Want husband to butt out
#11
I suspect he's retired and feels like he's lost control of everything. This is his way of gaining control subconsciously. I would suggest he work on the garage or something for a man cave. But then again I don't know him. Is it possible to give him an assignment that he can do totally on his own?
#14
I understand completely.
My DH wanted to get busy and start remodieling my sewing area. He even drew up plans for the wall unit. It doesn't even come close to what I need or want except it takes up the whole wall from side to side and floor to ceilling. Told him I was still undecided as to what I reallly needed, appreciate his plan, and maybe we should sit down together to figure it out, and that I was in no hurry to get the project done. He was ok with that.
Let him know in a gentle loving way but firmly that this is your room and he needs to listen to what YOU need in there. If he refuses, simply tell him you have changed your mind and use it once again as a bedroom. If he asks why, tell him you would not enjoy working in your dream room where none of your dreams came true. He will want to please you.
My DH wanted to get busy and start remodieling my sewing area. He even drew up plans for the wall unit. It doesn't even come close to what I need or want except it takes up the whole wall from side to side and floor to ceilling. Told him I was still undecided as to what I reallly needed, appreciate his plan, and maybe we should sit down together to figure it out, and that I was in no hurry to get the project done. He was ok with that.
Let him know in a gentle loving way but firmly that this is your room and he needs to listen to what YOU need in there. If he refuses, simply tell him you have changed your mind and use it once again as a bedroom. If he asks why, tell him you would not enjoy working in your dream room where none of your dreams came true. He will want to please you.
#15
Lol...I can just imagine this happening in our house. We hope to re-do our kitchen one day and I just KNOW this is going to be a problem...lol. AT the moment I don't have that big of a sewing room for him to 'play' with...lol
#16
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Washington
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Ha, I had that problem with mine about building a house. So we wound up buying a big mobile home instead. I know what you are talking about and wish I had something to help you with.
My DH granted me the master bedroom to turn into a sewing studio, but now that we're actually making design plans, he wants to do everything his way! He tends to ignore my wishes and expertise (I've been sewing for 50 years, and have a degree in Home Ec.) I know he means well and is trying to help, but this is MY dream room, not HIS. Has anybody had a problem like this? How do I get the room I want? This is majorly important. Help!
#17
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Peotone IL
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The ideas posted above are all good ideas. I have no experience in this area, but just wanted to wish you good luck in getting the room you want without much conflict with DH.
Please let us know how this is resolved and then PICTURES of the finished room.
Please let us know how this is resolved and then PICTURES of the finished room.
#19
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Augusta, Maine
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I would tell him you are the one that will be in the room most of the time and you need it to fit your likes. Tell him your idea may not be practical at all to him but is the way you will feel most comfortable. If it is to be your room then you want it your room with his help to make it your room.
#20
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Clay Springs AZ
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Explain in detail why each part of your project needs to be a certain way. Like why the ironing board needs to be near the sewing machine and cutting table. How each color of fabric needs its own space. How rulers need to be easy to find. All the different threads and how to separate them.
Start telling him how to rearrange his garage to your specifications if that dosnt work.
Start telling him how to rearrange his garage to your specifications if that dosnt work.
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