Great-great granny

If the MIL asked & offered to buy the fabric the pattern calls for, that is what you should do, & like most on here said, you never know if it might be needed.

But I really agree w/several idea of the pics on it. 2 reasons - It is less likely that someone will want pics of people they don't know, plus it might give her a nice feeling to be looking at people - especially if there are pics of children on it.

Perhaps just simple 8-10" pic sq. blocks, alternated w/a sq. of bright flowers (if she liked them) could be made & just tied in each corner. The idea of a textured fabric is great. This would also be a simple, quick quilt to get done - this obviously isn't going to be your favorite project to work on - so the quicker, the better.

Best idea of all - while you are making this one, keep telling yourself you are doing this for DH's grandmother & your love for HIM. It's difficult to have such bitter feelings about someone, & I hope eventually you find peace within yourself about the whole thing - lifes too short to carry around bitterness - I know - I'm 77 yrs old & try to cherish everyone in my life - (even thou I too have a relative who is SOOOO difficult to even 'like')

Good luck on the quilt & hope it turns out to be peaceful project for you.

Have a blessed day & try to let this quilt be filled w/love (for DH at least)

Great-great granny

PS ask the mil to furnish some pics, so she feels like she is a part of this project - might soften her a little???? :?

LDB

Just a couple quick notes. First, my FIL was in a N/H for many years due to dementia. Often things would disappear from his room - eyeglasses, TV remotes, trinkets - you name it, it probably came up missing at one time or another. I was not quilting at the time but did crochet several blankies for him. These too, would disappear. The missing items were not being taken by staff but by other patients. Every so often the staff would rummage around and find the missing items in another's room or other odd places. I have even seen other patients wearing his eyeglasses! Do put her name on it very clearly, but don't be surprised if a lovely quilt is nabbed by a patient (or staff).

In terms of your MIL, take your feelings toword her out of the picture. Focus on doing this for your DH's GMa. Even if she doesn't have the cognative ability to recognize you, YOU have the ability to recognize her. Focus on your DH's GMa and the love she gave to your DH rather than your MIL - she's a whole 'nother story. Make the quilt how YOU want in the time frame YOU set while remembering the quilt is a gift of love for her not your MIL. Even if she doesn't recognize you she can still recognize love, kindness and beauty.

LoriEl

The missing items were not being taken by staff but by other patients. Every so often the staff would rummage around and find the missing items in another's room or other odd places. I have even seen other patients wearing his eyeglasses! Do put her name on it very clearly, but don't be surprised if a lovely quilt is nabbed by a patient (or staff).

In terms of your MIL, take your feelings toword her out of the picture. Focus on doing this for your DH's GMa. Even if she doesn't have the cognative ability to recognize you, YOU have the ability to recognize her. Focus on your DH's GMa and the love she gave to your DH rather than your MIL - she's a whole 'nother story. Make the quilt how YOU want in the time frame YOU set while remembering the quilt is a gift of love for her not your MIL. Even if she doesn't recognize you she can still recognize love, kindness and beauty.[/quote]

And a lot of the patients may have dementia and not be stealing something, they just think it's theirs! I like the attic window idea-that fabric is beautiful and wouldn't have o be cut up too much. There's so many triangles in your star it looks like too much work for somthing that may walk!

Rettie V. Grama

Go with what you have on hand. Don't make it any larger than twin size. I have had experience with nursing homes and things that are donated. Some times items just disappear, especially if it is colorful and/or fluffy. The patients who do this don't necessarily think it is theirs, they just think is it pretty and want it. Staff did find some things. Also things disappear in the laundry. So when quilt needs washing, take it home and wash it. In a lot of nursing homes, staff just tucks anything extra bedding included away to save work.

You are a saint for making this in the first place, but don't let it get you down worrying about it.

3699quilter

I would do a simple pattern - assorted large blocks, alternating with solids. Most of all - enjoy the sunshine today in our area. The pansy fabric is gorgeous! Take care! Nearby and thinking of you.

Scakes

Buy what is listed on the pattern and keep any leftovers for yourself. You deserve a little something for all your time and trouble. As someone else mentioned, make sure there is a name on the quilt.Seems like a lot of items get lost and/or misplaced in the hospitals and nursing homes. My brother lost his false teeth a couple of times. :lol:

mimom

with all the posts about missing items at nursing homes, I think I am going to sugest to MIL to buy a nice quilt at Walmart and wait a while, if it sticks around then I will make something.

Karo

personally, considering the incidents of items disappearing in nursing homes, I would just buy a "brought on" quilt. But, even with that, I would make sure her name is on it, either appliqued, embroidered or written on with a permanent ink ( in several places) Then, if a staff member( or anyone else) did steal it, every time she/he would see that name, she/he would be reminded that she/he is a thief...

GramaLaura

PERFECT!! Later.....make something pretty for your MIL :-D