark yours! :lol:

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    Thank you Marcia, your so sweet!! I don't have many "good" pieces of fabric...( actualy didn't realize just how short I was on fabric ) but I do have a LOT of scraps...maybe if you would like to trade for some I would love that.
    I don't have a sewing room...I have a corner of my livingroom...so It's not even like I can go in there and lock myself up for a while.....all my quilting books and magazines were distroyed while I had the children loose in the house and I had my back turned...so I don't even have them right now to browse! :(
    My kids are 10 ( he's just now starting to get his adhd under control enough that I might be able to teach him to sew ) 7...she is afraid of the sewing machine..4 and she wants nothing to do with it, and 1 yr old...and boy oh boy does he want to "Help" lol

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    Okay, Jamie---at least tell me your favorite color or a project you would like to make and let me pick some fabrics for you. PM me your address and I will send you a package this afternoon!!

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    Jamie another idea might be to use some of the kids clothes that they will no longer be able to wear to make a memory quilt. They are always fun and if you get more enjoyment out of them Goodwill will understand.

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    I don't have any family in the area either, and hubby works crazy hours, and when he gets home he just doesn't have the energy to help much! I don't drive, so I'm litteraly trapped in a house with 4 kids..all day long...
    I only have maybe 7 or 8 pieces of fabric at the moment..but I do have a lot of scraps!! So maybe if you want to trade for some of those that would be great!

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    That would be a great idea, to make memory blankets out of grown out of clothes, but I donate all the clothes to those who are more in need then us...all the clothes we have at the moment are the ones we wear lol...I haven't saved anything..there are to many people out there who are going without...

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    It was hard just having three small children at home, so I can only imagine how taxing, stressful and tiresome it must be on you. Hang in there, Baby. If you go on the quilt blocks galore website, you can find many ideas. Let us know what you end up doing.

    Jamie and Marcia, if more stash is needed, I have tons....uh, quite a bit that I could share. Just let me know and I'd be more than happy to get something out today. :D



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    Jaime, we have all been there, done that . I didn't quilt most of the winter... I think the weather got to me :? I like to cut my fabric outside and when I get "trapped" inside due to the weather UGH.. Add that to the fact you don't feel you have any pretties to create with makes it all that much harder :roll: PM me your address and I will send you a squishy. Squishies always make you smile :lol:
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jamie
    I'm going to head in right now, and start going through my fabric, I know I have a lot of scraps, and pieces I don't like, and some other ones I'm just sick of looking at, and maybe I can find someone who would like to exchange fabrics...plus where as I'm sick of spending half my day cleaning...I don't really consider this cleaning...It more wishful thinking :)
    Thanks everyone It's nice to have someone to talk to and a bit of encouregment when your feeling down.
    You have your hands full with the ADHD child, financial downturn, four kids, and a hobby you don't want to do, along with all the other things going on in your life that you haven't told us. I have been where you are a number of times in my life (without the adhd situation), and I would like to share some of the things I have practiced to get out of the rut of depression.
    I lived in the middle of a big city, without even the ability to afford a thrift store, four children, and a husband that went to work faithfully, but didn't like me or the kids very much. I think I was the loneliest because with all the population around me, there was no one that had the outlook on life that I possessed (before I started going back to church, that is). I considered the situation, and because of the children, I couldn't just give up ... sometimes, it seems as though "I MUST be all right - - I am STILL breathing!" (One must always look for the positive :D )
    SOmetimes, I had to practice what I didn't feel like doing. I had worked in a nursing home and noticed that older people would starve to death because they didn't FEEL like eating - - deciding what HAS to be done and then DOING it, no matter how small and insignificant is better than sitting there and NEVER accomplishing something.
    Everything you do that makes life better for your family deserves your personal celebration ... it is a matter of perspective - - you can look at the things you cannot do and think "I am a waste of time = depression" ... or, you can look at what you CAN do and be proud of everything you can accomplish.
    It happened that when my first life lesson was going on, the BiCentennial occurred ... and I began to think about the things and people who made America the best, greatest nation in the world. In that thinking, I considered my forefathers and foremothers who lived out in the prairie with ONLY their family for company. None of the input that we have in today's world - - even back in the 70's we had radio and televison .
    And, yet ... those who came before us, enduring months of isolation within just their family units produced GOOD American citizens. Independent thinking citizens who continued to contribute to our nation's growth.
    So, rather than look around me and think of how different I was from everyone else and being bitter because they wouldn't get on the bandwagon, I CHOSE (we ALWAYS have a choice) to PRETEND (I may not be creative, but I do have an imagination! :-o ) ... I chose to pretend that I lived in the late eighteen hundreds, out in the middle of nowhere ... If women had done it in centuries past, I surely could accomplish as much.
    When it became very obvious that my first husband really didn't like us very much, I delved back into my historical perceptions and realized there were a LOT of single women who had raised GOOD American citizens ... If they could do it, then I knew it could be done .. I just needed to decide to do it ...
    In other words, I selected role models for myself that showed me how to put one foot in front of the other. It helped that my mother had taught me what to do with children who are too healthy, intelligent, and capable to be kept safely playing on the floor. Put them to work! After all - - it is our responsibility to teach our children how to be independent ... it is never too early to teach them to contribute to the well-being of the family.
    No, it is not easy to be lonely, depressed, stressed out over money issues, struggling with what kind of a woman you are going to become, and making sure that everyone who depends on you gets at least the basics of what they need. But generations of women have done it before us ... most of them very successfully ... we can ponder the failures or we can seek out the successful - - it really is our choice.
    So, I pretended to be out in the prairie in the middle of nowhere with no one around but me to figure out what my family would do to get through to the next day.
    Then, my grandpa taught me the FIVE MINUTE RULE.
    I will get back with that when I come back in from changing watering systems.
    Just consider this - - MILLIONS of women have gone through EXACTLY what you are dealing with WITHOUT having all the options you have ... if they could do it, so can you ... do not allow someone's "diagnosis" ever dictate what will happen next ... circumstances happen - - what YOU do during those times will define who you are and what you are capable of.
    Many have never found out how capable they truly are because they don't believe that they are bigger than the circumstances .... and, sometimes, just surviving the moment is a grander success than lots of bucks, time, and energy. If you are still breathing, you still have life, and that means God is not done working in your life. If He isn't giving up on you ... don't you be giving up on yourself.
    I know these are cliches ... people say them without even thinking ... but I personally have experienced all I am sharing with you ... and some things you just have to have someone say over and over and over again until they become real to you .... it is what you are telling yourself about anything that will change life and living ... make sure the input you are feeding on is constructive and not debilitating.

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    I've been going through a lot I'm usualy so good at handeling everything, but i think i hit that last straw....( still going through a divorce and coustody...he got arrested for child pornography..and is still trying to fight me for more coustody ) that has been costing a fortune, and it's over 2 years of this now...I want to re-marry my "hubby" who i've been with for years ( but i don't even have my divorce yet )..he is going through some bad health..hospital stays, countless tests, doc visits 4 times a month...expensive meds, ...then I have my 4 kids...my oldests adhd and the price of his meds, but it was so out of hand that the school kept calling children a youth services because of his behavore..Finaly get that under control with a new medicine, and the school straightend out, I have to take my girls to therapy every week, because we need to make sure that my child pedifile of an ex husband didn't "hurt my girls"...I don't drive, so i'm going nuts trapped in a house, it's hard trying to take care of everything yourself...and now I found a lump above my breast...and i'm sorta scared about that, and conserned because I've put it off for so long since I didn't have the money to go to the doctors myself...plus there gonna have to biopsy it, and insurance doesn't cover everything...and to top that off, the transmission in our mini van is going...and hubby is a machanic we can afford to put the money into it right now to fix it...so my hobbies and myself has been suffering, and put on the back burner! and I'm sorry for venting, and airing all my problems here.. but you guys are so sweet..and carying, i thought it would be okay!:) Thank you so much everyone for your kindness....

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    It is OK that is what friends are for. You sure do have your plate full. Charity begins at home. If you need to cut up some of those old things to make you feel better then you do it. You are no good to anyone if you do not take care of yourself. That goes for the lump thing too. You have to make yourself number one cause look how many people depend on you. Ignoring it and hoping it goes away will not help any of them. There are ways to get to and from if the car dies but no one can replace YOU!!!!! Get to the Dr!!!!!

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    Jamie, one of the greatest beauties of this board is that the people truly care. I have been so touched by what some of the people have said and done for others. Some will give advice and others will give you a shoulder -- and both are necessary.

    I was serious about sending some stash. It looks like a few of us would love to send you something to make you smile, so let us. :D If you pm me your address, I'll get some goodies out to you.

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    WOW! Just read your response to my (or shortly after) input.
    That is a lot of stress going on in your home.
    Might I suggest, if your doctor didn't, that you cut out all caffeine until after the biopsy, etc. I found a lump in my breast, decided to go to DR, tried to aspirate the lump that had grown from the size of my pinky fingernail in a week to the size of my first joint of my thumb ... could'nt be aspirated, so go to have a mammogram. Just as I am leaving DR office to go get mammogram, he suggested going "no caffeine" for the next week ... showed up the next week for biopsy, and happened to mention that where the lump had been hard, it was now mushy around the edges. Quite a trip to have DR reach over and grab the lump, squish it around and say, "It sure has changed, hasn't it? Guess I had better check the mammogram." Bottom line ... knocking the caffeine off for that week changed the lump and the mammogram showed that I didn't have any reason to have a biopsy.
    All I drank for a week was water and 7-up ... of course, I ate, but the no caffeine solution were those two items.
    As a matter of fact, a lot of problems we face have a lot to do with a physical problem we don't even know about. I am not a naturopath, by any means, but it just makes sense to up your amount of water input, since that is about the fastest, safest way I know of to flush your system ... the solution to pollution is dilution.
    If it works for the environment, it should work in our bodies.

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    I spend a lot of time doing Pollyanna/Scarlett O'Hara thinking.
    Pollyanna always looked at a situation and tried to find the better/good side of it.
    Scarlett O'Hara's most famous, life changing line was: I can't think about that now. I will think about it TOMORROW.

    If you look at everything going on in your life right now ... either philosophy is a pointless exercise of futilization. However, if you take your list of problems waiting for solutions, and approach them one by one, the task becomes a bit more manageable.
    Frankly, I don't know how you can find any peace until you find a higher power than yourself to trust.
    Could you possibly be beating yourself up more than life is? When getting banged over the head with some of your problems and piling on by berating yourself for "poor" choices in the past, it is pretty hard to not feeling overwhelmed.

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