Now it has happened and I don't want it!
09-21-2010, 07:10 PM
#91
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I agree with the just say no. I'm not the person to tell any one what to say and not say because I always seem to get myself into trouble not saying no .
Like the dog ribbons when she said she thought she was just going to toss them I said you worked to hard for those ribbons let me see what I can do with them. So see I'm a good one to open mouth and insert foot.
But I told her that I was very slow and I was way behind on other projects. But like I say do as I say not as I do.
But to be truthful it does sound like a challange to do something with all the ribbons. and If it doesn't turn out that great at least I tried. kjym
Like the dog ribbons when she said she thought she was just going to toss them I said you worked to hard for those ribbons let me see what I can do with them. So see I'm a good one to open mouth and insert foot.
But I told her that I was very slow and I was way behind on other projects. But like I say do as I say not as I do.
But to be truthful it does sound like a challange to do something with all the ribbons. and If it doesn't turn out that great at least I tried. kjym
09-21-2010, 07:28 PM
#93
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then she turned right back around and asked me to sew her pot holders, she said she just burned hers up, and said you could make those for me now can't you.
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Tell her that you'll put her name down, and when you get to it you'll do it. Before that, write down a long...LOOOONG list of things you have to do, with prices highlighted of fabrics, threads, batting, etc. And the final total in LARGE letters highlighted in brilliant yellow.
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Tell her that you'll put her name down, and when you get to it you'll do it. Before that, write down a long...LOOOONG list of things you have to do, with prices highlighted of fabrics, threads, batting, etc. And the final total in LARGE letters highlighted in brilliant yellow.
09-21-2010, 07:41 PM
#94
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I get so many people that just assume I want to do things for them..
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I thought this was just my own take on some of the people i know. I have no idea where they get this strange and unwelcome idea..probably from their parents who gave them new cars just for breathing in and out, so naturally assume that everyone else would go for what THEY want/need/see/want.
Nope, not this old gal. I turn off my hearing aids and make them yell out what they want, and then I loudly tell them what it would cost them for it..offends the heck out of some, but who cares! Like others say here, it's a hobby that I love, and I do it when I want and for whom I want, and as for others who want something for nothing, well, I hope they get what they deserve.
Perhaps quilts made in China with stitches that come apart when the dog vomits on it and it has to be washed?
Sorry if I sound bitter, but that happens so often that now I rarely show things I've made to others, only to guests I've invited to my house and family. I also make Victorian doll houses (Maybe one a year) and bird houses, the doll houses take many, months of work on them now and then, and someone thinks it would make a marvelous present for THEIR grandchild or neighbor's kid whose parents THEY owe a gift.
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I thought this was just my own take on some of the people i know. I have no idea where they get this strange and unwelcome idea..probably from their parents who gave them new cars just for breathing in and out, so naturally assume that everyone else would go for what THEY want/need/see/want.
Nope, not this old gal. I turn off my hearing aids and make them yell out what they want, and then I loudly tell them what it would cost them for it..offends the heck out of some, but who cares! Like others say here, it's a hobby that I love, and I do it when I want and for whom I want, and as for others who want something for nothing, well, I hope they get what they deserve.
Perhaps quilts made in China with stitches that come apart when the dog vomits on it and it has to be washed?
Sorry if I sound bitter, but that happens so often that now I rarely show things I've made to others, only to guests I've invited to my house and family. I also make Victorian doll houses (Maybe one a year) and bird houses, the doll houses take many, months of work on them now and then, and someone thinks it would make a marvelous present for THEIR grandchild or neighbor's kid whose parents THEY owe a gift.
09-21-2010, 10:14 PM
#96
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Location: Snowflake, AZ
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Originally Posted by bakermom
If you eventually want to work for others thats fine.
I don't.
My answer to requests is "Sorry. No. This is something I do for me. When I start doing this for others it becomes work and I no longer enjoy it"
I don't.
My answer to requests is "Sorry. No. This is something I do for me. When I start doing this for others it becomes work and I no longer enjoy it"
09-22-2010, 06:17 AM
#97
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Location: SW Minnesota
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Originally Posted by wolfkitty
Originally Posted by MonkeeGirl
Sounds like some folks I know!
Just go on and tell them you will be glad to do their quilts WHEN you have the time. Also, tell them that THEY have to go with you to purchase the material, the thread, and that there is no way you could possibly do the quilting yourself. Find 3 quotes for long-armers. Go with the highest as she/he will be the best. Don't forget to add the $15 per hour of your time and that your machine will need to be serviced and cleaned before and after doing their quilt. By now you will be into the many hundreds of dollars. Chances are, you won't be forced to do the quilt! This has actually worked for me...I only do quilts I want to do, when I want to do them.
Just go on and tell them you will be glad to do their quilts WHEN you have the time. Also, tell them that THEY have to go with you to purchase the material, the thread, and that there is no way you could possibly do the quilting yourself. Find 3 quotes for long-armers. Go with the highest as she/he will be the best. Don't forget to add the $15 per hour of your time and that your machine will need to be serviced and cleaned before and after doing their quilt. By now you will be into the many hundreds of dollars. Chances are, you won't be forced to do the quilt! This has actually worked for me...I only do quilts I want to do, when I want to do them.
09-22-2010, 06:23 AM
#98
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Location: Northeast Colorado
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Right on, Bakermon....I like your response to someone that asks you to make a quilt for them...I would never try to do this. There are many others who do make quilts for customers, just refer your friend to them...Something like sewing for someone else could be the end of a nice friedship.
09-22-2010, 11:48 AM
#99
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I keep coming back to the idea that someone has both paid you a complement and requested your services. Be gracious and say something like "I am really happy you liked what I made. I had such fun doing it. I am sorry about making one for you, but I don't make quilts for sale." That accepts the complement nicely and politely lets the person know that you consider her request a job or commission that you are not willing to accept. It also puts the person on notice that you don't make freebies for your friends either.
09-22-2010, 11:56 AM
#100
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Location: Griffin, GA
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Monkeegirl has the best idea...folks who don't sew or quilt have NO idea how much work actually goes into it. I quilt for myself. I have done thing for a couple of friends (baby quilts) and of course gifts for family but those were fun and I wanted to do them.
If you don't want to do it then DON'T! Say no or tell her to pick out pattern, fabric, backing, thread, batting & a long arm quilter. Plus to be prepared to wait up to 18 months for the top and to pay you for your time. I'll bet you won't hear from her. ;)
If you don't want to do it then DON'T! Say no or tell her to pick out pattern, fabric, backing, thread, batting & a long arm quilter. Plus to be prepared to wait up to 18 months for the top and to pay you for your time. I'll bet you won't hear from her. ;)
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