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    Passage Quilts....who does them

    Who has made Passage Quilts in the past ?????
    I first heard about them here on the board yesterday and since and done some searching on the internet....there seems to be a couple different 'forms' of this concept.

    One was making quilts out of the deceased persons clothing and then presenting the quilt to the surviving family.

    Another was that a quilt was used to cover the body for the trip to the mortuary, the cover the casket and then be presented to the family.

    The last one was that the quilter worked with a local Hospice, the quilt was given while the patient was still alive and was allowed to use during their final days, then presented to the family......

    I personally like the last one, and have contacted my local Hospice (didn't even know we had one until I 'googled') asking them if they have such a program.....

    I know we had a thread on here not to long ago about a casket quilt.....I am thinking this would just take it so many more steps forward.....to give comfort to the living and then to those left behind.....

    I am not thinking 'Large Quilts' but more like lap size, many even some prayer shawls would be nice.....

    Am anxious to here your opinions, I know this is kinda a morbid subject, but I think a very worthy cause, and feel the comfort level would be great......
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    I also prefer the idea of giving to the person, while he/she is still alive. That way the family has a quilt, actually used by the person.
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    I think the one giving to the person is alive and then giving to the family is a great idea. Interesting topic.
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    Morbid or not, we are all faced with this fate. Some families find it comforting, some not so much, I guess. I am thinking of making my own....got a pattern in mind, but who should get it? I have 4 girls and helped raise one gdaughter and did raise one grandson. So I need to think this some more, I guess.

    My aunt's daughter draped a quilt she made for her (made for the dau) over her casket and it was quite lovely and well received. I think its a wonderful idea and a great memory for a loved one.

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    I've made my casket quilt. It is currently hanging on my wall, but the directive to the mortician is attached to the back! I don't want it draped .... I want it cut and my casket upholstered with it! My family thinks I'm morbid and nuts, but completing my casket quilt is on my bucket list and has been scratched off
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    Yes, there is a lot of confusion about the different types.
    They all serve different purposes and can be very touching.

    Here's two threads that may help you gather more info and ideas ....

    http://www.quiltingboard.com/picture...t-t179122.html

    http://www.quiltingboard.com/picture...A-t196407.html

    I will caution anyone who is considering making these, to please contact those intended to receive them before you start cutting and sewing, to find out if there are any requirements re size, fabric, colours etc.

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    This may be a little off topic, but I have a friend (quilter) whose Mother was also a quilter all her life. When her Mother passed away, they took several of her quilts to the funeral home, and had them displayed and her favorite one was draped over her casket. It was a lovely tribute to her.

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    My niece lost her baby 2 years ago, passing just days before his due date. They were going to bury him in just a t shirt and diaper...I said no no. I made a very sweet gown made of blue satin and white lace . Embroidered his name and birth date. I made a matching casket cover that my niece kept. Then funeral home thought it was a very touching gift. I have since made 3 burial gowns and donated them to the funeral home...no one should bury their baby in just a blanket if I can help it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jackie Spencer View Post
    This may be a little off topic, but I have a friend (quilter) whose Mother was also a quilter all her life. When her Mother passed away, they took several of her quilts to the funeral home, and had them displayed and her favorite one was draped over her casket. It was a lovely tribute to her.

    I think this is such a beautiful idea.

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    my daughter had a still birth. she asked if i would make a quilt for the funeral. i made two - one covered and was buried with the casket and one was given to the parents. each had the baby's monogram on it. my son in law loves that quilt so much he has it hanging on the wall with the portraits of the other 4 children.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Deborahlees View Post
    Who has made Passage Quilts in the past ?????
    I first heard about them here on the board yesterday and since and done some searching on the internet....there seems to be a couple different 'forms' of this concept.

    One was making quilts out of the deceased persons clothing and then presenting the quilt to the surviving family.

    Another was that a quilt was used to cover the body for the trip to the mortuary, the cover the casket and then be presented to the family.

    The last one was that the quilter worked with a local Hospice, the quilt was given while the patient was still alive and was allowed to use during their final days, then presented to the family......

    I personally like the last one, and have contacted my local Hospice (didn't even know we had one until I 'googled') asking them if they have such a program.....

    I know we had a thread on here not to long ago about a casket quilt.....I am thinking this would just take it so many more steps forward.....to give comfort to the living and then to those left behind.....

    I am not thinking 'Large Quilts' but more like lap size, many even some prayer shawls would be nice.....

    Am anxious to here your opinions, I know this is kinda a morbid subject, but I think a very worthy cause, and feel the comfort level would be great......
    I know it's not exactly the same thing, but our church has a Scripture Quilting group where we make quilts for cancer patients. They're lap quilts and they take them to their treatments. Unfortunately, sometimes they don't survive their battle and their quilts are given to family members or they're buried with them. I recently made a quilt for a friend and she just passed last month. I'm comforted with the knowledge that her quilt is now comforting her three children who were left behind. I think it's a great cause that you're considering taking up.
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    I've, also, heard them called "comfort quilts." My son recently passed away and there was a beautiful bow-tie quilt laying on him at the funeral home. This quilt was not for the family but for the next one who passes. Some places give them to the families, some places do not. In this case, I was glad to let it pass on to another.
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    I made a casket quilt for my grandma. She is 98 and lives in a nursing home. The quilt is more of a table runner size. It has her name, how many years she was married to my grandpa, that she was a mom, a grandma, a great-grandma, and a great-great-grandma. It also has a mariners compass in the middle. It turned out really nice.

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    When my mom recently passed away the Chaplin brought us a prayer shall told us the history of it, said some scripture and then presented it to us. It was laid over Mom for the scripture reading. I presented it to my dad as a final hug from MOm and it is currently at his home. They can be of great comfort to the bereaved.

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    Thank you all for all your imput, I knew this was a caring group......
    will keep you updated on what the Hospice says to me the first of the week.
    Yes that is a real picture of my hometown Temecula, California. We feature premiere Wineries, World Class Golf Courses, Pechanga Indian Casino and Hot Air Balloons

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    I like the last idea best, but I had to share. Probably the strangest quilt I was ever asked to make was a reversable quilt with t-shirts on one side, and her late husbands boxer shorts on the other, with a lot of photo transfers scattered throughout. I got it done for her, but for some reason it was just kind of creepy to me. I guess that warm and fuzzy feeling of sitting under a quilt and knowing it was some ones old underware, did me in! LOL!! None the less she loved it when it was done, and that's all that counts. So I hope that brought a little laugh out of a morbid subject, and I truly recommend you not going my route if possible!! hehehe...

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    We buried my mom in the last quilt she worked on and completed - a few weeks before she passed. We buried my dad in the quilt my mom made him and he kept on his bed. It was hard letting go of those two special quilts, but it meant the world to us kids to do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delma_paulk View Post
    Morbid or not, we are all faced with this fate. Some families find it comforting, some not so much, I guess. I am thinking of making my own....got a pattern in mind, but who should get it? I have 4 girls and helped raise one gdaughter and did raise one grandson. So I need to think this some more, I guess.

    My aunt's daughter draped a quilt she made for her (made for the dau) over her casket and it was quite lovely and well received. I think its a wonderful idea and a great memory for a loved one.

    delma
    That is my plan also. I have my quilt made already - my Memory Quilt. Then in lieu of flowers I am going to have my most treasured quilts (that I have made) and the quilts I received from my mother and my grandmother flanking the casket. Each quilt will be labeled so people can see who made them and then there will be the book that I made with my Memory Quilt. Then they all will be given to my son and his family. I don't think anything that we plan is morbid. What's the old saying "My Quilt - My Rules"! Edie
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    Mom is in last stages of ALZ and will pass away at home. thought about making a passage quilt but instead decided to use one of the colorful sheets to cover her body as she leaves our house for the last time. Sorry...don't want that sheet back. Just MHO and each one is intitled to their own opinion. Our first son was still born and the quilt I had over his coffin is stored away and shocks every time I see it. Some pain never goes away...even after 30 years.
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    I have prepaid for my funeral, picked out my own casket, etc. I have already told my kids that I would really prefer that the family all bring their favorite quilt I have made for them and display them around the church. I haven't picked out a quilt for my casket cover, any of the ones I have kept for myself would be okay with me, they can make the decision. Although I love flowers, and gardened for many years, I have developed such an attachment to the quilts I have made that I really like this idea. We buried my dad in his western shirt, jeans, and the suede vest that he loved so much and had a lovely flower arrangement in his newest booth sitting at the end of the casket. It just seemed so appropriate and comforting to see him dressed like that. He never wore a suit, ever!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bneighbor View Post




    I think this is such a beautiful idea.
    What a beautiful act of love!
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    My mother recently passed away and we asked people to donate to her favorite charity instead of sending flowers. She had a favorite lap quilt that I had made her years ago and this was placed over her. It added the "color" of flowers and I feel better knowing she would be happy with the amount of contributions made in her name to the charity. She was buried with the quilt and I'm comforted by that.

    I know this is a little more personal than making quilts for Hospice patients that you don't know but I still think most family members would like something like this.
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    How touching. What a lovely tribute to one of GOD's angels.

    Quote Originally Posted by QuiltnNan View Post
    my daughter had a still birth. she asked if i would make a quilt for the funeral. i made two - one covered and was buried with the casket and one was given to the parents. each had the baby's monogram on it. my son in law loves that quilt so much he has it hanging on the wall with the portraits of the other 4 children.

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    I've been commissioned a few times to do memory quilts from clothing the deceased wore then given to a loved one. One of them also had me make a small wallhanging from these clothes for another family member.

    But I also like the last idea of presenting them to the patient then pass along to the family. But people have their own way of remembering their loved ones or whatever the person wants is always the best idea (for them).
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    The hospital in Marshfield Wisconsin has a "Comfort Cart" that goes in the room with a very ill or dying person. It contains coffee, tea, snacks, etc. and a comfort quilt. The family is welcome to anything on the cart while they stay with their loved one. The quilt can be taken home with them after the crisis is resolved one way or the other.
    The hospital asked that the quilts be about 40 X 60. Our quilt club had 14 of these on display at our quilt show, and we are still making more. This was my "project" for the year I am president.
    Not all of the quilts are going to the hospital. Some are going to people our members know who they think will benefit from and appreciate them.

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