need advise regarding my MIL
04-02-2011, 08:45 AM
#91
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I would use what you have..it sounds like you MIL is trying to do a loving gesture for her mom and trusts you to help her out...I would say that she is showing her love to you too by trusting you do this project...I just had to put my dd in a nursing home not easy on the heart ..we set up her room just like her bedroom so she would feel more at home and comfortable..I think it is very loving of your mil to want to do something like this for her mom...blessings
04-02-2011, 08:50 AM
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Originally Posted by mimom
Originally Posted by Rebecca VLQ
Originally Posted by mimom
I am taking MIL with me to Joanns to buy the fabric, and your right she's lonely, but thats her fault. She'd still be married if she wasn't such a b......., even DH says so.
Shoot...she's still married? She's GOT someone to change a no-ladder-required bulb!
04-02-2011, 08:59 AM
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I'm glad you & your MIL came to the decision to give her mother a store bought quilt. good idea also to write her name on it really big.
I want to comment on your MIL's behavior. It sounds a lot like my mother's, who I finally learned had dementia. My DH was a saint; I was working nights at the time and he would go over to see about her (my dad was still living and took the opportunity to grab a quick nap). We both did the best we could for both my parents and neither of us have any regrets. I do believe my younger brother does; he gave a little money for a maid but wouldn't give her the company she craved. Sorry about the book. I just want you to know I understand how difficult it is to deal with someone.
I want to comment on your MIL's behavior. It sounds a lot like my mother's, who I finally learned had dementia. My DH was a saint; I was working nights at the time and he would go over to see about her (my dad was still living and took the opportunity to grab a quick nap). We both did the best we could for both my parents and neither of us have any regrets. I do believe my younger brother does; he gave a little money for a maid but wouldn't give her the company she craved. Sorry about the book. I just want you to know I understand how difficult it is to deal with someone.
04-02-2011, 09:00 AM
#94
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Dear Mimom,
Get the fabric amt. that the pattern calls for. You never know, but we have all been known to make a miss cut, etc.. Also if this had been someone paying you (from off the street), and they wanted to bring you the fabric (they would need to bring you the amt. on the pattern). The extra fabric is part of the payment we get for our hard work. And the fact that you are NOT being paid, still doesn't change the fact that you should still get something for all of your hard work.
As far as the quilt going missing. Be sure to take pictures of the quilt with your DH grandmother. Be sure to post a picture in the grandmothers room. This way anyone who goes into the grandmothers room, will know that the family knows what grandma has. Also be sure to put NAME on it!!!
Good luck!
Get the fabric amt. that the pattern calls for. You never know, but we have all been known to make a miss cut, etc.. Also if this had been someone paying you (from off the street), and they wanted to bring you the fabric (they would need to bring you the amt. on the pattern). The extra fabric is part of the payment we get for our hard work. And the fact that you are NOT being paid, still doesn't change the fact that you should still get something for all of your hard work.
As far as the quilt going missing. Be sure to take pictures of the quilt with your DH grandmother. Be sure to post a picture in the grandmothers room. This way anyone who goes into the grandmothers room, will know that the family knows what grandma has. Also be sure to put NAME on it!!!
Good luck!
04-02-2011, 09:18 AM
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In MHO, the scraps are yours. Make it a simple and fast quilt with big blocks so it goes fast. Have you thought about using the 10 minute block? Flannel backing is certainly the best idea but wash it first as it shrinks. All of the above are correct about you never seeing it again. It is amazing how things of value walk away but remember, wherever the quilt ends up...that person really needed it for some unknown reason. Perhaps, you are God's angel to make a quilt for Gma but maybe it will fill a second need in someone Else's life. I don't condone such a theft but you should just feel good about what you are doing with the skills that God gave you. In MHO...a retired RN
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