mimom

I like your idea of a big attic window, maybe 4 to 6 panes will work nice. and it would be really quick so I can get back to my other projects.

doll-lady

since you will be making it, make what is comfortable for you to do. let the mil pick out the fabric but buy what the pattern says in case you need extra for a miscut or something. do what is comfortable for you or you will feel bad about it.

Oz

the pansy material is gorgeous.

you are doing a wonderful thing for your DH and his grandmother. you should be very proud of yourself.

i'll be anxious to see the finished project.

Sadiemae

I am really happy that you have worked this out. It always makes me very sad when MIL's decide they do not want to get along with their DIL's. My MIL was absolutely a fantastic lady and I loved her so very much. I wish all DIL's could have that kind of relationship. My Mom, Dad, MIL, and all of my Grandparents are gone now, but they were definitely loved.

Grambi

When we had to place my MIL in a nursing home due to dementia, the director of the home saw the nice, quilted lap quilt that I had made her and strongly suggested that it not be left in the nursing home, as it would likely disappear. I would make Grandma a simple bright lap quilt out of scrap squares and flannel back and would tie it (no elaborate quilting). One of the local churches donated some of those to the home and the one given to my MIL stayed around for a few weeks then just wasn't there one day. But while it was there, my MIL loved the bright colors made of scraps of polyester. Maybe a more appreciated and comforting gift would be a memory quilt for you MIL out of fabrics from Grandma's clothes. It is really hard to see your parent go into a nursing home.

jitkaau

From your information, I think she is lonely. Including her in your purchase of the material may help her feel better about herself. Would she be capable of being included in the making of the quilt? It would give her company at a specific time and take some of the strain from you if you really don't want to make this quilt and perhaps the other projects could stay on hold for a short time?

goaf1968

After you have completed the quilt (with an ID panel on the back in a corner) take a photo of the entire front and back of the quilt and put the photos in a frame for your MIL. You, of course, keep a copy for yourself. This way there is photo evidence if it does get legs and walk off. Also take a photo of the quilt with the recipient in the nursing home holding it or on her lap for more proof of its location.

Just a few thoughts to help keep your work where it was intended to be -- in her room.

#1piecemaker

I would use the amount of fabric called for. I would also ask MIL to go with you to pick out the fabrics. Let her be involved as much as possible. If there is any left over fabric,maybe you can use it and it'll always be there to remind you of the grandmother's smile when your MIL and you present it to her.

skothing

I am so sorry that you are put in this situation. Sounds like you are living a difficult choice. Change your mind set. Change the pattern, the colors and the size of the finished piece. MIL may want the quilt for self instead of her mom. I agree with make a lap quilt or bib or a wheel chair or walker bag. A quilt in a nursing home needs to be small and light. The weight is painful and tends to crush the patient limiting movement. Fleece is more appropriate due to the weight and ease in washing,etc. Also it is easy to replace. :thumbup:

chamby

My opinion is that this is family and a special moment. I would do this out of the love in my heart. This is not one of those times that you think of how much should I charge her. Just put yourself in her shoes. What if it were your mother that had this problem and you ask your sister to make a quilt. Would you expect to pay her in these circumstances. I believe that there are times that we put our thoughts of profit aside for human kindness. Just my opinion.