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Thread: Was I a Sucker or a fool?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lori S
    Quote Originally Posted by Hope2quilt
    You need to tell her that the first one was a favor but the second and third one will cost more. Your time is valuable and she is ungrateful.
    I agree , let her know the first was a friendship gesture , but you simply can not fufill anymore requests at that price. But would be happy to let her know where she can get the supplies.
    I agree with both of these ideas.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fabric_fancy
    she's a quilter and gave you $20!!!!

    OMG

    never do anything for her again.

    if it were me, the friendship would end over this. how insulting, she knows how much things costs and how much time it takes.

    if all she could afford was $20 she shouldn't have asked you to make a quilt.
    Shame on her! Disgusting!

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    You could always tell her you were sure she made a mistake when she wrote the check, and being a quilter herself, you know she would want to know she had mistakenly left off a zero! ;)

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    Quote Originally Posted by buslady
    Maybe she just doesn't realize what goes into a quilt, I'd explain it to her and tell her if she wants mnore quilts made it will cost X$, set a price that won't insult you.
    This sounds like good advice.

    Missed the part that she is a quilter. Someone suggested that you teach her to make them. If you don't feel too used, already.

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    I am just shaking my head at the gall of this friend. Whatever you do, don't make two more quilts for her. Just don't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cjk
    Tell her to go buy the material. When she sees the price of fabric she will think twice about giving you $20. She should see the money and time that goes into a quilt. I tell my family and friends "don't even ask unless you're willing to pay for the fabric and my time".
    I agree..... and I would add.... have her also get the batting, thread and all fabric (ie fabric for backing). PLUS what you would charge for your time.

    Be honest and explain that a quilt is, indeed, an endeavor of love .... but also one of expense.

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    ....and she couldn't make one herself for the baby, why? If she is a quilter she is definitely aware of the price of fabric and what goes into making a quilt. IMHO she really did take advantage of you because of her knowledge as a quilter. Tell her to purchase the materials for her grandsons quilts and tell her how much you will charge for your labor. I'll bet she will end up making them herself.

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    I think she took advantage of your friendship with you being more of a friend than her. She totally gets its, if she is a quilter! If you want to make the children "$20 quilts and don't mind all the effort, time and energy that it requires, then follow you heart. I'm sure your "friend" will be happy...
    You're a good person...

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    If your questioning if you should make them or not, then you shouldn't do it..

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    Quote Originally Posted by LAB55
    If she is a quilter, than why didn't she make it herself ?
    She should know how much time & material was in it.
    I would tell her you don't have the time to make ones for 2 grandsons. Why can't she do them ?
    My thoughts exactly!

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    You say she is a quilter so she should really know better, but be that as it may, even though you have already said yes, you can always add a "footnote".

    Tell you you will be happy to make 2 more quilts for her for $20 each IF she supplies the fabric and the batting. Be sure and tell her how much fabric and batting you will need to complete the project.

    No crime in that! She may rethink it and decide to do them herself. Or she may agree and at least you won't be out any $$, just your time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hope2quilt
    You need to tell her that the first one was a favor but the second and third one will cost more. Your time is valuable and she is ungrateful.
    I too would be insulted
    She is a Quilter she knows better. I would say sorry but NO. She will know why. You are not a fool she took you for granted and misused your friendship.

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    You know what? You can change your mind about the two additional quilts. I know I would! Let her make them herself.

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    Say the quilts cost way to much, you can't afford it right now. Or say you just don't have the time or the money for fabric. We all live and learn. :)

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    I used to bake and decorate wedding cakes when I was younger and in better shape. Close friends and family would supply the things I needed and I would donate my time and effort as a wedding gift. When a person I wasn't close to would ask me to make one for them I used to tell them. "I only make them for Love, they are too much work to do for money." I think making a quilt is the same sort of thing. The quilt lasts longer of course.

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    i'm sorry to be the lone voice if dissent here, but the ugly fact is the ugly fact.

    you got the price you quoted.

    you invited her to pay what she could afford.

    the reality is that if she couldn't afford so much as a nickel at the time, you'd have been obligated to give it to her for free.

    you learned a lesson worth waaaaaaaaaay more than $20.

    when doing business, it's best for both parties to be clear and specific.

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