AllAboutScraps

Buy what the pattern calls for. Keep the extra. However, try to include your MIL and her mother in the whole process. Rebecca VLQ is right. The nursing home is the "end of the road" Any time you spend with both of them, you will not regret! Activity - mental and physical is important for MIL's mom right now.

God Bless!

debbieoh

I would use the fabric you Have.I'm very sure she will be happy with whatever you make

Scrap Happy

I don’t think it is wrong at all to bring your MIL and ask her to buy the fabric. This way she is also a part of it too.

Gerbie

With what you have on hand unless MIL wants specific colors and specific fabric for the quilt. You need to check with her and let her go with you to pick out what fabric she wants used for the quilt. If your budget is extremely tight, I would definitely take her to the fabric shop and let her pick out the fabric and pay for it. If you have plenty on hand in your stash then you could go with it. I would say some prayers if you are in doubt about what to do and let the Lord guide you in your decision. No matter what if I am in doubt about things I just release it and turn it over to Him, everything is really in His hands anyway, but too often we don't think so and we don't let God take charge, we think we can do everything ourselves and most of the time end up regretting our decision.

writerwomen

for those of you who are recalling bad experiences with nursing homes. As I said previously, my husband has been in Senior care for many years. Perhaps my husband is the exception but lost or stolen goods always were either recovered or the staff where run through the paces to locate it. In many instances a resident gave an item away and my husband had to reel the staff in on the fact it was not allowed. By all means inventory items and provide the administrator of the facility with a copy signed by yourself and them. Putting a dear one in extended care is not easy for anyone, we have seen many reactions from both the resident and the family member. On a humorous note- At one point my husband took away a residents motorized wheel chair after he intentionally ran over another residents foot. He called his children screaming he was being abused and would disinherit them if they didn't get the chair back so he didn't have to use a manual one. The son arrived immediately and after hearing the story, he understood the choice was the motorized chair and moving to a new home or keep the manual one until he could get his temper under control and stay where he was most familiar. The son kissed his father gently on his furrowed brow and told him if he wanted to disinherit him that was his choice.Later it turned out the man was mad at the woman he ran over the foot of because she had declined his lunch invitation- they made up later.

joyceinoh

I agree by all means put her name on it where it can be seen and not taken out.
Why not make a crumb quilt, all the different materials will add a lil color to her room. I made a couple and the gr kids all wanted them.

cabinfever

I haven't read to the end of the post so I apologize in advance if this is a repeat suggestion. To keep your quilt from "walking away" at the nursing home, make it as PERSONAL as possible...pictures of her & the family, names on blocks, first & last big & bold too. After all it's for her at the nursing home, & doesn't need to be entered @ the quilt show as a generic beauty. I don't mean that it should be ugly, just alternate your colorful blocks with a few personalized ones. You can get that inkjet printable fabric @ Joann's or any LQS & use a picture of her with one or all of her children...you never know what might jog a happy memory for her. Also, I agree, it could be lap sized for the wheelchair, I wouldn't do a whole bed quilt...it will end up going through the facility laundry if you do; there are a lot of accidents @ this stage.

My Grandmother was only in a home for 2 years & passed @ 96. At that point she didn't know us, but giving her sewn items with her "favorite things & colors" always brought her joy when we came to visit. That always warmed my heart, as it was "For HER" benefit, not ours. I realize your MIL may want this to be a beauty as it is coming from her, but even her name on a center front block will keep it from "walking so easily". Keep the end recipient foremost in mind. Best wishes & you are kind to do the work.

sallylarson34

My rule, when I have that kind of dilemma, is to err on the side of generosity and make a choice that I won't look back on with any regret.

Kappy

This what I was thinking also. Make the pictures big enough and as crisp looking as possible as eye sight can be failing as well. Did she have a hobby, maybe make a block referring to that. The more you make it about her, the longer she may remember, even if she forgets most of the time, maybe for just a moment or two her memory may be jogged by a picture.

RobertaMarie

You may not like to hear this, but if you make a quilt, and it is not made with love and caring, it is a waste of your time and benefits no one. Either put aside all negative feelings, (and I don't blame you for having them!) and make it, bless it, and release it. If it is stolen, it was not meant to be hers..... If you don't want to put the time and energy into it, then, please don't do it. Grandma won't know, and it sounds as if MIL is just being manipulative... do it with love, or don't do it at all. I send my love and support to you in making your decision.