Go Back  Quiltingboard Forums >
  • Main
  • Rude Guild Members/Need Help >
  • Rude Guild Members/Need Help

  • Rude Guild Members/Need Help

    Old 05-03-2011, 03:20 PM
      #41  
    Senior Member
     
    skothing's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Jun 2010
    Location: Galloway,Ohio
    Posts: 616
    Default

    As i read all the great suggestions I now wonder am I guilty of this? Our meeting is next Thursday. I shall try to be more respectful to our leaders. I am so excited to see everyone and sometimes get overly so and forget. :hunf:
    skothing is offline  
    Old 05-03-2011, 03:57 PM
      #42  
    Super Member
     
    Join Date: Aug 2010
    Location: Tampa Bay Area, Florida
    Posts: 2,229
    Default

    Just want to add one thing, you have the advantage coming in to your position. When you address this issue -and it needs to be in the first meeting and early in your opening remarks- introduce it as a topic you've been asked to address (you asked yourself to deal with this right?). Also an additional concern I would think would be your group developing a reputation of being a rude group speakers would want to avoid. As a teacher I agree with having the group involved in the solution- this is more effective with any age group then being told this is what will happen. Owning the solutions makes compliance a greater possibility.
    Cybrarian is offline  
    Old 05-03-2011, 04:04 PM
      #43  
    Super Member
     
    annieshane's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Jan 2010
    Location: St Pauls, NC
    Posts: 2,470
    Default

    This has always worked beautifully for me. Only in rare occasions have I used the gavel. However, if necessary, I have been known to do just that. My thinking, if the adults are so rude that they don't know to keep personal conversations to absolute minimum, I don't mind embarrasing them. By the time we get to our ages, we SHOULD have learned there is a time to be respectful to the person speaking.



    Originally Posted by gal288
    During my career, one of my duties was running training sessions for groups of 50+. Chit chat during the meeting was always a problem until I used this method.

    When I noticed someone talking, I would simply say, "Peg, do you have a question? or Peg, would you like to share your comments with the group?, or anything that would draw attention to the person talking." They will back down and sit quietly after that.

    Once the group realizes that you are going to call on them, the talking stops. It's amazing how people don't want to be singled out.

    After a couple of meetings, they get the message and usually the meetings run smoother from there on.

    Hope this helps.
    annieshane is offline  
    Old 05-03-2011, 04:21 PM
      #44  
    Super Member
     
    AliKat's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Apr 2007
    Location: Phoenix, AZ
    Posts: 2,943
    Default

    Originally Posted by bearisgray
    Bring duct tape to put over their mouths if they start talking while the speaker is doing her presentation?

    That really does irritate me when people yap then. :hunf:

    Rude people don't seem to acknowledge or get subtle hints about their obnoxious behavior.
    I love it! How funny, but it is really what I'd love to do.

    I have noticed that it seems to matter who is doing the interrupting. This upsets me even more ... esp when they are friends of the group leader.

    I tried to use the term "Remember ...." rather that "Please do not ..." and it kinda worked.

    I really wish every member had her own paper and pencil and then the ones with comments could write them out instead of talking. Since I know I can talk too, I take paper and try to keep quiet.

    ali
    AliKat is offline  
    Old 05-03-2011, 04:45 PM
      #45  
    Super Member
     
    Rainy Day's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Apr 2010
    Location: Melbourne Victoria Australia
    Posts: 1,087
    Default

    I have used a water pistol in meetings with a persistent talker. It got to the point that I could not hear anything but their voice, and I asked them repeatedly, nicely to be quiet, or I would shoot them. It only took one soaking!

    I understand that in the US you have slightly more relaxed laws about what kind of pistols you can carry :)
    Rainy Day is offline  
    Old 05-04-2011, 03:16 AM
      #46  
    Super Member
     
    jpmaroni's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Jul 2010
    Location: Richmond, NH
    Posts: 1,092
    Default

    Glad you asked for advice. this is good info for all of us! thanks
    jpmaroni is offline  
    Old 05-04-2011, 03:23 AM
      #47  
    Senior Member
     
    Join Date: Jan 2011
    Posts: 729
    Default

    just ask when the meeting starts if your here to visit and not listen to the speaker please remove yourself from the room and talk privately to your friend your converstation is yours not ours
    Lavada is offline  
    Old 05-04-2011, 03:44 AM
      #48  
    Super Member
     
    Wonnie's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Mar 2011
    Posts: 1,761
    Default

    This happens not only in guild meetings ....it happens at meetings of any kind. There is a great little book out there that is available on Amazon.com called, "Say It In Six". The original is out of print but there are used copies available. It might be helpful.
    Wonnie is offline  
    Old 05-04-2011, 03:45 AM
      #49  
    Senior Member
     
    Helenq's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Jan 2011
    Location: Southern New Jersey
    Posts: 360
    Default

    We had the same problem at our meetings. It was decided by the officers to address this matter and discussed with the group. Also that the gravel would be brought back to the meetings. I know if there is people around me talking I just politiely tell them that I can not hear what the people are saying. This has helped.
    Helenq is offline  
    Old 05-04-2011, 03:47 AM
      #50  
    Senior Member
     
    madamepurl's Avatar
     
    Join Date: Nov 2010
    Location: IL, USA
    Posts: 376
    Default

    We've had this happen at a knitting guild I used to belong to. One of the problems there was that there wasn't enough time for knitting, talking and sharing between members on our own.

    This guild only met once a month and you couldn't get to know anyone between the president talking and the guest speaker.

    The speakers often went over their time and a lot of talking would happen to try to get the speaker to wrap up. Some crazy person booked a speaker on how to protect your identity. At that meeting half the members walked out before the presentation started and sat in another room to knit together. It was a knitting group, they didn't want to hear a non-knitting topic.

    They did a survey to ask the guild members what they wanted and a overwhelming majority wanted less programs and more knitting. Maybe it would be best to ask the group what they want out of the guild? It could be they just want less programs.

    Well guess what happened this year to that guild? 1/2 the members quit this year including me and now we just get together to knit and chat one evening a week, which has lead to great friendships, road trips, KAL's., etc.

    I have been leery to check out the local quilt guild, but it seems like they have a lot more opportunities for folks to get together to quilt together and build friendships, so when an actual talking program takes place they are more likely to listen.

    ~ Rose
    madamepurl is offline  
    Related Topics
    Thread
    Thread Starter
    Forum
    Replies
    Last Post
    scrappingfaye58
    Main
    20
    01-23-2019 09:43 AM
    Rosyhf
    General Chit-Chat (non-quilting talk)
    29
    06-09-2013 01:41 PM
    Lori L
    Main
    30
    06-13-2010 05:37 AM
    jljack
    Main
    58
    01-10-2010 08:04 AM
    crkathleen
    General Chit-Chat (non-quilting talk)
    17
    11-30-2009 10:41 PM

    Posting Rules
    You may not post new threads
    You may not post replies
    You may not post attachments
    You may not edit your posts

    BB code is On
    Smilies are On
    [IMG] code is On
    HTML code is On
    Trackbacks are Off
    Pingbacks are Off
    Refbacks are Off


    FREE Quilting Newsletter